In this episode, the ladies delve into the unsettling reality of friends behaving unexpectedly during the sexual assault court process. Join them as they share two personal scenarios where friends either disappeared, hired attorneys to evade subpoenas, or painted victims in a bad light while testifying. They even read a portion of a witnesses testimony and break it down in attempt to understand why people might act that way. You want and hope your friends will be there through thick and thin... but that's not always the case. Court, investigations, and sexual assault can make people act way out of the ordinary. Grab yourself your favorite bubbly beverage and give this episode a listen. Cheers!

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Shannon shares her story on how she was sexually assaulted. Hear her truth. Cheers!

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Shannon and her surprise guest "Code Monkey" talk about how to navigate relationships, sex, and traumaversaries after learning your partner has been sexually assaulted. They are answering the burning questions: How do I react after hearing this? Will I ever be able to use handcuffs during sex again? What does it mean to actually trust your partner? Dive into this intimate conversation about communicative sex, traumaversies, and of course some personal stories. Grab a beverage and your boo thang and give it a listen! Cheers! If you're impatient skip the intro:

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Lauren shares her story on how she was sexually assaulted. The ladies discuss how their perpetrator displayed immense manipulation skills, and was able to worm his way into their entire family who fell for his facade of a "true gentleman". Sharing your story isn't easy, but it can lead to healing and a sense of community. Here is Lauren's truth. Cheers!

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Whether it's New Year's Eve or any festive gathering, facing large crowds can trigger anxiety for many whether you've experienced trauma or not. Lauren and Shannon share personal experiences and practical tips on navigating social anxiety in bustling party settings. From the buddy system to quick exits, join the conversation on coping strategies and finding comfort in the chaos. Cheers!

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The amount of trauma you have been through is not a competition. It's not your fault if you are f**ed up, but it is your fault if you stay f**ed up. Lauren and Shannon cover a wide range of topics in this episode. From navigating the intricacies of expressing love in relationships to discussions on emotional withdrawal, they share advice on acting as a "unit" in relationships in order for them to be successful. The conversation takes a deeper turn into the sensitive realm of trauma, addressing the pitfalls of comparing experiences and the responsibility in healing. Grab your favorite snack and join the ladies for a candid conversation. Cheers!

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Lauren shares an overview of her law presentation where she dives into pieces of the book Missoula: Rape & the Justice System in a College Town by Jon Krakauer. They have conversations about false accusations, the civil rape shield law, the burden of proof, and some legislative changes we believe should be made. Shannon also shares how the defense's desire to attempt to expose her sexual history extended the court process even longer. This episode is less about personal experiences and more about our thoughts on current laws and statutes through the lens of the book Missoula. Cheers!

The book: https://a.co/d/hmOUwRi

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Lauren and Shannon know the holidays can be tough, so they are only here to help you feel a little bit lighter with this episode. Grab a drink with the ladies as they talk about the fun things of life: poop stories, Shannon's serial dating chronicles, Lauren's lack of cleanliness, some icks, and a whole lot more. Pour yourself something tasty to get you in the holiday happy spirit. CHEERS! (but on a real note if you are struggling during the holidays we love you and are sending positive vibes your way)

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Lauren & Shannon answer a question from a listener, "What are your thoughts on sharing your story on social media?" Many people feel compelled to share their story after being sexually assaulted, but what is the best way to go about it? The ladies walk you through several questions to ask yourself before sharing your story and how to try and keep you and the people around you safe when doing so. Most importantly, they talk about how to tell your story in the most authentic way to YOU. Stay hot, stay cool, and cheers!

Website mentioned: https://herstory.global/

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Victim or Survivor? On this episode, Lauren & Shannon talk about the complexities of what to call yourself after being sexually assaulted. Society can make you believe that one term is "better or worse" but the ladies are here to straighten out this complicated subject. Additionally, join Shannon on her truamaversary of being sexually assaulted, and Lauren forces her to read a journal excerpt (just kidding but not really). Cheers!

The article mentioned: https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a20138398/stop-using-survivor-to-describe-sexual-assault-victims/

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