The Secure Husband

When You Feel Retaliated Against After Couples Counseling


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Have you ever left a couples counseling session feeling punished for being honest? Maybe you opened up, shared something vulnerable, and instead of connection — you got silence, coldness, or distance. You start thinking, “Why did I even bother saying anything?”

You’re not crazy. You’re not weak. And you’re definitely not alone.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why vulnerability sometimes gets turned against you — and how to stay grounded, calm, and strong even when your wife reacts with withdrawal or anger after counseling. You’ll hear a real story from one of his coaching clients who faced this exact situation and used The Secure Husband Process to reclaim his peace and confidence.

You’ll learn:
✔️ Why your wife might feel threatened when you share truth in counseling
✔️ How to stop personalizing her reactions and stay anchored in self-worth
✔️ Why old wounds get triggered for both of you during therapy
✔️ How to meet the part of you that feels punished for having needs
✔️ Six practical steps to lead yourself with calm strength and clarity
✔️ How to express truth without collapsing or apologizing for your honesty

If counseling has left you feeling blamed, unheard, or emotionally punished, this episode will help you understand the deeper cycle — and show you how to rise above it without shutting down or losing your peace.

👉 Schedule a free 30-minute consultation at securehusband.com
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No sales pitch. No pressure. Just a real conversation about what’s happening in your marriage and how coaching might help you stop reacting from pain and start leading with calm confidence.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.


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