Who We Become

This episode is the story of my recent rollercoaster of a lesson.

I felt so much shame around being irresponsible and losing my driver's lesson, which triggered me to have a huge crying release that I had held for a couple weeks.

While I have been having so many wins and breakthroughs lately, I was also reminded that life will life throw punches that I must roll with. Once I did, I had a realization of:

WHEN WE WANT OR DESIRE MORE THERE WILL BE MORE EXPECTED OF US.

⚡️This is what the Universe, God, Spirit were all trying to tell me: "hey, you're on your way so GET READY. Increase your capacity to hold more because you are becoming more."⚡️

Have you had an experience where you needed to become more in order to receive more? I would love to hear about it!

Thank you so much for listening!

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There is so much talk around having discernment for other people and their intentions or their energy. But what about our own? What about being discerning of when we are doing too much or being too hard on ourselves?

I am calling myself out on what one of my principles in this episode! "Lean Into Discomfort": Am I here to encourage you to do so? Absolutely! But it should never come at the cost of our joy or peace.

We can live our lives AND apply whatever we have learned in our experiences WHEN life gives us that opportunity. But we don't have to constantly seek discomfort or self improvement.

This episode is about taking you on my personal journeys of knowing the difference between being outside of the comfort zone and suffering.

BECAUSE WHEN WILL YOU ENJOY YOUR LIFE??

Give yourself permission to LIVE and not be in a constant state of DOING. It is okay to choose BEING.

Thank you so much for listening! What did you think about this episode?? I would love to know!

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I share how keeping it simple, keeping my routine and practices  intentional, leaving pressure in the past, and showing up imperfectly has paid off in ways I did not foresee at the beginning of this year. These last 5 weeks have been the proof I needed for my future self. What can you do you now so your future self has proof that you are showing up?

Highlights from this episode:

-Healing begins with facing painful truths

📚James Clear’s Atomic Habits is so underrated, if you haven’t read it I highly recommend it

-Being productive does not mean doing more

🎼 Song lyrics in Ordinary by Alex Warren: “If your time is running’ out, day after day, we’ll make the mundane our masterpiece”

-Consistency in simplicity can be rewarding

-The fun and growth resulting experiences I’ve had over the past 5 weeks from all my small but consistent efforts paying off 

📚The 7 Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra: the little book you should take everywhere with you

-The version of you now determines who you become in the future, good or bad

🙌🏽 I noticed I barely said “um” way less in this episode, WOO! 🤣

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for listening to this episode! 💜🩷💙

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Yes, I went there and "beat the dead horse" on people pleasing.

I believe that when it comes to women no longer people pleasing, being empowered, and living with boundaries, half the battle is using our voice. But it takes consistency for the "speaking up muscle" to grow.

I shared something on social media this week that over 1500 women resonated with and I knew it was because at some point between childhood and now, they have also either had their power taken from them or given it away.

So this episode is a reminder that you don't have to give your power away anymore. If you have, give yourself grace and hold space for whoever you were in that moment and know that it's okay. Moving forward, your power is yours. Validation from others is no longer necessary and it's okay to return to sender.

In this episode I share:

-the viral sentence that I posted on social media in September

-why speaking up consistently is an important practice that can make or break life impacting decisions

-how not speaking up seems harmless but comes with a price

-how I had a 20 minute conversation with a surgeon who expected me to be in and out of my appointment briefly

-what to pay attention to so you can identify where you may be people pleasing

-that it's okay to have boundaries with your own kids

If you listened to this episode, thank you!!! Let me know what you took from it and share it with another woman in your life.

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Earlier this month I had one of my favorite experiences of my life: attending a TEDx event! If you follow me on social media or have met me in person, you know that I value memories over things. This is forever one of my favorite memories.

TEDx St. Pete Women was organized by Montrella Cowan, a TEDx Speaker herself (Why We Need To Talk About Grief At Work), and was hosted at the Museum of Fine Arts in St. Pete, FL. The theme was The Golden Age of Greatness: Health, Wealth, and Happiness (https://tedxstpetewomen.com/)

More About Montrella Cowan: https://montrellacowan.com/

Not only did I get to meet each speaker but I was able to see how so many people come together to not only support the speakers who said yes to themselves, but I got to see close up how many moving parts come together to give us the quality talks we get to watch on our screens at home. If you didn't know the difference between a TED Talk and a TEDx Talk, the difference is that a TEDx event is independently organized. Qualified TEDx organizers are able to put their own TEDx event together and I truly believe that Montrella knocked it out of the park with TEDx St. Pete Women!

TEDx St. Pete Women Speakers:

Sandra Bean - https://sandybean.com/

Myeshia Jefferson - https://www.myeshiaj.com/

Sister Nayyirah Muhammad - https://www.repairoftheblackfamily.com/

Tonya Stout - https://conquerpreneur.com/

Angela Vassallo - https://www.angelavassallo.com/

Forbes Riley - https://forbesriley.com/

Makenna Riley - https://www.thegsdsoftware.com/

Press play to hear more about the speakers themselves, how I felt and what I thought as I was listening to them put their message out into the world.

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If you've ever had a season that you did not think would end, this episode is for you. ❤️

This year I felt like I was drowning due to my health taking a plummet and I had to relearn how to use my voice, listen to my body and lean into discomfort more than I ever have. After months of darkness I finally began to see and feel the light again, but none of it was possible without some of my favorite humans that supported my vulnerability and held space, which has resulted in my empowerment. It has felt like a coming home to a familiar embrace and the best part is I am a better mom and partner because of it all.

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The B word is so common now and I think it’s become way too much of an excuse to dodge the responsibility we owe ourselves and each other to communicate our needs, values, and standards. 

In this episode I speak about: 

-boundaries being used for improving connections and not severing them

-preventing resentment

-the discomfort that comes with the territory of boundary setting 

-how boundaries don’t mean that we don’t care, in fact, the opposite: a way to show each other that we care but don’t want but too much give or take

Thank you so much for listening! I would love to hear your thoughts and your experiences with boundaries, email me about it! [email protected]

Third time's a charm!

I am officially making my comeback into podcasting. Thank you to those of you who have listened before, hit the follow button, or shared an episode and welcome if you are new here!

It's been an interesting and wild ride, but I'm grateful to be speaking to you about all things becoming who we were, are, and going to be.

P.S. It may look different around here because I gave the design and branding a refresh! I absolutely love it and it felt right as I have outgrown who I was last year. Let me know what you think!

In my first guest episode, I had the opportunity to speak with author and entrepreneur, Charles Morgan. We talked about ego, self confidence, trading external validation for internal growth, and redefining success. Charles shared who he’s become through his own experiences in life, yoga, business, and the writing of his book, DONTPUNKOUT. He also taught himself how to produce music and has collaborated with Snoop Dogg and Rizz for the official soundtrack of the book. 

Follow DONTPUNKOUT on Instagram: https://instagram.com/dontpunkout/

Check out the book here: https://dontpunkoutbook.com/

Preview the official book soundtrack: https://soundcloud.com/thisoceanfox/sets/dont-punk-out-official-book-soundtrack

Learn about the BAEWA Foundation: https://baewa.org/

Contact Charles Morgan: [email protected]

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Time Stamps: 

0:00 Intro

0:55 Charles guides me through a short breathing session

6:45 Emotional Regulation and Discovering Breathing Practices

9:07 Breaking Down the Ego

12:30 Accelerated Learning Through Breathwork

14:39 Building Self Trust and Confidence

17:06 Power of Humor and Not Taking Ourselves Too Serious 

23:08 Do we even need psychedelics to expand our consciousness?

25:59 Navigating Anxiety and Finding Peace in Solitude

39:52 Who Charles Has Become 

1hr:07 Letting Go of External Validation for Internal Growth

The truth is that sooner or later, someone will come along to test you. Whether it's a test of your character, your love and kindness, or progress of becoming better.

When things aren't adding up, I share my process for you to go into conversations less reactive and more grounded, because your kindness shouldn't be mistaken for weakness but when it is...

What if it was possible to filter through everything going through your mind and body BEFORE going into a conversation guns blazing? We could have way better outcomes and even if we don't walk away with a win, we CAN move forward, knowing in our heart of hearts that we tried and we kept it real on our end to the best of our ability.

But if we're able to recognize when someone doesn't value who we are, we are also able to accept that they also had a choice in how they treated us and from there, it's a matter of creating distance or even sticking around anymore. And honestly, it's not even about them, it's about being accountable for our part in the relationship and allowing them to be who they are.

When someone does you wrong, who do you become? I invite you to learn and grow from it, even if it's already in the past.

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