After my conversation with Sasha Pallari about breakups that don’t make sense on paper, I found myself sitting with something deeper…

What happens when you’re with someone who is objectively incredible
Kind. Stable. Supportive. And yet something still feels missing?

We talk a lot about red flags. But nobody prepares you for the green flag breakup.

In this solo reflection, I open up about:

• Staying in “almost right” relationships• Cognitive dissonance and emotional self-gaslighting• The sunk cost fallacy in love• My own breakup at 32 that completely shook my identity• Why leaving a good person doesn’t make you the villain

If you’ve ever felt ungrateful for being unhappy…If you’ve ever tried to logic your way into love…If you’ve ever stayed because it looked good on paper…

This episode is for you.

This is about emotional filters.This is about trusting your gut.This is about choosing truth over convenience.

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If someone sees you.Understands you.Holds you.Chooses you.

That’s enough… right?

But what happens when the person who makes you feel the most seen you’ve ever felt… is also battling addiction?

In this clip from Why Do I (Season 2), Sasha Pallari opens up about loving someone who could show up for her… but couldn’t show up for himself.

We talk about:

- Fire and ice love.
- The heartbreak of asking, “Why didn’t he fight for me?”
- Realising you can’t save someone from themselves.
- And the painful truth that sometimes love isn’t enough.

If you’ve ever loved someone through addiction…
If you’ve ever tried to help someone heal…
If you’ve ever had to walk away from someone you still love…

This one’s for you.

🎙️ Watch the full episode with Sasha Pallari on the channel now.

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We grow up thinking love is supposed to feel a certain way...

Butterflies.

Intensity.

Stability.

Someone choosing you.

But what happens when you’ve had the wedding… The divorce… The once-in-a-lifetime love… And you’re still asking, what do I actually want?

In the first episode of Why Do I (Season 2), I’m joined by Sasha Pallari!!

Sasha opens up about her marriage, her divorce and the complicated truth that sometimes love isn’t enough.

If you’ve ever walked away from something that looked perfect on paper…

If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re asking for too much…

If you’ve ever loved someone deeply but known it wasn’t right…

This one’s for you.

Season 2 starts here!!

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#WhyDoI #Relationships #Breakups

‘Why Do I…?’ is a podcast about the patterns we keep falling into in our relationships.

The ones we do not always talk about.
The ones we sometimes do not even notice.

It explores where those behaviours come from, what they might be protecting, and what we could be avoiding when things start to feel uncomfortable.

Each episode is a chance to sit with someone as they unpack the patterns they have recognised in themselves, and the ones they are still figuring out.

There are no neat answers.
No perfect endings.
Just conversations and those quiet moments of recognition where you think, maybe that is me.

🎙️ New long-form episodes every fortnight
🧩 Short reflection episodes in between

If you have ever caught yourself wondering why you show up the way you do in relationships, this is the show for you.

Enjoy Season 2!

#WhyDoI #RelationshipPatterns #SelfAwareness

In our final short-form episode of Season 1, we reflect on a powerful conversation with LaLaLaLetMeExplain about why men blame women.

This episode hit hard - from defensiveness and traditional gender roles to subtle misogyny and emotional growth, we dove into the uncomfortable truths that many men (myself included) are still unlearning.

The reflection episode is a reminder that blame keeps us stuck - but reflection can set us free.

Lastly - I hope you all loved Season 1 as much as we did. Thank you so much for all the support, it truly means the world. Stay tuned, because Season 2 is going to be even bigger!

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In this powerful clip from the full episode with lalalaletmeexplain, we dive into the complex dynamics of sex on the first date.

From male validation and ego to the hidden power plays behind "the chase."

🎧 Catch the full episode now for the unfiltered conversation

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In this episode of Why Do Men, we're joined again by LaLaLaLetMeExplain to talk about why some men blame women for their pain, dating struggles, or dissatisfaction with life.

We discuss how these attitudes show up in modern dating, the impact of misogyny, and how ideas around masculinity and feminism are often misunderstood.

We also look at the role of emotional intelligence in relationships and what needs to change for things to move forward.

As always, enjoy the episode and let us know your thoughts on this topic below :)

Chapter Timestamps

(00:00) - Exploring Men's Blame on Women

(12:50) - Navigating Traditional Gender Roles in Relationships

(20:52) - Unraveling Misogyny in Dating Culture

(29:53) - Rising Right-Wing Misogyny in Relationships

(36:24) - Navigating Gender Dynamics in Relationships

(40:27) - Challenging Gender Dynamics in Relationships

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#WhyDoMen #ModernDating #Dating #lalalaletmeexplain

In this solo episode, I reflect on my conversation with Lucy Rout from Haystack Dating and unpack one of the biggest questions in modern dating: why aren't men approaching women anymore?

From fear of rejection to changing gender dynamics and social media pressure, I share personal stories, real stats, and honest advice on how we can all create more meaningful connections - whether you're making the first move or waiting for one.

If you enjoyed this solo episode, a like and subscribe goes a long way - it helps more than you know :)

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In this 5 minute clip - We tackle one of the most frustrating contradictions in modern dating: men say they want to meet someone “organically” but rarely make a move.

From fear of rejection and blurred social cues to the pressure of busy lives and shifting dating norms, we unpack what’s really holding people back - and why both men and women might need to take the first step.

If you enjoyed this clip - make sure to check out the full episode with Lucy :)

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⁠https://www.haystack-dating.com/⁠

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#WhyDoMen #ModernDating #HaystackDating #DatingApps #Rejection #Ghosting #Masculinity #datingpodcast #lucyrout

Why don’t men approach women anymore? Are dating apps ruining real connection? 👀

In this Episode of Why Do Men, we dive deep with Haystack Dating founder Lucy Rout to unpack fear of rejection, ghosting, gender roles, and the chaos of modern dating in 2025.

From dating app burnout to IRL nerves - we’re asking the big questions about love, confidence and connection!

https://www.instagram.com/lucyrout/?hl=en

https://www.haystack-dating.com/

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