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Why Do I…? episodes

April 25, 2025 Why Do Men Fear Commitment? - David Chambers #6
So Why Do Men Fear Commitment?
In this episode of Why Do Men, we explore why many men fear commitment, with special guest David Chambers, a male relationship and intimacy coach.
We unpack the roots of avoidance, societal pressures, childhood dynamics, and the impact of modern dating.
It's a powerful, vulnerable, and enlightening conversation for both men and women navigating relationships today.

Chapters:
(00:03) Male Fear of Commitment Unpacked
(09:49) Men's Fear of Commitment and Bullying
(16:02) Navigating Relationships With Boundaries
(19:02) Setting Healthy Relationship Boundaries
(24:16) Navigating Fear of Commitment in Relationships
(32:50) Avoidant Men and Fear of Commitment
(35:54) Navigating Men's Fear of Commitment
(46:55) Exploring Fear of Commitment and Growth
(54:40) Overcoming Fear Through Growth

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56 min
April 18, 2025 Facing the Fear of Rejection! Toms Tips #5
Why Rejection Hurts (Especially for Men)
In this reflection episode, we break down why rejection cuts deep - from childhood wounds to ghosting - and how men often deal with it in silence.
With some of the best insights from my episode with the lovely Anna Mathur.
Make sure to go check out the full episode with Anna if this resonated with you!

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12 min
April 15, 2025 Building Confidence and Overcoming Rejection - Best Moment #5
Dating, Stress & the Power of Being Misunderstood
Dating can be an emotional rollercoaster - but what if the key to navigating it is regulating everything else first?
In this clip, we explore how managing your baseline stress, building a strong support network, and gently leaning into discomfort can transform the way you respond to dating challenges.
Plus, a powerful reminder: being misunderstood doesn’t mean you’ve lost your power.
If you enjoyed this moment, make sure to check out the full video.

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4 min
April 11, 2025 Why Do Men Struggle With Rejection? Anna Mathur #5
Why Do Men Fear Rejection? | With Psychotherapist Anna Mathur
This week on Why Do Men, we’re diving into one of the most common but least talked about experiences in male behaviour: rejection. Whether it’s in dating, relationships, or friendships, rejection hits hard - and men often don’t talk about it.
To unpack this, I'm joined by Anna, who specialises in emotional intelligence and human connection.
We explore how men process rejection, how childhood and self-worth come into play, and why so many guys are afraid to put themselves out there.
If you do enjoy this episode please leave a rating & subscribe - it helps more than you know :)
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Chapter Timestamps
(00:00) - Exploring Male Behavior in Relationships
(04:56) - Understanding Male Rejection and Vulnerability
(18:01) - Navigating Rejection and Vulnerability
(26:48) - Vulnerability in Relationships
(33:36) - Overcoming Fear of Rejection in Relationships
(43:35) - Navigating Misunderstanding and Authenticity
(51:21) - Authenticity in Dating and Relationships
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56 min
April 04, 2025 Exploring Jealousy in Gender Dynamics & Recognising Emotional Abuse - Tom's Tips #4
In this reflection episode, I unpack my powerful conversation with psychologist Dr. Mark Rackley on jealousy and emotional abuse.
From the roots of jealousy in childhood and gender dynamics to how it can spiral into insecurity or even coercive control!
Learn how to spot red flags, build emotional awareness, and strengthen your relationships through honest communication and boundaries.
👉 Listen to the full episode now to explore these insights in depth and hear Dr. Mark’s expert advice firsthand.

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11 min
April 01, 2025 Can Perfectionism Ruin Romantic Relationships? Best Moment #4
Dr. Mark Rackley, an expert in male mental health and emotional intelligence.
In this clip we discuss how perfectionism can ruin relationships!
If you do enjoy this clip, check out the full episode underneath this & please leave a rating for the show - it helps more than you know :)

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2 min
March 28, 2025 Why Do Men Get Jealous? - Dr Mark Rackley #4
Dr. Mark Rackley, an expert in male mental health and emotional intelligence.
In this episode we discuss jealousy, We unpack its roots in childhood experiences and attachment styles, examining how these early influences shape our adult relationships and emotional responses.
We also tackle the challenges of jealousy within the context of toxic masculinity and the "alpha male" mindset.
If you do enjoy this episode please leave a rating & subscribe - it helps more than you know :)
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Chapters:
(00:00) - Exploring Jealousy in Male Relationships
(08:11) - Navigating and Overcoming Jealousy Triggers
(18:27) - Exploring Jealousy and Relationships
(26:42) - Navigating Jealousy and Setting Boundaries
(34:51) - Negative Emotions Associated With Jealousy
(38:56) - Jealousy and Coercive Control Recognition
(43:59) - Recognising Codependency in Relationships
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47 min
March 21, 2025 The Emotional and Psychological Maze of Cheating - Tom's Tips #3
What drives men to cheat, and is it ever more than just the thrill of the forbidden?
Our insightful discussion with Claira Hermet unravels the intricate dynamics of male infidelity, challenging the simplistic notion of labelling such men as 'bad guys.'
This episode encourages a profound exploration of personal responsibility, urging those tempted by infidelity to reflect on their unmet needs and address them within the bounds of trust.
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12 min
March 18, 2025 The Art of Communication in Relationships! Best Moment #3
The Art of Communication in Relationships
Whats everyones view on this? For us this is healthy, but we would love to hear your thoughts below on whether you agree :)

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2 min
March 14, 2025 Why Do Men Cheat? - Claira Hermet #3
Why Do Men Cheat? Joining me for this conversation today is Claira Hermet!
Claira Hermet, a self-love and confidence coach, joins us to explore infidelity - both physical and emotional - and how personal experiences and modern dating shape our views.
We look at the root causes of betrayal, from unmet emotional needs and childhood trauma to the pursuit of validation, and how self-worth and communication impact our relationships.
Claira shares insights on trust, forgiveness, and healing, offering a compassionate look at moving forward after betrayal.
Let us know your thoughts on the episode below & make sure to let us know who you want to see next on the podcast :)

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📚 My Top 10 Books On Dating & Relationships → https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/stroudtom

--------- EPISODE CHAPTERS ---------
(0:00:00) - Exploring Male Behaviour in Relationships
(0:12:13) - Understanding Male Infidelity Patterns
(0:16:18) - Navigating Relationship Dynamics and Self-Worth
(0:19:27) - Seeking Communication and Support in Relationships
(0:23:39) - Evolution of Relationship Expectations
(0:28:04) - The Impact of Gender Roles
(0:37:51) - Navigating Infidelity and Rebuilding Self-Worth
(0:45:13) - Can you forgive Cheating?
(0:47:55) - The Reality of Cheating

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49 min