Although we talk about joint design a lot, we haven't managed to do an episode on it. As we get to chapter 4 in our tour through Agile Conversations, it's time to rectify that! We focus on a common error that we didn't cover in depth in the book: how trying to "convince" someone through advocacy fails. Using the Four Rs, we roleplay an ineffective advocacy-heavy conversation about tech team execution, and then revise it to increase curiosity, reduce defensiveness and achieve greater internal commitment.

SHOW LINKS:

- Getting to Yes: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Getting_to_Yes

- David Burns on (not) trying to help: https://feelinggood.com/2019/10/28/164-how-to-help-and-how-not-to-help/

- Previous episodes and blog posts on joint design:

- https://soundcloud.com/troubleshootingagile/mutual-learning-model-part-one

- https://soundcloud.com/troubleshootingagile/how-to-fail-by-acting-unilaterally-part-i

- https://soundcloud.com/troubleshootingagile/how-to-fail-by-acting-unilaterally-part-ii

- https://soundcloud.com/troubleshootingagile/how-to-fail-by-acting-unilaterally-part-iii

- https://soundcloud.com/troubleshootingagile/how-to-fail-by-acting-unilaterally-part-iv

- https://soundcloud.com/troubleshootingagile/how-to-fail-by-acting-unilaterally-part-v

Episode transcript: https://www.conversationaltransformation.com/posts/why-finding-the-balance-for-joining/

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