Send Me Questions on Attachment

What if the fastest path to transformation is slowing down for connection? We sit with attachment-focused therapist Carley Marcouillier to explore how Christian growth and lasting psychological change flow from safety, presence, and honest relationship—first with God, then with ourselves, and finally with others. Instead of chasing quick fixes, Carley invites a new agenda: let connection lead and let change follow.

We unpack the core moves of attachment and IFS: viewing symptoms as messengers, not enemies; trading pressure for inspiration by noticing everyday “glimmers” that expand our capacity; and practicing pacing so the nervous system can settle and receive care. Carley offers a practical, faith-rooted lens for balancing community and solitude, using the question when rather than what to discern wise action. We talk about the challenge of naming needs—especially when past experiences, church messages, or cultural scripts labeled needs as weakness—and how emotions point us toward boundaries, comfort, and support.

From there, we get concrete about building the community you actually need: cultivating voice, choice, and autonomy; starting small with safe-enough risks; and creating spaces like walking groups, book circles, and intentional text threads. We also reframe Jesus’s “light burden” as both lighter weight and illuminating presence, emphasizing that we’re not meant to carry alone. Suffering in isolation wounds, but suffering with heals—through empathic witnesses, faithful friends, and the nearness of God.

If you’re tired of white-knuckling change and ready for a gentler, deeper way forward, this conversation will help you find clarity, reclaim your needs, and take your next safe-enough step. Subscribe, share with someone who needs encouragement, and leave a review to support the show.

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I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him. Meditating on Scripture, Being committed to prayer, and Seeking Christian community are all essential to helping us learn more of who He is and who He made us to be.

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I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.