Let’s just get straight to it: You’re exhausted. You’re doing everything—raising the kids, running the business, holding the emotional weight of your marriage—and still being told you need to “lighten up.” You’re tired of compromising yourself and your dreams just to protect your husband’s ego. You’re wondering, “When the hell is he going to step up?” If that’s you, you’re not alone. And this episode with Dr. Ray Doktor is one of those conversations that doesn’t just call things out—it calls you in. Dr. Ray is a clinical psychologist and relationship coach with over 28 years of experience. He’s also not afraid to go there—to name the real reasons intimacy is dying in relationships and what’s really keeping high-achieving women stuck in a cycle of resentment, control, and burnout. So let’s break it down in this episode.

Let’s just get straight to it: You’re exhausted. You’re doing everything—raising the kids, running the business, holding the emotional weight of your marriage—and still being told you need to “lighten up.” You’re tired of compromising yourself and your dreams just to protect your husband’s ego. You’re wondering, “When the hell is he going to step up?” If that’s you, you’re not alone. And this episode with Dr. Ray Doktor is one of those conversations that doesn’t just call things out—it calls you in. Dr. Ray is a clinical psychologist and relationship coach with over 28 years of experience. He’s also not afraid to go there—to name the real reasons intimacy is dying in relationships and what’s really keeping high-achieving women stuck in a cycle of resentment, control, and burnout. So let’s break it down in this episode.

Why He Won’t Step Up—And What You Can Do About It with Ray Doktor | EU 269

You’re exhausted.
Not just physically. Emotionally. You’re running a household, keeping up with your career, holding the family calendar together, and still somehow managing the grocery list. You’re the default parent, the peacekeeper, the one who never stops, even when you should be resting. And somewhere in between the laundry and the late-night emails, you’ve lost the version of yourself that wasn’t running on fumes.

I’m Veronica Cisneros, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, wife, and mom of three. I know what it’s like to feel disconnected from your spouse, stuck in silent power struggles over household chores, and torn between excelling in your career and actually enjoying your family. I’ve been the people-pleaser, the overachiever, the one trying to “hold it all together” while anxiety worked overtime behind the scenes.

On Empowered and Unapologetic, we’re ditching the guilt and having the conversations no one’s having at the PTA meeting. Here, you’ll get real talk and therapist-backed strategies on:

• Navigating marriage when it feels more like a business partnership than a relationship.
• Breaking the cycle of over-functioning and learning to rest without guilt.
• Sharing the mental and physical load at home—without another chore chart that no one uses.
• Shutting down power-pleasing patterns that leave you drained and resentful.
• Managing the anxiety that comes from constantly being “on.”

If you’re tired of looking like you have it all together while feeling like you’re falling apart, you’re in the right place. This is your space to breathe, laugh, and rebuild connection, without having to compromise yourself in the process.

Let’s do this together.

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You’re exhausted. Not just physically. Emotionally. You’re running a household, keeping up with your career, holding the family calendar together, and still somehow managing the grocery list. You’re the default parent, the peacekeeper, the one who never stops, even when you should be resting. And somewhere in between the laundry and the late-night emails, you’ve lost the version of yourself that wasn’t running on fumes. I’m Veronica Cisneros, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, wife, and mom of three. I know what it’s like to feel disconnected from your spouse, stuck in silent power struggles over household chores, and torn between excelling in your career and actually enjoying your family. I’ve been the people-pleaser, the overachiever, the one trying to “hold it all together” while anxiety worked overtime behind the scenes. On Empowered and Unapologetic, we’re ditching the guilt and having the conversations no one’s having at the PTA meeting. Here, you’ll get real talk and therapist-backed strategies on: • Navigating marriage when it feels more like a business partnership than a relationship. • Breaking the cycle of over-functioning and learning to rest without guilt. • Sharing the mental and physical load at home—without another chore chart that no one uses. • Shutting down power-pleasing patterns that leave you drained and resentful. • Managing the anxiety that comes from constantly being “on.” If you’re tired of looking like you have it all together while feeling like you’re falling apart, you’re in the right place. This is your space to breathe, laugh, and rebuild connection, without having to compromise yourself in the process. Let’s do this together.

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