Many guys think that a woman taking care of a man is a turn off to her, and think "The only thing I really want from her is sex, so that will be my only ask." In fact, this makes her feel unloved, devalued, and like a sex worker. Here's how to change the frame and open yourself up to the scary feeling of interdependence, which is particularly hard for workhorse men!

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Another rollicking good time and intriguing discussion with my spirit animal from across the pond: the inimitable Laura How! We discuss marriage, gender, how having a child shapes your ability to love, growing up in dysfunctional families, whether I will ever see her husband Russ on an episode, sons vs daughters, relationship skills vs innate compatibility, and so much more!! Leave a comment if you like our idea of recurring collaborations or even a group! And check out our upcoming YouTube and Facebook live:

https://www.facebook.com/share/1Ac7Y8X3mV/ Fri Dec 12 at 11a ET

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Dr. Amanda Akers, one of our awesome Best Life clinicians, has a free flowing and often funny discussion with me about the ins and outs of psychoanalytic therapy. We cover myths vs reality, why both of us take a deeper perspective than CBT, our own thoughts about the impact of childhood in adulthood, and I ask her the most common questions I get from clients about this approach, like... how long does it take? Why does childhood matter in adulthood? And why does the therapist client relationship matter so much? Also covered: the idea of a "couple's world," and how therapy cannot create one but only return you to one if it existed! Book with Dr. Akers here:

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Books we discuss:

How To Love Your Daughter: https://amzn.to/3JpMBBc

Psychoanalytic Therapy by Nancy McWilliams: https://amzn.to/47BgHK2

Love's Executioner by Irvin Yalom: https://amzn.to/4hCVnsd

In this episode, I have an awesome special guest: Tehilla Luttig, LMHC! Tehilla is a licensed therapist in South Africa who sees therapy clients internationally and coaching clients in the U.S. and Canada for Best Life Behavioral Health. We discuss infidelity, attachment styles, and much more! Learn about who cheats and why, what people think about infidelity vs reality, and how to recover and move forward.

Learn about Tehilla and book with her here. She works with individuals and couples and even does intensives! https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/tehilla-luttig

Many guys have no idea how women internalize the idea that if you tell a man anything about his penis that isn't positive, you will destroy his self-esteem and his penis will never work again and IT WILL BE ALL HER FAULT! Today's episode discusses the origin of this idea, how it sabotages open communication and connection, and how to get over this myth and move forward (unless you tend to take everything personally, which will also be addressed)!

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Got a comment on Facebook on a post about how a common mistake people make in their 40s is not allotting enough time to foreplay. This guy said: "It's not people, it's women who need the foreplay. Let's keep things accurate if we are going to educate." I always do aim to educate and give accurate info, so here's a deeper dive into what I see in practice in terms of men and foreplay!

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The death of your parent(s) is a significant life event, and can lead to tremendous change in your self-concept. No matter how old you are, this makes you recognize that you are truly older, and the top generation. This was one topic we discussed this past week in the midlife women's group, and it resonated with many, whether or not you're close to your parent. And join the Midlife Women's group here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drpsychmom.com/mwg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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In this episode, I'm joined by Alyx Coble-Frakes, the CEO and founder of The Agenda., an awesome app that helps women understand and optimize their lives around their menstrual cycles and hormonal health. We are both in our luteal phases recording this lol. And we are both divorced and remarried/she is engaged. So much in common. Including that she lives next to my favorite state of Nebraska! A really fun discussion and I have a new friend :)

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What a special treat! Today we have an interview with the ultimate otrovert Dr. K, who wrote the book The Gift Of Not Belonging (https://amzn.to/4nv3OqT)! He and I are both otroverts and we discuss how that manifests in love, family, career, and more. Highlights include:

- Otroverts are trendspotters

- Midlife crisis and why it happens

- Do otroverts do better married to other otroverts? (Spoiler: he and I are both married to other otroverts)

- Academia and modern medicine and their limitations according to otroverts

And so much more! This interview was the best!

If you wonder if you're an otrovert test, read this and take the quiz at the bottom: https://www.othernessinstitute.com/in-other-words/a-deeper-dive-into-otrovert-traits/

There is a lot of popular media discourse about the challenges of eldest daughters, but I haven't seen anything about eldest sons. I have many of these high achieving, responsible men in my practice, and they have a unique set of struggles. Listen to understand yourself or your partner better!

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I've started making podcast PLAYLISTS! all about individual topics. Follow Dr. Psych Mom on Spotify for all of them. Here's one: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dr. Psych Mom on Sex and Aging⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

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