The death of your parent(s) is a significant life event, and can lead to tremendous change in your self-concept. No matter how old you are, this makes you recognize that you are truly older, and the top generation. This was one topic we discussed this past week in the midlife women's group, and it resonated with many, whether or not you're close to your parent. And join the Midlife Women's group here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠drpsychmom.com/mwg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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In this episode, I'm joined by Alyx Coble-Frakes, the CEO and founder of The Agenda., an awesome app that helps women understand and optimize their lives around their menstrual cycles and hormonal health. We are both in our luteal phases recording this lol. And we are both divorced and remarried/she is engaged. So much in common. Including that she lives next to my favorite state of Nebraska! A really fun discussion and I have a new friend :)

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What a special treat! Today we have an interview with the ultimate otrovert Dr. K, who wrote the book The Gift Of Not Belonging (https://amzn.to/4nv3OqT)! He and I are both otroverts and we discuss how that manifests in love, family, career, and more. Highlights include:

- Otroverts are trendspotters

- Midlife crisis and why it happens

- Do otroverts do better married to other otroverts? (Spoiler: he and I are both married to other otroverts)

- Academia and modern medicine and their limitations according to otroverts

And so much more! This interview was the best!

If you wonder if you're an otrovert test, read this and take the quiz at the bottom: https://www.othernessinstitute.com/in-other-words/a-deeper-dive-into-otrovert-traits/

There is a lot of popular media discourse about the challenges of eldest daughters, but I haven't seen anything about eldest sons. I have many of these high achieving, responsible men in my practice, and they have a unique set of struggles. Listen to understand yourself or your partner better!

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All about otroverts! I can't wait to interview the creator of this idea in a few days, Dr. Rami Kaminski. For now you will have to settle for my discussion of this new term, coined only in June 2025!

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Today's episode features a special guest: Jackie Aston, LCSW-C, who provides therapy to individuals and couples in D.C. and Maryland. We discuss the fascinating link between porn use in men and eating disordered behaviors in their partners. What is the commonality between these behaviors and why would they manifest in similar types of individuals? Really interesting discussion with Jackie Aston, and definitely something most of us have not considered!

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People who were raised in authoritarian homes often feel compelled to assert their individuality across multiple domains: hobbies, preferred music/TV/movies, food, what they like in bed or in the romantic sphere, and anything else. They fear that if they try new things at others' behest, this means they aren't being true to themselves. But, this closemindedness stops them from being loving partners, parents, and even friends. How can you balance your own preferences with the idea of flexibility and growth?

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Suzanna Mathews is an awesome relationship and dating coach at Best Life Behavioral Health, and she was a fantastic guest on the podcast. In this episode, we talk about tantra, what it is and isn't, how it can transform your intimate connection emotionally and sexually, and a few very concrete ways to start incorporating it into the bedroom!

Learn about Suzanna and schedule an individual or couples session with her here: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/suzanna-mathews

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Laura How is an awesome couples counselor and coach based in the UK. She runs an excellent YouTube channel and podcast, and I was so excited to have her on the show to talk about sex, marriage, relationships, and life! We are on the same page with so many topics, and part two will be coming since we couldn't get everything covered in one show!

More about Laura:

https://laurahow.com/

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCE_Fs1wPifrghIGdSzsbrKg

I read this somewhere and it makes a lot of sense and dovetails with a lot of the topics I discuss. Specifically, have you been thinking your marriage is the problem... but you are underestimating the impact of hormones, biology, and evolution on your "restlessness"? Listen and see if you have an aha moment yourself.

Midlife Women's group: drpsychmom.com/mwg

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