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The great philosopher Ludacris once asked, “What’s your fantasy?” Our panel discusses how to make your fantasies reality—or not. Therapist Carrie Jameson shares details about how to find a therapist who’s cool with kink. And Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound about getting erotically comfortable with yourself.

• Panel discussion: “How do I live my fantasy?” with Mx. Maya, education coordinator at kinky summer camp Twisted Tryst; Caitlin V. Neal, sex and relationship coach; and Brandon Hunter-Haydon, sex-positive psychotherapist. Recorded live in November 2018.
• Karen interviews therapist Carrie Jameson, about the development of kink practice guidelines for therapists and why that’s important for people wanting a sex-positive therapist. 
• Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on erotic pottery from the ancient world, and what it can tell us about the crucial work of getting comfortable with yourself, whatever your sexual preferences. Recorded live in December 2019.

Links:

• Caitlin V Neal
• Twisted Tryst
• Yes No Maybe List
• Kink Clinical Practice Guidelines Project
• Kink And Poly Aware Professionals Directory
• Moche erotic pottery

Books mentioned in this episode:

• The Conscious Sexual Self Workbook 
• Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities

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What is sex? Nudity? Bodies? Orgasms? Maybe that’s just the tip of the... something. Our panel discusses. Logan Pierce returns to talk about gender pronouns and deadnaming. Deb R. Lewis shares a fantastical fisting story. And Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound about getting out of a sexual straitjacket.

• Panel discussion with writer Jera Brown of Rebellious Magazine, sex coach Caitlin V Neal, and kinkster Mksthingshappin on “What is sex?”, defining it for ourselves, and reflecting on what we want out of sexual interactions. Recorded at our very first live show, in October 2018.
• Storyteller, educator, and Wild & Sublime’s favorite leatherdyke Deb R. Lewis shares a tale of fisting fantasia. (Be prepared to swoon.) Recorded live at our first anniversary show, October 2019.
• What’s Up with That?: We chat about terms in the sex and gender realm that may need more discussion. Sexuality & gender educator Logan Pierce speaks with Karen about gender pronouns, getting comfortable with language that’s new to us, and asking others to use the words that fit us best.
• Sermon on the Pubic Mound: Karen talks about busting out of “sexual straitjackets” and assumptions about what we have to be doing when we have sex.

Links:

• “Going Off Script” by Jera Brown
• Caitlin V
• Deb R. Lewis
• October 2018 live show
• October 2019 live show 
• Minus 18: Champions for LGBTQIA+ Youth 
• TransMentor Program at Lurie Children’s Hospital
• Menopause: A Convo (hosted by Rebellious Magazine, 9/29) 

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How much sex education did you get in school? Was it (how can we say this politely) at all useful? Sex educator and writer Heather Corinna talks about founding the popular website Scarleteen and their books on sex and relationships for pre-teens, teens and young adults. Storyteller Archy Arch J tells a tale of high school sexual experimentation with (gasp!) his girlfriend. And Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound about making more room for pleasure in everyday life.

• Karen interviews Heather Corinna, author and founder of Scarleteen, the online resource for inclusive, comprehensive, supportive info on sexuality and relationships for teens and young adults. Recorded live at our March 2019 show. Plus Q&A on sex-positive parenting from the live audience, answered by Heather and kinkster Mksthingshappin
• Storyteller Archy Arch J, recorded live in December 2019, tells a story of his first sexual encounter with his high school girlfriend, and how it helped him realize he was 100% gay
• Sermon on the Pubic Mound: Karen talks about interrupting the tendency to overwork and learning to find pleasure in the everyday. Recorded live in March 2019

This is the third episode in a three-part series on sex ed, parenting, and getting free of the sex lies we heard as kids. Catch up on part one, Sex Lies, and part two, The Sex-Positive Parent. Let us know what you thought!

Links:

• Heather Corinna
• Scarleteen
• March 2019 live show
• Walt Disney’s The Story of Menstruation (1946)
• Virtual OUTSpoken LGBTQ Storytelling 

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How can we get better at talking to kids about sex? Karen chats with sexologist Jennifer Litner about her new online course for parents. Logan Pierce returns to discuss the term “nonbinary.” Audience member Jade shares their life experience of being polyamorous, gender nonconforming, and raising kids.

• Karen interviews sexologist Jennifer Litner about “Building Ease Talking About the Birds and the Bees,” a new e-course for parents and care-givers who want to create sex-positive home environments and want concrete advice on language and strategies
• Logan Pierce returns for another installment of “What’s Up with That?” to talk with Karen about the word “nonbinary” and gender-fluid identities
• “Putting It Out There”: Karen interviews real people leading sex-positive lives, starting with Jade, a gender nonconforming polyamorous person who is also a parent. Recorded live at our June 2019 season preview show at The Boxcar
• Karen pays tribute to Betty Dodson, pioneering writer about masturbation

This is the second episode in a three-part series on sex ed, parenting, and getting free of the sex lies we heard as kids. Catch up on part one, Sex Lies, and tune in next week for more!

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Jennifer Litner

Building Ease Talking About the Birds and the Bees

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TransMentor Program at Lurie Children’s Hospital

June 2019 live show

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What lies about sex did you learn as a kid? Are they still with you today? Panelists discuss the lingering impact of childhood sex myths and answer audience questions. Storyteller Jessy Lauren Smith shares a tale of dating as a queer adult. 

• Panel discussion with relationship coach Tazima Parris, therapist Brandon Hunter-Haydon, kinkster Mksthingshappin, and host Karen Yates, recorded live at our March 2019 show
• Story from Jessy Lauren Smith on growing up religious and dating as a queer adult, recorded live in March 2019
• Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound about self-worth and taking up space in the world

This is the first episode in a three-part series on sex ed, parenting, and getting free of the sex lies we heard as kids. Tune in next week for more!

In this episode:
Tazima Parris
Brandon Hunter-Haydon
Heather Corinna
March 2019 live show
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Want to host your own gangbang? Storyteller Alan Colorado offers some helpful hints on what NOT to do. Karen interviews therapist Carrie Jameson on how to hear “no” from a partner. Logan Pierce returns for another installment of “What’s Up With That?” Plus, Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound.

• Karen interviews therapist Carrie Jameson on handling rejection and how to move forward in the conversation, from our Dec. 2019 live show
• Sex educator Logan Pierce returns to talk about the word “transgender” and its many inflections, and offers helpful steps for what to do after messing up someone’s pronouns
• Alan Colorado shares a story about arranging a gangbang for a former girlfriend, recorded live at our Nov. 2019 show
• Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on relaxation in our bodies

In this episode:

• Carrie Jameson
• Alan Colorado
• TransMentor Program at Lurie Children’s Hospital
• What's Up With That?: Cisgender
• Article: Expanding Your Sexual Horizons
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Wouldn't it be amazing to get what you REALLY want? Even if it’s outside your relationship comfort zone? Sex coach Caitlin V Neal, educator Ren Grabert, kinkster Mksthingshappin and host Karen Yates discuss and role-play how to ask for what you want with a partner. Plus a sexy song from comedian-musician Matt Griffo, and Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound.

• Panelists discuss and role-play how to ask for new sexy stuff with a partner in four parts: The Prep, The Ask, The Negotiation, The Takeaway. Recorded at our December 2019 live show. 
• Comedian-musician Matt Griffo and cellist Leyla Royale perform a sexy song with audience participation, from our February 2020 live show. 
• Karen closes the show with a Sermon on the Pubic Mound on the word naughty. 

In this episode:

Caitlin V. Neal

Ren Grabert

Matt Griffo

Leyla Royale

W&S Dec. 2019 Show

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Liberate your senses! This episode we give you easy exercises to wake up your body sexually, a sexy story, and discuss gender terms in depth.

• Karen’s interview from our live show (Feb. 2020) with Dr. Pia Holec about desire discrepancy in couples. Dr. Pia offers us a challenge of self-touch -- did you try it? Let us know what you discovered!
• Chicago leatherworker Emma Alamo tells a story about losing her dick virginity from our May 2019 show. 
• In a new segment, WHAT’S UP WITH THAT?, we talk about terms in the sex field that may need further discussion. This week, Karen and sex educator Logan Pierce talk about CISGENDER, gender identity and expression, and beyond.
• Karen closes the show with a Sermon on the Pubic Mound on the ongoing journey into new sexual experience.

LINKS from this episode:

Dr. Pia Holec

Emma Alamo

TransMentor Program at Lurie Children’s Hospital

Sensate Focused Therapy

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Are you and your partner both working from home? Maybe with kids underfoot? How's your libido been? Our panelists Tazima Parris, Matthew Amador, and Sarah Sloane return to talk about sex in long-term relationships during the COVID pandemic. Plus the story of one sexy afternoon at Burning Man from David, co-founder of OUTspoken, an LGBTQ storytelling series in Chicago. From our October 2018 live show at Constellation Chicago.

Host Karen Yates closes the episode with a Sermon on the Pubic Mound about being present in our bodies in the moment.

Links:

Tazima Parris

Matthew Amador

Sarah Sloane

OUTspoken LGBTQ Storytelling

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How has the pandemic affected your sex life? Host Karen Yates speaks with sex coach Tazima Parris, therapist Matthew Amador, and sex educator Sarah Sloane about practical tips for moving forward. Comedian-musician Amy Do performs a song from our September 2019 show, and we close with Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on COVID and compassion, from March 2020, the last live show (for now!).

Part 2: COVID's impact on long-term relationships on the next episode. 

Links:

Safer Sex and COVID-19 (NYC Dept. of Health) 

Tazima Parris 

Matthew Amador 

Sarah Sloane 

Amy Do 

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