When it comes to sex, who are you… really? In this cabaret-style episode, Sarah Sloane defines demisexual, aromantic, and asexual — and why labels are good as we understand more deeply who we are. Panelists offer tips to avoid projecting old experiences onto new relationships. And a storyteller shares how becoming a Domme helped her discover her true self.

• What’s Up with That?: Sarah Sloane of #open, the dating site for nonmonogamous people and their partners, joins host Karen Yates to define asexual, aromantic, and demisexual, and discuss why these newer terms are important to folks who use them
• Q&A: In a sneak-peek of content from The Afterglow, our exclusive online clubhouse, sex & relationship coach Tazima Parris and sex-positive therapists Brandon Hunter-Haydon and Jason Best answer questions submitted by members
• Storyteller Lily Be tells how getting into kink helped her discover her power and her own deep sexual identity (it might not be what you think!). Recorded live at Constellation Chicago in March 2020.

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• Tazima Parris  
• Brandon Hunter-Haydon 
• Best Therapies
• Lily Be
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"It's dress-up, it's try-on, it's 'let's see,' it's what else, who else am I?" Karen interviews somatic sex educator captain snowdon on developing a mindful erotic practice that centers pleasure and embodiment. Plus, a joyful poem for Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound.

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• Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education
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• Poet James Broughton
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Monogamous, polyam, kinky or solo — we all get into sex ruts! Our panel discusses how to climb on out and bring a sense of play back into your sex life. The audience asks questions. Plus Karen's Sermon on the Pubic Mound on confronting trauma when trying new things.

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• sex-positive therapist Jason Best
• sex and intimacy coach Tazima Parris
• sex educator Heather Rider
• Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
• Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski
• Science for Sexual Happiness by Caffyn Jesse
• All the books in this episode
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What’s it like to embark on a new sexual lifestyle in middle age? Or to figure out—after unfulfilling long-term relationships—what kind of sexual being you want to become? Two real people tell their stories. Plus, Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound about the possibility of change.

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• Therapist Pat Cochran tells the story of her development as a sexual person, from teen years to 60 and beyond. Recorded live at The Boxcar in Chicago, January 2020.
• Kinkster and Dom Peter aka MksThingsHappin talks about getting into kink after 40, and discusses elements of his current 24/7 lifestyle. Recorded live at The Boxcar, Chicago, June 2019.
• Full Color Life Therapy
• Mksthingshappin

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Thinking of opening up your relationship? Planning a three-way? Or just chatting with new people at a virtual party? All great and highly recommended, but… what happens when jealousy enters the room? Our panel offers strategies for talking down the green-eyed monster. Plus, a storyteller’s forays into nudity on the internet, and Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on sex-positive community. Wild & Sublime will be taking a 3 week break after this to plan our next season!

• Panel talk on jealousy featuring sex & intimacy coach Tazima Parris, sex coach Caitlin V Neal, and sex-positive psychotherapist Brandon Hunter-Haydon. Recorded live at our December 2018 show
• Actor and disability activist Terri Lynne Hudson performs her story “I’m Naked on the Internet and You Can Too!” Originally included in our April 2019 live show
• Host Karen Yates’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on sex-positive community, recorded live in December 2018

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Jealousy in a 3-Way
The Jealousy Workbook
Caitlin V Neal
Tazima Parris
Brandon Hunter-Haydon
Terri Lynne Hudson

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As we face another round of public-space restrictions this fall due to a rise in COVID cases, we wanted to revisit this episode. Our panel gives great suggestions for thriving during this strange time, especially if you and your partner both work from home (and maybe also have kids). Plus a sexy Burning Man story, and host Karen Yates’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound.

• Sex & intimacy coach Tazima Parris, sex-positive psychotherapist Matthew Amador, and Sarah Sloane, Director of Operations and Communications for #open, return from episode one to talk about sex in long-term relationships during the COVID pandemic. 
• David, co-founder of OUTspoken, a live LGBTQ storytelling event in Chicago, tells the tale of one sexy afternoon at Burning Man. From our first live show, October 2018 at Stage 773.
• Host Karen Yates closes the episode with a Sermon on the Pubic Mound about being present in our bodies in the moment.

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• Tazima Parris
• Matthew Amador
• Sarah Sloane
• OUTspoken LGBTQ Storytelling
• October 2018 Live Show

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How far would you go to feel better? Karen speaks with Christie Tate, author of the memoir Group on writing about sex, listening to the body, and her quest for intimacy through an unconventional process of radical transparency. Group is the November 2020 selection for Reese Witherspoon’s book club and a New York Times bestseller.

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• “Group” on Bookshop

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Bisexual? Pansexual? Heteroflexible? What's up with that? Plus, our panel answers questions about kink, queerness, and LTRs from a live audience. A storyteller shares spicy episodes from his erotic life. Then, a Sermon on the Pubic Mound on owning your pleasure.

• What’s Up with That? Sarah Sloane joins Karen to sort through the nuances of “bisexual,” “pansexual,” and “heteroflexible” in collaboration with #open, the dating app for ethically nonmonogamous people and their partners
• Q&A: Audience questions answered by kinkster Mksthingshappin, sex writer Jera Brown of Rebellious Magazine, and sex-positive therapist Elmo Painter. Recorded live at our July 2019 live show
• Storyteller David recalls spontaneous sexy interludes of days gone by, and how they came about; recorded live at our July 2019 live show
• Sermon on the Pubic Mound on comparisons, the stories in our heads, and owning the responsibility for our own pleasure

In this episode:

• #open
• Elmo Painter
• Jera Brown
• OUTspoken LGBTQ Stories
• July 2019 live show
• Books mentioned on our pod
• Sex-positive resources for joining communities and more

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Are you stuck in a sex rut? Karen talks with three knowledgeable guests from different corners of the sex-positive world about erotic creativity and how to sustain it. Their juicy in-depth conversation ranges from roleplay and kink to tantra and mindfulness. 

Guests:

• Corinne Diachuk is an advanced teacher of Therapeutic Yoga, a somatic sex educator,  and a faculty member at the Institute for the Study of Somatic Education
• Goddess Erica is a Sexual Empowerment Coach, Orgasmic Birth Doula, and Dominatrix
• Brandon Hunter-Haydon (a veteran guest on our live shows) is a psychotherapist, group facilitator, and sexual health advocate

Links:

NewCity interview with Karen Yates

Institute for the Study of Somatic Education

The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin

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Queer once meant gay, but does it still? Sarah Sloane talks gay vs. queer, and how a once-maligned word has taken on expansive new meaning. Matt Griffo sings a spooky-sexy song. Aiden Nicholson discusses the joys and importance of regular STI testing and getting comfy talking to partners about sexual health. Karen shares a sexy poem by Nobel Prize winner Louise Glück.

• Sarah Sloane of #open, the dating app for ethically non-monogamous people and their partners, joins What’s Up with That? to discuss the terms “gay,” “queer,” and beyond
• Matt Griffo sings “Monster Party in My Pants” from his new Halloween album, “Songs for Monsters”
• Karen interviews Advanced Practice Nurse and midwife Aiden Nicholson about learning to talk comfortably with partners about STI status, and the importance (and fun!) of getting tested regularly. Recorded live at our May 2019 show.
• Sermon on the Pubic Mound: Karen shares Louise Glück’s poem “The Encounter”

Links:

• #open 
• Howard Brown Health in Chicago
• Poet Louise Glück
• Matt Griffo’s “Songs for Monsters”

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