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Afraid of putting a desire out there? A newbie kinkster question leads to a surprising answer from our sexpert panel. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on vulnerability and asking for help.

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In this episode:

• Tazima Parris — sex & intimacy coach
• Jason Best — therapist & founder of Best Therapies
• Brandon Hunter-Haydon — surrogate partner & intimacy coach

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Pup play, leather, kink, sobriety, and the search for intimacy: In this erotic biography episode, one man shares his journey from Iowa musical theater kid (with a girlfriend) to out-and-proud L.A. leatherman — how he moved out of shame and hiding, and into making the deep relationships he was looking for.

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What’s the state of dating during COVID now? Get the lowdown. We follow up with hashtag open's Sarah Sloane on dating and hookups a year into the pandemic and get tips you can use. Plus, Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on staying steady in hard times.

In this episode:

• #open - dating app for nonmonogamous people and their partners
• Tazima Parris, sex coach
• Wild & Sublime: Episode 1 - COVID and Getting Laid

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Andropause: Is it real? Sexperts chat about testosterone and sex drive as we age and offer surefire suggestions for upping your mojo. We also tackle desire discrepancy in relationships. And a storyteller recounts losing his virginity in the height of a Texas heat wave.

• Therapists Korey McWilliams and Jason Best, and sex coach and pleasure mentor Tazima Parris respond to a listener’s question about andropause and reduced sex drive. Excerpted from this month’s bonus Q&A on The Afterglow, our members’ club on Patreon. Want to join? Right this way...
• Karen interviews sexologist Jo Flannery on desire discrepancy in couples, and the different kinds of sexual desire. Recorded live in September 2019 at Constellation Chicago.  Sept 2019 show
• Alan Colorado tells the story of losing his virginity as a teen in Texas. Recorded live in May 2019 at Constellation Chicago. May 2019 show

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In this episode:

• Korey McWilliams
• Jason Best - Best Therapies
• Tazima Parris - Infinite Relating
• Jo Flannery - Indulge in Bliss 
• Alan Colorado

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It’s Carnival next week, and we’re diving into the eroticism of this major festival. Sexologist and theatre artist Onika Henry joins Karen for a deep talk on the community, sexual freedom, and the roots of resistance that can be seen in the Carnival of Trinidad and Tobago.

• Onika Henry 
• Onika’s Tedx talk

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Snowed in? How about some spicy reading material to keep you warm and cozy? Karen interviews therapist Meg Weber on her new memoir about a BDSM relationship, and publisher Sienna Saint-Cyr speaks about creating the consent-based erotica they always wanted to read. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on following your hunches.

• Therapist and writer Meg Weber reads from and discusses A Year of Mr. Lucky, her memoir of a yearlong correspondence and relationship with a Dom she first met online.
• Publisher Sienna Saint-Cyr talks about the origins of SinCyr Publishing, their company focused on producing erotic literature that actively includes consent. 
• Host Karen Yates’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on following your hunches to change your life.

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If you’re not in your body, where are you? Panelists respond to a listener who asks whether checking out during sex might be a sign of trauma. And a somatic therapist leads a guided visualization to bring pleasure into daily experiences. 

• A sneak peek of a recent Q&A from The Afterglow, our monthly membership club. Somatic educator, body worker, and empowerment self-defense teacher Diane Long; kinkster and relationship coach Mksthingshappin; and psychotherapist Matthew Amador answer listener questions on sex and relationships.
• Somatic psychotherapist and relationship coach Elmo Painter leads a visualization exercise aimed at bringing body pleasure into bothersome life situations. Recorded live at Constellation in Chicago in July 2019.

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In this episode:

• Diane Long
• Mksthingshappin
• Matthew Amador 
• Elmo Painter 
• July 2019 live show

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Are you saying what you really feel and want in the sexual arena? Panelists offer strategies on communication — before, during, and after sex. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on anxiety and what it takes to move forward.

• Sex and intimacy coach Tazima Parris, sex-positive psychotherapist Brandon Hunter-Haydon, and kinkster and coach Mksthingshappin discuss strategies for communicating with partners. Recorded lives at Constellation Chicago in May 2019.
• Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on moving through cycles of anxiety and changing our own narrative. Also recorded live at Constellation in May 2019. 

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In this episode:

• Tazima Parris
• MksThingsHappin
• Brandon Hunter-Haydon 
• May 2019 live show 

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What kind of relationships do you want to make? In this deep long-form conversation for ALL relational styles, ethical nonmonogamists discuss relationship structures, communication skills, trust, jealousy, and the all-important work of getting to know ourselves. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. 

• A discussion on ethical nonmonogamy and what people in monogamous relationships can learn from ENM, with author and raconteur Cooper S. Beckett; Maile, Director of Product at #open (the dating app for ethically nonmonogamous people and their partners); and Gabrielle Smith, sex and relationship writer and ethical nonmonogamy advocate
• A Sermon on the Pubic Mound excerpted from classic ENM text The Ethical Slut 

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In this episode:

• Gabrielle Smith
• Cooper Beckett
• #open  
• The Ethical Slut 

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What would you do if you had complete body confidence in sexual situations? Our audience responds. Panelists offer strategies for getting out of your head and leading with pleasure. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound. 

• Panelists discuss the roots of body shame and techniques to get out of it. Featuring psychotherapist Niquie Dworkin, sex-positive psychologist Pat Cochran, and Matthew Amador, a psychotherapist for love, sex, and gender rebels. Recorded live at Constellation in Chicago, November 2019.
• Anonymous audience responses to the prompt: “If I had total body confidence, I’d…”
• Host Karen Yates offers a Sermon on advertising, reality, and owning your own pleasure. Also recorded live at Constellation in Chicago, November 2019.

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