Wisdom For Working Mums

In this episode I share the 6 steps to safeguard your sanity as a working mum during COVID-19......and beyond!

In this episode I share:

• Why our resilience might be feeling tested at the moment and the impact on our nervous system [5:48]
• The two things I've been focussing on for my resilience and sanity during COVID-19 [9:22]
• How important boundaries are if you're an overfunctioner [10:45]
• Why creating a 'non-guilt agreement' is really useful to ensure you don't get overwhelmed by dysfunctional mother's guilt [12:56]
• How I've been embracing doing less to actually achieve more and the surprising impact it's had on my business [16:12]

Links in this episode:

Show notes:http://www.wisdomforworkingmums.co.uk/36

Stay Sane This Summer online course: https://wisdomforworkingmums.mykajabi.com/stay-sane-summer-course

Parenting can have a negative impact on our relationship at the best of times, but parenting in a pandemic is likely putting our relationship under extreme pressure. In this episode I interview relationship therapist Ian Tomlinson. He helps couples transform their relationships so that each person can get their needs met and create healthy patterns of relating.

Thankfully there are strategies that we can call upon to make it through this difficult time with our relationship intact, and maybe even strengthened. During our conversation he shares some simple but powerful strategies to support our relationships during this pandemic and beyond.

While this episode was recorded during COVID-19 the insights can be applied at any time to strengthen our relationships

In this episode Ian shares:

• Why the traditional approach to couples therapy doesn't always work and how his approach is different

• that when we become parents children fundamentally change our relationships and that 68% of all couples believe that children negatively impact their relationship.

• that it's normal to hit difficulties in our relationship, that it's actually supposed to happen and if we get stuck that's just a sign that growth is trying to happen in our relationship

• that most couples wait for up to 6 years to get into couples therapy from the point that we actually need it

• four behaviours that can predict the end of a relationship and what we can do to prevent them

• simple but powerful strategies to feel more connected and happier in our relationship

You can find further information over on the podcast show page:

http://www.wisdomfoworkingmums.co.uk/35

It's likely that at the moment we're feeling emotions that we're not used to feeling on a regular basis. Or they're more heightened than normal. Difficult emotions are now part of our reality. Whilst I'm a big fan of positive psychology, the media often portray it in an unhelpful way. This toxic positivity can make it really difficult for us to be with our difficult emotions.

But if we want to feel resilient at the moment, our emotional intelligence is key. This is our ability to be aware of our emotions, even the ones that we feel are difficult. It's common for us to ignore, deny or avoid our difficult emotions. When we do this, we become less of ourselves. We're less able to bring our whole selves and our whole resourcefulness to this situation. Because, as counterintuitive as it feels, the more we're able to be with our difficult emotions in a healthy way the happier and more joyful we actually become. Allowing us to ultimately thrive even in difficult circumstances.

In this episode I share:

• What emotional intelligence is and why it's so important [4:30]
• What you can do to become more intelligent with your emotions [4:55]
• A really useful tool to tune into your emotions [5:15]
• The difference between a bottler and a brooder [6:10]
• The healthy middle ground that enables you to bring the best of yourself [7:19]
• The simple sentence that can help you to become more emotionally resilient [8:15]

Links in this episode:

http://www.wisdomforworkingmums.co.uk/34

https://www.susandavid.com/

If being a working mum has left you feeling exhausted, flat, foggy or frankly fed up then this episode of the Wisdom For Working Mums podcast is for you!

Today we're talking about our hormones. Many of us women experience the havoc that hormones can have on our life. Maybe monthly mood swings, maybe heavy bleeding, PMS, skin breakouts to name but a few symptoms. And you probably have thought that this 'monthly misery' is just part of the package as a woman.

Because we've been taught to think that's the way it's supposed to go every month, we tend to put up with these symptoms instead of treating them...unless they develop into more serious conditions that need medical attention. Which is what happened to me.

These symptoms not only affect our productivity but our quality of life.....and the quality of life of those close to us.

That's why I can't wait for us to dive into this episode with my guest Nicki Williams founder of Happy Hormones for Life.

In this episode Nicki and I explore:

• Her journey with her own hormones that led Nicki to set up Happy Hormones for Life [4:22]
• What hormones are and their purpose [9:48]
• What balanced hormones should look and feel like across our lifetime [11:02]
• Perimenopause - what it is and the signs and symptoms [14:20]
• The four key hormones known as the Feisty Four [19:52]
• How to take control back of your hormones [36:10]

If you struggle with your hormones in any way you're going to love this episode.

You can find further information over on the podcast show page:

http://www.wisdomforworkingmums.co.uk/33

If being a working mum has left you feeling exhausted, flat, foggy or frankly fed up then this episode of the Wisdom For Working Mums podcast is for you!

Today we're talking about our hormones. Many of us women experience the havoc that hormones can have on our life. Maybe monthly mood swings, maybe heavy bleeding, PMS, skin breakouts to name but a few symptoms. And you probably have thought that this 'monthly misery' is just part of the package as a woman.

Because we've been taught to think that's the way it's supposed to go every month, we tend to put up with these symptoms instead of treating them...unless they develop into more serious conditions that need medical attention. Which is what happened to me.

These symptoms not only affect our productivity but our quality of life.....and the quality of life of those close to us.

That's why I can't wait for us to dive into this episode with my guest Nicki Williams founder of Happy Hormones for Life.

In this episode Nicki and I explore:

• What hormones are and what's their purpose
• What balanced hormones should look and feel like
• What hormone friendly foods to eat
• The top five supplements to take to support happy hormones for life

If you struggle with your hormones in any way you're going to love this episode.

You can find further information over on the podcast show page:

http://www.wisdomforworkingmums.co.uk/33

As working mums resilience is an important part of managing the juggle. But in the current pandemic our ability to develop and maintain our resilience is critical. We're having to combine our work and motherhood in often impossible ways without our village and normal strategies available to support us in the juggle.

If you're feeling unsettled by the uncertainty and change around the COVID-19 pandemic and you're wondering how you're going to keep calm and carry on as this situation continues then this podcast is for you.

In this episode I share:

• A definition of resilience and why it's important [3.56]
• A insight into our resilience zone and the science behind it [5:43]
• A four stage process for resilience and what you can do to adapt, recover and thrive in adversity [9.04]
• How your mind respond in a crisis, the impact this has and what you can do to manage this [11.07]
• How you can influence your resilience and why strategies you may have relied on in the past may not be appropriate now [15:07]

Links in this episode:

Wisdom For Working Mums website

Wisdom For Working Mums Resilience Insights

Facebook page

Instagram page

What do the Duchess of Cambridge (AKA Kate Middleton) , Victoria Beckham, Serena Williams and Holly Willoughby have in common?

If you guessed "they all experience mother's guilt" then you'd be spot on! And it's not surprising really as it's claimed that nearly 90% of mums experience it.

In my latest episode of the Wisdom For Working Mums' podcast show I'm talking all about mothers guilt. What it is. Why we get it. And the difference between functional (helpful) and dysfunctional (unhelpful) mother's guilt.

I'm sharing the science and psychology behind guilt and what we can do to finally free ourselves from the unhelpful aspects of it.

Come join me in pulling back the curtain on this invisible force of motherhood so that it no longer unhelpfully controls you. I'm sharing some of the tools and strategies to finally free yourself from mother's guilt to thrive as a working mum.

In this episode I share:

• Why our brains are wired for us to experience guilt more when we have children [3:20]
• How our strategies for managing our emotions are often undermined when we have children [6:05]
• The crazy expectations that we swim in as mothers that means we often can't escape feeling guilty [7:33]
• The difference between functional and dysfunctional guilt [11:40]
• Why it's important to know who's guilt it is, as not all guilt is actually ours [16:03]
• How discovering your mothering style can help free you from your guilt [18:10]
• How creating a 'non guilt agreement' allows you to choose your relationship with guilt [23:02]
• How practicing guilt resilience is key to freeing yourself from it [25:07]

Links in this episode:

Freeing Yourself From Mother's Guilt masterclass:

Wisdom For Working Mums website

Facebook page

Instagram page

It's no secret that the way we've battled to keep up with the men, in what is still essentially a man's world, has taken its toll on us as women. We've been trying so hard to make it work – but it's left us stressed, overwhelmed and nearing burnout.

You've probably heard me say many times now that I genuinely believe that women are going to help solve the answer to many of our world's problems. But unfortunately many of us are burning out trying to do that. Because too many of us are trying to make our way in this world from a male paradigm. I know I was. And it wasn't until I became a mother - being in the ultimate feminine space - that I was forced to come to terms with my own paradigm.

Today's guest is Susie Heath who is an expert in helping women to fully embrace their feminine strengths. She helps women to learn to step in and reclaim their feminine energy. Helping them to feel happier, more fulfilled, more energised and more connected with their feminine strength and potency.

In this episode Susie shares:

* How her experience of burnout led her to discover how to tap into her feminine energy

* The difference between masculine and feminine energy

* The impact for women not being fully connected to their feminine energy

* How our body is our life force and holds our power and wisdom

* The well known person who embodies the feminine principle

* That loving ourselves, in a world that subtly and constantly encourages women to be self-critical, is a daily practice

* A simple exercise that we can do everyday to actively love ourselves

* The five feminine addition traps

* The simple practice to connect with our innate feminine energy

* Her interesting piece of advice to connect with our sensuality and sexuality

It's no secret that the way we've battled to keep up with the men, in what is still essentially a man's world, has taken its toll on us as women. We've been trying so hard to make it work – but it's left us stressed, overwhelmed and nearing burnout.

You've probably heard me say many times now that I genuinely believe that women are going to help solve the answer to many of our world's problems. But unfortunately many of us are burning out trying to do that. Because too many of us are trying to make our way in this world from a male paradigm. I know I was. And it wasn't until I became a mother - being in the ultimate feminine space - that I was forced to come to terms with my own paradigm.

Today's guest is Susie Heath who is an expert in helping women to fully embrace their feminine strengths. She helps women to learn to step in and reclaim their feminine energy. Helping them to feel happier, more fulfilled, more energised and more connected with their feminine strength and potency.

In this episode Susie shares:

* How her experience of burnout led her to discover how to tap into her feminine energy

* The difference between masculine and feminine energy

* The impact for women not being fully connected to their feminine energy

* How our body is our life force and holds our power and wisdom

* The well known person who embodies the feminine principle

* That loving ourselves, in a world that subtly and constantly encourages women to be self-critical, is a daily practice

* A simple exercise that we can do everyday to actively love ourselves

* The five feminine addition traps

* The simple practice to connect with our innate feminine energy

* Her interesting piece of advice to connect with our sensuality and sexuality

If you're an achievement-oriented working mum who wants to thrive without sacrificing your own well-being, this episode is going to be for you!

I'm talking about doing less to actually achieve more. Sounds great doesn't it! It's even more awesome because my guest is Kate Northrup who is an entrepreneur, bestselling author, speaker, and mother of two.

Kate has built a multimedia 7 figure digital empire with her husband, Mike Watts, that reaches hundreds of thousands globally whilst raising their young daughters. Kate & Mike are committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process.

In this episode we talk about Kate's revolutionary approach - Do Less - how to have enough time and energy for what matters most. She shares with us how to get what we want in our work and life without sacrificing what matters most.

In this episode Kate shares:

• How when she was pregnant with her first child she was forced to dramatically cut her work hours but after a year of working less than half the time she maintained the revenue in her business [6:51]
• That the belief that 'the more we do do the more valuable we are' is making women ill [10:15]
• How we can harness the super power of our feminine cycle to have more energy and impact [11:08]
• The planning process she uses to run her business and life based on her feminine cycle to leverage her energy [15:49]
• How she uses the Do Less philosophy in her own life [19:03]
• How important it is for her to role model what honouring and respecting your body as a female is like for her daughters [20:36]
• Her experiments to try out as busy working mums for us to do less for more time and energy (without putting pressure on ourselves) [22.20]
• That a woman who truly knows her worth isn't afraid to ask for help [25:27]
• The one thing that she hopes you take from this episode [30:40]

Links in this episode:

• Kate's website: https://katenorthrup.com
• Do Less planner: https://katenorthrup.com/planner/
• Do Less Book: https://katenorthrup.com/book
• Kate's Instagram account: https://www.instagram.com/katenorthrup/