In this first episode about dating, Ariel talks about the world of dating, which is even more different than it was even five years ago and there’s some key information she wants to share to keep people safe, to help you stay prepared and help them do this process intentionally. If you’re single, you’re definitely going to want to listen to these shows because there’s information in them that you may not be aware of and could make a huge difference in your life.

Ariel's upcoming book is The Empowered Woman's Guide to Online Dating (see pre-order link, below.)

"How Low Will Men with High Self-Esteem Go? Self-Esteem as a Moderator of Gender Differences in Minimum Relationship Standards," published in the journal Sex Roles in 2009

Make Me Smart Podcast: 52 percent women single census—Wells Fargo report. In 1900, only  7 percent of women were single. Tracked by the U.S. Census Bureau. There is a 20 percent increase in last decade of women who never married. 

“Every choice you make is a trade-off against something else…that applies to any limited resource that you need to manage, like your time, your energy, your focus or your attention. And that opens up two questions: what matters most; and how do you align your decision-making around what matters most?”

"Afford Anything: Build a Better Life," Podcast with Paula Pant.

What You Need to Address BEFORE You Date:

• Avoid shutting down by saying, “Well I just won’t date ever again,” You have to keep making an effort if you want to meet someone—just hone that effort and be specific and clear as you go through the process.
• Avoid getting depressed about your prospects.  Many things in life that are worthwhile are also challenging. 
• What beliefs do you have about how men should treat women?
• What beliefs do you have about how women should act in the dating process?
• What beliefs do you have about communication, respect, and being treated well?
• What beliefs do you have about monogamy, and do they still need to apply to you and your life?
• What is your tolerance for being rejected and resilience from recovering from that?
• What is your tolerance for needing to take time to sort through matches who do not fit?
• How persistent are you in making an effort to advocate for what you need and want?
• What is your self-esteem level like? What can you do to improve it?
• If you feel defensive at all when reading this book, what are you defending against?
• If you never give men a chance (after you have screen them first, of course), what are your fears of intimacy?
• Do you have fears about making changes in your life?
• If you are willing to take risks, evaluate that as well—dating can be very risky—make sure the risks are balanced and not endangering you or your children (like having a man you don’t know showing up to your house).
• Are you willing to say “no” when you need to, or are you a people pleaser?
• What are your deeper feelings about men—do you carry resentment and negativity toward them?  Do you need to clear those feelings before you date?
• When you encounter men who treat you poorly, do you clear the negative energy you feel toward them before you engage with someone else, or are you allowing those feelings to build up inside you?
• What are your deeper feelings about yourself—your attractiveness, your worth, your ability to have a relationship?

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• In 1900 only 7% of women were single, in 2020 52% of women are currently single. That’s a significant jump in 120 years. And there’s a 20% increase in the last decade of women who have never married. As single women in the 21st century, we have our own opinions, our own boundaries, our own money, our own success, our own jobs and our own decisions that we’re making and a lot of times our own kids. Naturally that makes dating more challenging for us.
• Online dating used to be people matching up, having conversations and seeing if they could have a relationship. Now even on sites like eHarmony there are scammers, ghost profiles, and people looking for immediate sexual connection. If you’re looking for a relationship you’re going o have to screen very carefully, you’ll have to ask very specific questions or pay attention to what those people are saying to you and how they say it so that you can be clear on who’s looking for sex and who’s looking for a relationship.
• Some things to address emotionally and mentally before you date include: Don’t shut down and say I never want to date again because if you want to meet someone you’re going to have to make an effort and put yourself out there. The more specific and clear you are about what you’re looking for will make it smoother. Don’t share your last name or details about your kids on a first date for security and safety purposes.
• It’s important for you to know what kind of communication, respect or being treated well looks like. For me, being treated well means you hour my boundaries. If I say I’m interested in ‘x’ but not in ‘y’ and they keep pushing for ‘y’, I’m not going to date that person, I want to be listened to, like most people do.

BEST MOMENTS

“I’ve (unfortunately) been doing online dating for about seven and a half years and I’ve talked to thousands of men, dealt with thousands of scammers and have been on over 130 dates.”
“What matters most and how do you align your decision making around what matters most?”
“People online have a lot less emotional sensitivity than they did when we used to meet in person. There are things that people say that are completely inappropriate or could be considered sexual harassment that they will say in a first sentence of a first contact.”
“Dating, by its very nature, is a process of acceptance or rejection and most of the time it’s rejection. You won’t believe what people will reject you for.”

ABOUT THE HOST

Ariel is a Licensed Massage Therapist, Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, Empath and Psychic who has been involved in holistic healing since 1988. She is also an educator, speaker, author and mentor for empaths, spiritual seekers and medical professionals. To reach Ariel, go to www.arielhubbard.com, where you will be able to contact her directly.  Please let her know you heard her on the podcast and the assistance you need or question you have.

Website: www.arielhubbard.com
Podcast: Woman Power Zone on all major platforms
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IG: @arielhubbard
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Pre-order form for Ariel's educational, hilarious and spicy dating book:
The Empowered Woman's Guide to Online Dating: Set Your BS Tolerance to Zero
https://eworder.replynow.ontraport.net/
Access to the Mindset Reset Club: https://mindsetreset.members-only.online/

On this episode Ariel shares an episode of another podcast she does with her friend and fellow energy healer Vicki Draper, about healing for pets and people. They are both energy healers and this week’s episode is about talking with pets and people on the other side, and processing and working through grief.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• I can connect with pets on the other side. We can have communication and connection which is a nice piece of the grief process because the guardians of the pets that have passed over can say what they want to say, they can know where and how their animal is. The animal tells me a sign to tell their person that it really is them when this happens and it gives great comfort. I’ve been doing this for over 20 years and the message is always unique because it’s unique to the pet and the person’s relationship.
• Any unresolved grief you have from something else is going to trigger. The more you grieve and allow the process any time there is grief it makes each subsequent grief easier to deal with because you are dealing with them in the present each time, not storing it up.
• No matter how long it’s been, we can find resolution because that opens the way for the new pets in the household and you’re more available to access the love that the new pets offer.
• When you have multiple pets and one passes, honour your grief and remember to share love with the existing pets. They’re still in the mix. Sometimes grief can take somebody inwards and shut others out. Be mindful to celebrate the joy with the pets you still have while you’re honouring your grief. This can be hard.

BEST MOMENTS
“Our animals stay connected with us even when they’re on the other side.”
“Grief is unique to every person, and it has its own timeline.”
“We all love all of our pets, but there are those that come into our lives that are just that extra special connection.”
“Do self-care. Be nice, be gentle with yourself.”

ABOUT THE GUEST
Vicki Draper is a highly regarded modern-day animal healer and author who supports family animals with health, harmony and ease, addressing wellness during every stage of your animal’s life. With her skill set as an animal healer and massage therapist, she serves animals and people locally and remotely, nationally and internationally.
Website: www.healingyouranimal.com You can book a free consultation with Vicki, buy her books, access her newsletter, and listen to her podcast on her website.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HealingYourAnimal
YT: www.youtube.com Search Vicki Draper
LI: Do search for VickiDraper
IG: @healingyouranimal
Vicki's Book Purchase link: Bridging True Love Connection and Healing Between You and Your Animal (behavioural issues, energy management) and Heart to Heart: How You Can Healing Your Animal Through All Stages of Life https://healingyouranimal.com/Books.php
Vicki's New Book Healthy, Free and Harmonious: Balancing Your Pet's Chakras, release early 2023 Purchase link: https://healingyouranimal.com/BookDetailHealthyFreeHarmonious.php
Vicki's podcast Animal Messages: What Your Animal Wants You to Know and our joint podcast Healing for Pets and People can be found on her website at www.healingyouranimal.com

ABOUT THE HOST
Ariel is a Licensed Massage Therapist, Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, Empath and Psychic who has been involved in holistic healing since 1988. She is also an educator, speaker, author and mentor for empaths, spiritual seekers and medical professionals. To reach Ariel, go to www.arielhubbard.com, where you will be able to contact her directly.  Please let her know you heard her on the podcast and the assistance you need or question you have.

Website: www.arielhubbard.com
Online Courses: http://hubbardeducationgroup.myclick4course.com
LinkedIn: @arielhubbard
IG: @arielhubbard
Facebook: @HubbardEducationGroup
YT: @arielhubbard
CH: @arielhubbard
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Pre-order form for Ariel's educational, hilarious and spicy dating book:
The Empowered Woman's Guide to Online Dating: Set Your BS Tolerance to Zero
https://eworder.replynow.ontraport.net/ 

On this episode Ariel is joined by Christine Lalonde, a woman who hustles in business as the host of the Fifty Shades of Bullshit Podcast, the creator of a docu series about Hollywood and a dating reality TV show, being a mom, as an actress and a model and an event coordinator. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• I came up with my five door approach to hustle after moving to LA as a model. I was doing so many things, trying to learn all about the business, and people said to me “you should focus on one door, hone your craft and go through it to the next door when you’re ready”. I found that ridiculous because, what if that’s the one door that will never open. If I do 5 different things, who’s to say what door’s going to open? I’ll be prepared for any of them to open and I can then bring those other things with me.
• Covid obliterated my event coordination business, so I needed to think about what direction I needed to go in, so I manifested overnight, in my sleep, I woke up in the morning and my documentary was there in my mind, I could see it, it was like a vision. I registered and copyrighted it and began writing it that day, I then called round people I knew in that business and it’s since turned into a docuseries – Hollywood Dreams: The Unexpected Journey.
• I hope to inspire people around the world with this series who didn’t know that these jobs existed in Hollywood and never would have thought to go for it. Hollywood is way bigger than the celebrities that you read about.
• The podcast started out talking to people about dating, what it’s like to date in the modern world, but has evolved to include dating coaches, therapists and experts in the dating world to help people look for the scammers, how to be comfortable within your skin when you’re single so that when you enter into a relationship you’re happy in that relationship.

BEST MOMENTS

“I never do something unless I’m really, really good at it.”

“In business, the first 2-3 years are the hardest and you’ve just gotta keep going.”

“I will do a lot for people without asking for anything in return because I believe that something will come back to you, if not from them then from somewhere else.”

“I hope to inspire people to not only know that they can find love at any age and that it doesn’t matter who you are, where you come from, your age, your ethnicity, your sex, you can do whatever you want to do whenever you want to do it as long as you believe in yourself and go for it.”

ABOUT THE GUEST

Christine Lalonde is a long-term professional in the entertainment business who began as a model and actor. Over a career spanning more than 20 years. As a single mom, she became a Queen of the Hustle, developing a varied career, from working as an event coordinator to the entertainment business, including filmmaking, production, casting and directing. She is currently the producer of an upcoming docuseries, Hollywood Dreams: The Unexpected Journey. She is also the host of Fifty Shades of BS Podcast.  Her upcoming dating reality show is Relocate for Love.

To Reach Christine Lalonde:

www.hollywooddreamsdoc.com 

(323) 403-6741

[email protected] 

Fifty Shades of Bullshit on YouTube, also available on Apple, Spotify and more.

Fifty Shades of Bullshit - Grannie’s bagging the young ones

ABOUT THE HOST

Ariel is a Licensed Massage Therapist, Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, Empath and Psychic who has been involved in holistic healing since 1988. She is also an educator, speaker, author and mentor for empaths, spiritual seekers and medical professionals. To reach Ariel, go to www.arielhubbard.com, where you will be able to contact her directly.  Please let her know you heard her on the podcast and the assistance you need or question you have.

Website: www.arielhubbard.com 

Online Courses: http://hubbardeducationgroup.myclick4course.com 

Podcast: Woman Power Zone on all major platforms

LinkedIn: @arielhubbard

IG: @arielhubbard

Facebook: @HubbardEducationGroup

YT: @arielhubbard11

CH: @arielhubbard 

Pinterest:   https://pin.it/6Z6RozS 

Pre-order form for Ariel's educational, hilarious and spicy dating book: 

The Empowered Woman's Guide to Online Dating: Set Your BS Tolerance to Zero

https://eworder.replynow.ontraport.net/ 

On this episode Ariel is joined by Nina Barnett, a marketing and design professional, UX/UI designer, single mom and entrepreneur extraordinaire, to tell the story of her multiple pivots in life, from personal challenges to moving jobs to moving states and cities without a job to go to and what she’s learned from them along the way.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• After a decade of working as a book designer in New York City for various publishers, I just knew I wanted to live on the West Coast and for the next adventure in my life. So, I did it, I moved to Seattle, got a laptop and was ready to freelance but eventually got a full time job as Seattle isn’t a publishing town. I eventually got made redundant in my third trimester. No one would take me on, so I really decided to go freelance in a different industry.
• The next pivot, which I wasn’t expecting, or would wish on anyone, was the divorce pivot. That wasn’t a fun pivot, but at that point I had a 3 year old who was in preschool, so I had the days free to freelance, but once he was in elementary school I had to figure out childcare and how to get contract work/full-time work. But I realised I didn’t have a lot of the skills that the market needed. So, I pivoted again to general graphic design, rather than publishing. It wasn’t the time to go back to school and learn new skills, I just needed to get work with the skills that I had.
• I had to really rely on myself. As much as it was scary, it was empowering at the same time. Coming from New York, I always felt I had a sense of resourcefulness and grit. You don’t have to come from there to have those qualities, you just have to be ready in advance and thinking ahead. I always had to rebrand myself, create a new website and marketing materials for myself for whatever U was trying to go after.
• My Mom’s house was massively damaged by Hurricane Sandy and, thanks to a contract ending early, I was able to help her clean up 40 years worth of stuff she’d never thrown away, which was emotional, and get the house in order so she could eventually move. My Mom said, ‘you could do this for other people’ and this led to the mid-life crisis pivot, which was me getting burned out and sick of graphic design and starting over like my Mom was starting over. So, I created the company Home Serenity Now, which was organising and interior designing for people for a couple of years, despite not having the skills to do it. But it wasn’t enough money, or solid enough, so I went back to graphic design part time for Time as well as interior design, for a while, and it reignited my love for graphic design again.
• During the pandemic I went back to school, because I knew I didn’t have the skillset for digital graphic design… I didn’t even understand the job descriptions! It came at the perfect time, my son was a teenager now. I did a two-year course in six months because there was nothing else to do because of the pandemic! I became a sponge because I wanted it so badly and I wanted stability for me and my child. I learned that I’m really capable of doing things that are difficult. Believe that if I can do it, you can do it.

BEST MOMENTS

“I’ve always listened to the feeling I’m getting”

“For a very long time I was always changing things in my life, and I had to be ready for the next thing that came my way.”

“You have to be ready when an opportunity comes your way, and you have to make those opportunities.”

“I found such joy helping people redesign their bedroom, recreate their office, get rid of things they don’t need and really capture the essence of who they are in a three-dimensional, physical way.”

ABOUT THE GUEST

Nina Barnett, UX and Visual Designer

Nina Barnett is a lifelong learner, and a visual storyteller with grit—she’s adaptable, ambitious, and diligent. Her keen eye for detail, extensive background in art direction, and multi-disciplinary problem-solving skills allows her to create impactful design solutions. Nina enjoys collaborating on web & mobile apps, social graphics & marketing collateral, logos, and book design—and she does it all with a smile. 

To Reach Nina:

UX Design work: www.ninabarnettdesign.com

Graphic Design and Book Design work: www.ninabarnett.myportfolio.com

ABOUT THE HOST

Ariel is a Licensed Massage Therapist, Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, Empath and Psychic who has been involved in holistic healing since 1988. She is also an educator, speaker, author and mentor for empaths, spiritual seekers and medical professionals. To reach Ariel, go to www.arielhubbard.com, where you will be able to contact her directly.  Please let her know you heard her on the podcast and the assistance you need or question you have.

Website: www.arielhubbard.com 

Online Courses: http://hubbardeducationgroup.myclick4course.com 

Podcast: Woman Power Zone on all major platforms

LinkedIn: @arielhubbard

IG: @arielhubbard

Facebook: @HubbardEducationGroup

YT: @arielhubbard11

CH: @arielhubbard 

Pinterest: https://pin.it/6Z6RozS 

Pre-order form for Ariel's educational, hilarious and spicy dating book: 

The Empowered Woman's Guide to Online Dating: Set Your BS Tolerance to Zero

https://eworder.replynow.ontraport.net/ 

In this episode, Ariel continues her series on massage information to help you deal with pains, aches, stress and elevate your mood. 

Meridian brushing means that you use the flat palm of the hand to brush an area, either a place that feels tight or congested or hurts, or the meridian itself.

To get a visual reference of the location of the meridians, you can type in the name of the meridians online, click the images tab and you will be able to see the meridians, named below.

Governing Vessel
Conception Vessel
Gallbladder
Liver
Lung
Large Intestine
Stomach
Spleen
Heart
Small Intestine
Bladder
Kidney
Pericardium
Triple Heater

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Use the palm of your hand in either a medium tapping motion or a brushing motion, or you can use a loose fist with a relaxed wrist, on your meridians. Tapping on regions of the body in this way helps to reduce or eliminate muscle pain.
• If you do this tapping and brushing protocol in the middle of the day, you might feel tired or you’ve been at your desk too long, you will feel better and like you can get back to work.

BEST MOMENTS

“Movement is one way to transport lymphatic fluid and chemical constituents out of the area to make you feel better.”
“All the meridians have different meanings, and they work with different areas and emotions.”

ABOUT THE HOST

Ariel is a Licensed Massage Therapist, Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, Empath and Psychic who has been involved in holistic healing since 1988. She is also an educator, speaker, author and mentor for empaths, spiritual seekers and medical professionals. To reach Ariel, go to www.arielhubbard.com, where you will be able to contact her directly.  Please let her know you heard her on the podcast and the assistance you need or question you have.

Website: www.arielhubbard.com
Online Courses: http://hubbardeducationgroup.myclick4course.com
LinkedIn: @arielhubbard
IG: @arielhubbard
Facebook: @HubbardEducationGroup
YT: @arielhubbard
CH: @arielhubbard
Pinterest:   https://pin.it/6Z6RozS 

Pre-order form for Ariel's educational, hilarious and spicy dating book: 

The Empowered Woman's Guide to Online Dating: Set Your BS Tolerance to Zero
https://eworder.replynow.ontraport.net/

In this episode, Ariel brings out some tools from her massage toolbox to help you with your self-care regime. 

CV 17  point: In the center of the chest in the same area of the heart chakra, this point opens up feelings of compassion, caring and love for self or others.

https://www.google.com/search?q=cv+17&rlz=1C1CHZN_enUS1020US1027&sxsrf=AJOqlzXx8CUKv9OtxjkBP_qd8kjLtiQWpw:1676559762938&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiH9_Top5r9AhU1PH0KHUckCoQQ_AUoAXoECAEQAw&biw=1440&bih=841&dpr=2#imgrc=jxOiA4BiQLDswM 

Lung 1 points: This point is about 1 inch above the top of the breast tissue line and is called the "letting go" point. It is excellent to help release grief, sadness and can sometimes be helpful for asthma or tension in the chest due to anxiety.

https://www.google.com/search?q=Lung+1&rlz=1C1CHZN_enUS1020US1027&sxsrf=AJOqlzVoT01bEllpK0DoxvAOl0SQeD0enw:1676559797382&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiOm6v5p5r9AhUrGDQIHVqMBOkQ_AUoAXoECAEQAw&biw=1440&bih=841&dpr=2#imgrc=HIz2B4XZ1t-4jM  

CV 6 point: Sea of Energy. Located about an inch below the belly button, this point is helpful when you are feeling tired. It helps open up energy flow in the body and helps you feel energized.

https://www.google.com/search?q=cv+6+acupuncture+point&rlz=1C1CHZN_enUS1020US1027&sxsrf=AJOqlzX5fx0Zo0zHDRMefBNVJNcBaOwMUA:1676559858240&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwig2q2WqJr9AhXsJzQIHQVBB4YQ_AUoAXoECAEQAw&biw=1440&bih=841&dpr=2#imgrc=uxvb24ScwZ0kwM 

Pericardium 4-6 points:  The points are great to treat nausea and motion sickness. Pregnant women can buy cloth-like "bracelets" with a white bead that they can place on one of these points to help with morning sickness. They are on the midline of the inside arm, about an inch above the wrist. 

https://www.google.com/search?q=pericardium+6+acupuncture+point&tbm=isch&ved=2ahUKEwiVgfeXqJr9AhULBDQIHcTjCPgQ2-cCegQIABAA&oq=Pericardiu+acupuncture+point&gs_lcp=CgNpbWcQARgAMgYIABAHEB4yBggAEAcQHjIGCAAQBxAeMgYIABAHEB4yBggAEAcQHjIGCAAQBxAeMgYIABAHEB4yBggAEAcQHjIGCAAQBxAeMgYIABAHEB46BAgjECc6BQgAEIAEOgcIABCABBAYUJwJWJwWYMIjaABwAHgAgAGQAYgBlQaSAQQxMC4xmAEAoAEBqgELZ3dzLXdpei1pbWfAAQE&sclient=img&ei=9UXuY9WyIIuI0PEPxMejwA8&bih=841&biw=1440&rlz=1C1CHZN_enUS1020US1027#imgrc=cDvFBiQc5-l3yM 

The book I mentioned: Shiatsu for Horses

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• When we don’t exercise enough, like spending hours and hours on Zoom calls, watching too much TV or gaming, lymphatic fluid accumulates when it should be circulating. In the last few years, the back part of the body – especially in the glutes, hamstrings and lower back when we’re sitting – is where we have a lot of pain caused by this lymphatic fluid. 
• Tapping and finger circles are two of the easiest ways of massaging accupoints on your body. Tapping is not like tapping at a keyboard, use your fingertips to set up a vibration of kinetic energy through the tissue. You can also use the back of your fingertips or a flat or cupped hand. It’s a great way to wake up parts of the body.
• Most pain in accupoints comes from either an overabundance of or a deficiency in chi, or lifeforce energy. When you’re massaging your body and you find an area that’s painful, that’s a high energy accumulation asking to get dispersed. You need to circle counter-clockwise. Empty spaces (that sometimes feel cold) need energy and respond to a more nurturing, slower touch. You can hold the areas, press on them gently or make clockwise circles.

BEST MOMENTS

“Muscles can be sore from too much activity or not enough activity.”
“Alternate taking hot and cold dips in pools, try to spend at least a minute or longer in each of those. I’m telling you it is invigorating. You can also take hot and cold showers. ”
“It’s pretty amazing how quickly pain can disperse, it’s literally like pushing a button and your muscles relax.”

ABOUT THE HOST

Ariel is a Licensed Massage Therapist, Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, Empath and Psychic who has been involved in holistic healing since 1988. She is also an educator, speaker, author and mentor for empaths, spiritual seekers and medical professionals. To reach Ariel, go to www.arielhubbard.com, where you will be able to contact her directly.  Please let her know you heard her on the podcast and the assistance you need or question you have.

Website: www.arielhubbard.com
Online Courses: http://hubbardeducationgroup.myclick4course.com
LinkedIn: @arielhubbard
IG: @arielhubbard
Facebook: @HubbardEducationGroup
YT: @arielhubbard
CH: @arielhubbard
Pinterest:   https://pin.it/6Z6RozS 
Pre-order form for Ariel's educational, hilarious and spicy dating book: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Online Dating: Set Your BS Tolerance to Zero
https://eworder.replynow.ontraport.net/

In this episode, Ariel brings her experience in massage to share some self-care tips to manage stress, headaches and more.

If you are interested in Come from the Heart: A Guidebook to Healing with Divine Energy, Part One and Part Two, reach out to Ariel.

Gallbladder 21 points

Large Intestine 4 Points

Stomach 2 Points

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• When people find out I can see auras, see and talk to dead people, or talk to their bodies, and I can help them clear their pain and their stress, they ask me: “How did you become like this? Were you always like this? Did you start out this way or did you learn as you went along?” I was an energy sensitive child, aware of energy and non-physical beings in an era when no one knew what that meant or what it was.
• I had these gifts and abilities but I didn’t have any explanation for it. I met someone called Terri at a book store and she asked my if I would help her start a healing circle. We met once a week for four years and offered energy sessions to the community. We started with three of us and ended up with a group of about 14 healers, sometimes 30-40 people a night would show up to get healing work.
• The webbing between your index finger and thumb is called the Hoku point or Large Intestine 4. Over the years, people have discovered that if you massage this point it helps with digestion, nausea and headaches. I also believe it helps with your ability to focus. When you press on it and it feels like it’s pushing up against you, it’s called turgidity, which means there’s a lot of stuck energy.

BEST MOMENTS

“I ended up writing my own books on energy medicine because there just weren’t enough books out there explaining how to do what I was doing, and I knew I needed to share it with other people.”

“The shoulders is a tight area for almost everyone. Right where your neck meets your shoulder is a point called the Gallbladder 21s, these help deal with headaches, irritations and tight shoulders and necks.”

“Just under your eyes is a point called Stomach 2 which is for eye strain. You can just touch this for about 15 seconds and it will help you with eye strain.”

ABOUT THE HOST

Ariel is a Licensed Massage Therapist, Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, Empath and Psychic who has been involved in holistic healing since 1988. She is also an educator, speaker, author and mentor for empaths, spiritual seekers and medical professionals. To reach Ariel, go to www.arielhubbard.com, where you will be able to contact her directly.  Please let her know you heard her on the podcast and the assistance you need or question you have.

Website: www.arielhubbard.com
Online Courses: http://hubbardeducationgroup.myclick4course.com
LinkedIn: @arielhubbard
IG: @arielhubbard
Facebook: @HubbardEducationGroup
YT: @arielhubbard
CH: @arielhubbard
Pinterest:   https://pin.it/6Z6RozS

Pre-order form for Ariel's educational, hilarious and spicy dating book:

The Empowered Woman's Guide to Online Dating: Set Your BS Tolerance to Zero
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In this episode, Ariel talks about using your intuition to manage your calendar when your day falls apart due to unforeseen circumstances, such as your child getting sick when your work calendar is insane.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• As entrepreneurs, moms, caretakers and hard workers, we all have too much to do and too little time in which to get it done. Interruptions, errors, breakdowns and disruptions are a normal part of our day. What if you could use your intuition to guide you when everything you had planned goes awry. Over the years I’ve learned to address calendar, event and life changes using a combination of common sense, experience and intuition to find my way through the maze of GST – getting stuff done – even with interruptions and epic fails.
• If something happens where you can’t do certain things on a certain day or time, you can ask some key questions about what’s important and you can also use your intuition to feel into what’s most important or what needs to happen. Imagine your intuition is your guidance energy that flows you through life, like a rope that’s guiding you along, getting across that challenge point to the other side.
• Sometimes you can use your intuition/inner feelings/openness/flow to get a sense of what wants to happens next. If you have five different things you want to accomplish, go within, close your eye, take some deep breaths and think about those five different things and think about which one of those five different activities wants to happen first, or which feels most open/easy. There’s a feeling you’ll get where it will reschedule your day, but if you get this feeling/intuition that this is the order those things are supposed to happen in and you flow with that order, things will work out in really positive ways that you couldn’t have planned or expected.
• When you have breakdowns when you have a deadline, one of the most important things to do is communicate with the people who are expecting you to accomplish something at a certain time. Tell the people you can’t meet the deadline for immediately and ask what can be done; can it be finished tomorrow? Can someone else do it? Then you can relax and let go of the stress, worry and upset about not getting that thing done. Then, you can focus on what you can do.

BEST MOMENTS

“Find the activities you can do and then accomplish those, and which activity is most easily accomplished first, or which one are you most prepared for on your new schedule?”
“If you’re stressed that things got cancelled you have to do some deep breathing and let go of your upset that half your day has been cancelled. What can you do?”
“When you’re in the zone you get way more done than when you struggle and fight.”
“You’re going to feel freed up, more alive and happy in your work.”

ABOUT THE HOST

Ariel is a Licensed Massage Therapist, Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, Empath and Psychic who has been involved in holistic healing since 1988. She is also an educator, speaker, author and mentor for empaths, spiritual seekers and medical professionals. To reach Ariel, go to www.arielhubbard.com, where you will be able to contact her directly.  Please let her know you heard her on the podcast and the assistance you need or question you have.

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On this episode of Woman Power Zone, Ariel talks about the power of the word ‘yes’, but to talk about the power of yes she also needs to talk about how people live in a place of ‘no’ and negativity. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Some people say not to everything and expect things not to work out, there’s always a reason why newness is a bad thing. A lot of us live our lives in the past, something bad, negative, unpleasant, painful or difficult happened and we developed an avoidance coping strategy to avoid anything that could possibly lead to a similar experience. So, we say no to experiences that could be helpful or help us grow or have the life that we’re looking for. We also act like the thing in the past, that we’re trying to avoid, will happen again, which is crazy.
• We need to embrace the power of yes and open up to new possibilities. The power of yes is where we’re open to accomplishing a goal, even though it looks like there are a million obstacles in the way, and we say yes to doing the things that make that goal happen.
• To be in the power of yes, we need to let go of our emotional negativity, fear and holding on to the past. Ironically, even though holding onto the past gives us nothing we often seek the security of the known of negativity rather than the unknown of positivity and what good things could happen. A lot of people seek security above all else, they have to let go of their tendency of seeking security in order to open up to the power of yes.
• We’ve all experienced negative states, it’s a part of life, I’m not suggesting that you’re always going to be in a positive state. However, when you’re in a negative state, you’re going to want to shift yourself out of that and into something else. Think about a situation you have and notice your thoughts about it. Do you just assume it’s not going to work out? When you’re thinking that way, instead, ask yourself “is there a possibility that this could turn out another way?” If you keep focussing on that and imagine other outcomes that are positive, imagining that can shift the energy of your internal experience which can sometimes affect your external experience.

BEST MOMENTS

“People limit themselves and shut down their energy flow and don’t get to live a life that’s positive or lift themselves up or opening to another space of possibility where something else could show up. After doing this for a number of years people start to live a very closed life.”
“If we assume the things we do now will lead to the same outcome of things that happened in the past we could end up creating a self-fulfilling cycle of creating outcomes and ironically creating the negative experience that we didn’t want to create before.”
“The power of yes is a belief that with inspired action you can get something done. It’s not a catchphrase, it’s a perspective of openness.”
“Contemplating new conclusions builds different neural pathways in your brain and also lowers stress hormones in your blood.”

ABOUT THE HOST

Ariel is a Licensed Massage Therapist, Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, Empath and Psychic who has been involved in holistic healing since 1988. She is also an educator, speaker, author and mentor for empaths, spiritual seekers and medical professionals. To reach Ariel, go to www.arielhubbard.com, where you will be able to contact her directly.  Please let her know you heard her on the podcast and the assistance you need or question you have.

Website: www.arielhubbard.com
Podcast: Woman Power Zone on all major platforms
LinkedIn: @arielhubbard
IG: @arielhubbard
Facebook: @HubbardEducationGroup
YT: @arielhubbard
CH: @arielhubbard
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The Empowered Woman's Guide to Online Dating: Set Your BS Tolerance to Zero
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 Access to the Mindset Reset Club: https://mindsetreset.members-only.online/

On this episode of Woman Power Zone, Ariel revisits the importance of letting go of pleasing people, being selective about how we spend our time and standing up for ourselves.

Resentment toward another person is a clear indication that you are not following your own intuition or respecting your own needs or desires.  Immediately stop finger-pointing, allow your adult self and Higher Self to engage, take a deep breath and focus. 

What is the resentment about? 

A need to say no to what you are doing or what is happening?

A deeper need to do something else?

A need to make a different decision and take a different action?

Then, give yourself permission to know what you want:

Say to yourself,  "I am powerful and I have the right to make my own decisions and be my own person.  So the decision I would make in this situation is ... " Allow yourself to become aware of this decision.  

Tips to free yourself from people-pleasing:

"I free myself from people-pleasing."

"I fundamentally love and accept myself."

Step 1: Free yourself from the need for other people's approval!  This sounds simple, but may take you time to accomplish. You will need to do some self-examination to discover whether your actions, questions or decisions are actually based on an unconscious desire to gain love or approval from others.  It takes some work to let go of the illusion of security you may think you have if people approve of you.

Step 2: Be willing to ask the hard questions of yourself. 

Why do I feel like I emotionally need to be liked/loved/approved of by that person? 

What would it take for me to feel good enough if I did not have their approval?

Step 3: If I fundamentally accepted and approved of myself, what actions would I take instead?

Step 4: Emotionally and energetically detach yourself from your need for their approval. As a side note: If you need help with the energetic side of this, you can reach me through the contact info in the show notes. I can help you disengage (NOT cut!!!) energetic cording you may have with this person.

Step 5: Take the new actions.

Step 6: Notice what happens.  Does that other person actually reject you if you do something that supports yourself?  Or maybe, just maybe, they respect you more?

Here are some things you could say:

• "I really appreciate the invitation, but I do have some things I need to get done and I need to take time to do them."
• "Thanks for the feedback on that. I will keep that in mind, but I am going to make some different choices based on my experience/intuition/training."
• "Actually, I am not going to be able to volunteer this year.  I have a lot of demands on my time, and to stay balanced and healthy, I am going to need to decline this time."

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• A lot of people have poor boundaries and they have difficulties saying no to other people, for a variety of reasons. From time management to saying no to their kids or their husband and what they’re doing, saying no to somebody at work, like a boss, or even just no to trying to look good, be perfect, all the kinds of things that we deal with.
• ‘No’ is something that’s hard for a lot of women to say. Some of this has to do with the way women are conditioned to say ‘yes’, to be nice, to be friendly, to be helpful, to be supportive. Those attributes are good things, but sometimes we do this at the expense of our own boundaries, our selves, our energy, our livelihoods or ways we make money, we do a lot of things to make other people happy but don’t necessarily do them for ourselves.
• One of the main feelings that comes up when we should be saying no but we’re not saying no is resentment. It’s a wonderful measure to let you know if something’s happening that’s not working for you but you’re not being honest about it. If you have that feeling come up, immediately look to take responsibility for your own feelings. It’s really immature to blame someone else for what’s happening or what we’re feeling.
• When you’re looking to change the habit of pleasing people, you’re going to have to do some self-examination to discover whether your actions, questions or decisions are actually based on an unconscious desire to gain love or approval from others. It might take some work to let go of the illusion of security that you may think that you have if people approve of you. Sometimes when people approve of us, that’s literally an energy that comes from them to us and it feels good. But that energy isn’t necessarily something that we need, what we need is to self-generate that energy of approval, love, acceptance And caring from within ourselves, then you can disengage from other people’s energy. 

BEST MOMENTS

“Having poor boundaries about how we let others treat us and not honouring or managing our own time or energy can be an issue for a lot of people. What’s amazing is that the tiny little word ‘no’ is extremely powerful.”
“To transcend being controlled by the need for others’ approval we have to take some responsibility for our own feelings.”
“Give yourself permission to know what you want. Say to yourself: I am powerful, and I have the right to make my own decisions and be my own person.”
“A lot of people will treat you better if you say no. They will see someone who stands up for themselves, that values themselves, respects themselves and they will reflect that internal sense of value you have for yourself back to you.”

ABOUT THE HOST

Ariel is a Licensed Massage Therapist, Registered Clinical Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, Empath and Psychic who has been involved in holistic healing since 1988. She is also an educator, speaker, author and mentor for empaths, spiritual seekers and medical professionals. To reach Ariel, go to www.arielhubbard.com, where you will be able to contact her directly.  Please let her know you heard her on the podcast and the assistance you need or question you have.

Website: www.arielhubbard.com
Podcast: Woman Power Zone on all major platforms
LinkedIn: @arielhubbard
IG: @arielhubbard
Facebook: @HubbardEducationGroup
YT: @arielhubbard
CH: @arielhubbard
Pinterest:   https://pin.it/6Z6RozS
Pre-order form for Ariel's educational, hilarious and spicy dating book:
The Empowered Woman's Guide to Online Dating: Set Your BS Tolerance to Zero
https://eworder.replynow.ontraport.net/
Access to the Mindset Reset Club: https://mindsetreset.members-only.online/