Mila Jam is an international pop sensation, an artivist (activist + artist), a trans icon, a rising star, and somehow magically also my friend?!?!? How did life get so cool?

Mila and I go deep in this conversation. We talk about gender, womanhood, dating, celibacy, the “boyfriend show,” patriarchal conditioning, trans visibility, intimacy, emotional labor, and why so many modern women are just…tired. Also: men will apparently fuck couches.

In this episode:

• Mila’s journey from Southern Baptist kid to trans icon
• How “the boyfriend show” can last years
• The surprising freedom of celibacy
• Why modern women are exhausted by men
• Dating while trans in pre-social media NYC
• The difference between being desired and being valued
• Ghosting, emotional cowardice, and modern dating culture
• How “women have out-menned men”
• Patriarchy, power, and emotional labor
• What women actually want from men
• How to stop accepting breadcrumb relationships
• Trans womanhood, safety, intimacy, and visibility
• The healing power of women supporting women
• Why good treatment matters more than chemistry alone

For ALL THINGS Mila: https://www.milajam.com/

Listen to Mila's music: https://open.spotify.com/artist/6m7wJXzvVyE0j6eef6pj1a?si=li_LtmpJSHaHoC99v78yIQ&nd=1&dlsi=8ce32e81b47b4973

Watch Mila's iconic music videos: https://www.youtube.com/user/milajammusic

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Thank you, pinecones! See ya next week.

xoxo,

Samia

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