You thought you were loving your family. But what if you were slowly abandoning yourself?

In today's episode, Tara reads a post from one of the men inside Healthy Men-tality, shared word-for-word, about what doing the work actually looks like in real time. The ups, the downs, and the slow peeling back of the patterns underneath his behavior.

He writes about self-sacrificing his own needs for years, keeping the peace at any cost, and slowly becoming someone he didn't recognize. A man who did everything he thought a good husband and father was supposed to do, and lost himself in the process, until his wife saying she was done finally woke him up. From there, Tara unpacks what was happening beneath all of it and what it actually takes to come back to yourself.

Inside this episode, we get into:

• How self-abandonment hides behind being a good provider and protector

• Why men slide into codependency and people-pleasing without realizing it

• Covert contracts, doing things for your partner while quietly expecting something back

• What it means to perform love instead of giving it freely

• How emotional safety starts within you

• The role nervous system regulation plays in healthy relationships

• Why you can't give others a sense of safety and worth you haven't built in yourself first

• The "healthy man blueprint," choosing who you want to be on purpose

• How to keep your role and value as a man without losing yourself in the relationship

This is the story of a man finding his way back to himself, and the kind of awareness that changes how you show up for everyone around you. If any of it sounded familiar, that's the work, and it's worth doing.

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