By Stephanie Winn
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In this episode, I have the privilege of speaking with Vaishnavi Sundar, a self-taught filmmaker and advocate for women's rights, about her groundbreaking documentary, Behind the Looking Glass. This film delves into the often-overlooked experiences of women whose male partners “transition,” shedding light on the emotional turmoil and coercive control they face. Why is it that these women, often silenced and marginalized, feel compelled to redefine their identities in the shadow of their partners?
Vaishnavi shares powerful insights into the dynamics of narcissism and gaslighting that permeate these relationships. How do societal expectations and gender ideology contribute to the erasure of these women's voices? As we explore the metaphor of the "looking glass," we uncover the disturbing reality of men who, in their quest for self-identity, leave their partners feeling like mere ghosts of their former selves.
What happens when these women finally muster the courage to leave? What challenges do they face in reclaiming their autonomy and identity? Join us as we navigate these complex questions and hear the poignant stories of resilience and hope from those who have endured this unique form of domestic violence. You won't want to miss this eye-opening conversation that challenges the narratives surrounding gender identity and the often-unseen victims of this movement.
Watch Behind the Looking Glass on YouTube.
Vaishnavi Sundar is a writer and a self-taught filmmaker from Chennai, India. Through her films, she advocates for the rights of women and girls worldwide. She founded Lime Soda Films about a decade ago with the aim of highlighting themes of social justice, women’s empowerment and education. She is the Founder of Women Making Films (WMF) – a platform for female filmmakers to collaborate and create works of art, and has the privilege to host the work of members from more than 20 countries. Follow her on X @Vaishax.
00:00 Start
[00:02:08] Trans widows and their experiences.
[00:04:03] Narcissism and gender ideology.
[00:09:13] Women's experiences in relationships.
[00:12:19] Marital struggles and gender ideology.
[00:18:59] Women's voices in transitions.
[00:20:25] Questions about gender identity.
[00:24:17] Prenuptial agreements and women's rights.
[00:30:14] Emotional boundaries in relationships.
[00:32:25] Disgust in gender identity changes.
[00:39:08] Protective instinct in abuse situations.
[00:42:57] Defining identity beyond trauma.
[00:46:16] Supporting trans widows and families.
[00:51:46] Support for women in distress.
[00:52:17] Reassurance for women in abuse.
[00:55:48] Radical love and understanding.
[01:01:44] Transitioning and identity complexities.
[01:04:03] Identity and self-perception struggles.
[01:09:08] Creative career shift in India.
[01:11:23] Filmmaking as a personal outlet.
[01:17:21] Workplace sexual harassment in India.
[01:19:35] Gender ideology and women's safety.
[01:24:09] Pornography's impact on society.
[01:29:58] Women's struggles in a multicultural society.
[01:31:20] Domestic violence and helplessness.
[01:35:54] Women's rights in rural India.
[01:39:50] Anger as creative fuel.
[01:43:59] Compassion and anger connection.
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SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.
MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.
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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
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I’m grateful to share a portion of my most recent conversation with Josh Slocum from the Disaffected podcast, where we dive deep into the complexities surrounding Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria (ROGD) and my new program, ROGD Repair. Have you ever wondered how cluster B personality traits intertwine with gender identity ideology to create a perfect storm for vulnerable youth? What if the very beliefs that are meant to empower these young people are actually leading them down a path of confusion and harm?
As we explore the trifecta of social contagion—gender identity ideology, woke beliefs about social justice, and cluster B personality traits—I reveal how these elements can distort the way adolescents perceive themselves and their relationships. What are the common pitfalls parents face when trying to connect with their children caught in this whirlwind? Can more information actually backfire when trying to reach a child who feels morally superior?
Join us as we unpack the psychological vulnerabilities at play and discuss practical strategies for parents to navigate these turbulent waters. How can understanding the dynamics of splitting and projection help parents regain their footing? Tune in to discover the answers and learn how ROGD Repair can empower families to foster healthier communication and understanding.
Josh Slocum is the host of the weekly show Disaffected, available on Youtube and all usual podcast platforms. Disaffected examines politics and culture through a psychological point of view. Josh's experience coming from an abusive childhood informs the show's working premise that the psychological narcissistic abuse found in families now structures our public life. Follow him on X @disaffectedpod. This episode was borrowed from episode 187 of Disaffected, Old Man Yells at Cloud. Find this podcast and more of Josh’s work at disaffected.com.
00:00 Start
[00:01:43] Trifecta of social contagion.
[00:06:25] ROGD Repair and family support.
[00:08:25] Gender identity ideology's impact.
[00:12:01] Course and community for parents.
[00:15:09] More information doesn't help.
[00:22:00] Cluster B personality disorders.
[00:24:21] Grandiosity in identity politics.
[00:27:52] Projected doubt in parenting.
[00:32:04] ROGD parent community dynamics.
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SUPPORT THE SHOW: subscribe, like, comment, & share or donate.
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Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.
MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.
PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.
To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
In this episode, I sit down with my good friend Anita Bartholomew, who is deep into writing her upcoming book, "Sacrificial Lambs," which explores the alarming indoctrination happening in our K-12 education system. Have you ever wondered how children are being taught about gender identity in first grade? What happens when the lines between education and ideology blur?
Anita shares her journey from being a traditional liberal to confronting the radical shifts in educational content, particularly around queer theory and gender ideology. We discuss the troubling rise in young people identifying as transgender and the role schools play in this phenomenon. How are children being primed for these beliefs, and what impact does this have on their mental health?
We dive into shocking examples of curriculum materials that normalize complex and abstract concepts about gender for young children. Are teachers equipped to handle such sensitive topics, or are they overstepping their bounds? As we unravel these issues, we also touch on the implications of comprehensive sexual education and the troubling trend of keeping parents in the dark. What does this mean for the future of our children? Tune in to discover the answers and more as we navigate this critical conversation.
For almost three decades, Anita Bartholomew has been one of Reader’s Digest’s top reporters, and a contributing editor to the magazine for eight of those years. She’s covered a vast range of stories over the course of her career. But what’s always animated her writing, no matter the topic, is her focus on the people involved, how they coped with the extraordinary events affecting their lives. Her current book project, about how the trans cult targets kids, combines in-depth reporting and analysis with vignettes about the real people trying to maintain sanity in what amounts to a mass psychosis afflicting nearly all of the western world. She is the co-author of the award-winning medical memoir SOMETHING TO PROVE, and the author of SIEGE, about the January 6, 2021 US Capitol uprising. Two of her narratives have been adapted as TV movies, one for Netflix and another for Lifetime. AnitaBartholomew.com
Books mentioned in this episode:
All books mentioned on this podcast can be found at sometherapist.com/bookshop
00:00 Start
[00:01:32] Indoctrination of children.
[00:08:25] Queer theory and social justice.
[00:10:07] Queer theory in education.
[00:16:41] Predation in gender identity discourse.
[00:19:16] Gender identity teaching in schools.
[00:25:23] Teacher's role in sexual education.
[00:28:00] Innocence of childhood crushes.
[00:34:45] Pornographic content in education.
[00:36:39] School curriculum and anti-bullying.
[00:44:51] Diagram of a thousand genitals.
[00:46:00] Planned Parenthood and gender clinics.
[00:52:00] Fourth grade girls and furries.
[00:55:04] Intersex and genitalia misconceptions.
[01:01:39] Gender identity and inclusion in education.
[01:06:04] Gender education in schools.
[01:09:14] Puberty blockers and children.
[01:12:42] Sexualization of children in education.
[01:19:19] Furries and sexual role-playing.
[01:21:45] Predators disguising in society.
[01:29:32] Sympathy for monsters and boundaries.
[01:31:26] The battle between good and evil.
[01:36:24] Cultural shifts and individual responsibility.
[01:40:56] Understanding January 6th participants.
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Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.
MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.
PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.
To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
Learn more about Do No Harm.
Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.
Take 20% off all superfood beverages with code SOMETHERAPIST at Organifi.
Check out my shop for book recommendations + wellness products.
Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order.
Laura Wiley Haynes returns to shed light on the complex intergenerational aspects of the current gender crisis. Why do so many young people today seem unable to launch into adulthood, remaining perennially online and disembodied, reportedly held back by feelings they label “dysphoria?” What developmental shifts have occurred in parenting over the last few generations that might explain this phenomenon?
Laura shares her insights on how the lack of dyadic care—one-on-one nurturing relationships—has contributed to a generation of children who struggle with self-perception and emotional regulation. Could the rise of screens and social media be robbing our kids of the deep, relational connections they need to thrive? We explore the implications of group care environments and how they may hinder the development of essential social skills.
As we discuss the alarming trend of young adults romanticizing their emotional turmoil, I ask: what happens when a young man on estrogen experiences mood swings reminiscent of a teenage girl? Is this a sign of deeper unresolved issues? Join us as we unpack these critical questions and more, revealing the intricate web of attachment, trauma, and the urgent need for effective parenting in today’s world. Tune in to discover how we can better support our children in navigating their identities and emotions.
Laura Wiley Haynes is a writer, a mother & grandmother, and a former CASA. Follow her on X @haynes_wiley.
Books mentioned in this episode:
Emotional Blackmail by Dr. Susan Forward
Episodes mentioned:
123. Identity-Based OCD: Dr. Elliot Kaminetzky on Trans & the Fear of Living Inauthentically
00:00 Start
[00:01:41] Intergenerational aspects of gender crisis.
[00:06:46] Impaired grownups and child distress.
[00:11:21] Early attachment trauma effects.
[00:13:06] Developmental needs and selfhood.
[00:19:39] Self-regulation and emotional responses.
[00:22:50] Authenticity and children's identity struggles.
[00:27:39] Boundaries and communication in parenting.
[00:30:28] Parenting teenagers and communication.
[00:34:26] Parenting and cultural changes.
[00:40:23] Failure to launch in youth.
[00:44:56] Parenting and boundaries for children.
[00:49:21] Authority in parenting dynamics.
[00:51:33] Strategic apologizing in parenting.
[00:57:07] Boundary setting in parenting.
[01:00:25] Parenting and children's disappointment.
[01:03:34] Parental honesty in difficult discussions.
[01:08:41] Reading between the lines.
[01:14:15] Cluster B behaviors and attachment.
[01:15:34] Cluster B relationships and control.
[01:20:40] Parenting and setting boundaries.
[01:24:40] The importance of saying no.
[01:29:09] Parenting and setting boundaries.
[01:34:52] Identity instability and self-perception.
[01:37:39] Hostage negotiation techniques.
ROGD REPAIR Course + Community for Parents is available now! Join at ROGDrepair.com and start using the tools immediately. Use code SOMETHERAPIST2024 to take 50% off your first month.
TALK TO ME: book a discovery call.
LOCALS: Ask questions of me & guests; get early access to new episodes + exclusive content. Join my community.
SUPPORT THE SHOW: subscribe, like, comment, & share or donate.
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ORGANIFI: Take 20% off Organifi with code SOMETHERAPIST.
COZYEARTH: Visit CozyEarth.com/sometherapist and use code SOMETHERAPIST for 40% off their selection of bedding, towels, skincare and other cozy home items.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.
MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.
PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.
To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
Learn more about Do No Harm.
Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.
Take 20% off all superfood beverages with code SOMETHERAPIST at Organifi.
Check out my shop for book recommendations + wellness products.
Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
Like so many other young women I’ve met in my counseling career, Taylor was prescribed both SSRI antidepressants and hormonal birth control shortly after she hit puberty, and remained on both types of pills until her 20’s, impacting her libido, identity, body image, and self-esteem. Somewhere along the way, she developed gender dysphoria and a fixation on the idea that becoming a “trans man” would solve her psychological problems. But when she stopped taking meds, her “dysphoria” lifted like a fog. What happened here? And what can Taylor’s story tell us about the possibility of a massively underreported iatrogenic pipeline of young women being ushered from hormonal contraceptives and SSRI’s at puberty, to testosterone and mastectomies in their 20’s after years of low libido and identity instability?
Due to the many years Taylor Murphy spent thinking she was transgender and wanting to transition into a man, she now shares her cured experience of gender dysphoria and how it was related to the medication she was on. She shares her concerns on the side effects of medication and transition. Follow her on X @taymurph26
Books mentioned in this episode:
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00:00 Start
[00:00:47] The impact of medication on identity.
[00:06:42] Effects of hormonal birth control.
[00:09:34] Mental health and medication effects.
[00:14:51] Feeling trapped in gender identity.
[00:18:16] Exploring gender identity and expression.
[00:22:11] Inner struggles with transition.
[00:23:42] ROGD Repair Course + Community for Parents.
[00:25:42] Parenting and questioning gender identity.
[00:27:38] Gender Identity Struggles
[00:32:55] Awakening after medication withdrawal.
[00:37:35] How birth control affects psychology.
[00:41:58] Gender dysphoria and hormonal effects.
[00:44:27] Medication impact on gender identity.
[00:48:24] Life after overcoming dysphoria.
[00:52:35] Medication and managing emotions.
[00:55:57] Adolescence and resilience.
[00:59:33] Discovering teenage sexuality.
ROGD REPAIR Course + Community for Parents is available now! Join at ROGDrepair.com and start using the tools immediately. Use code SOMETHERAPIST2024 to take 50% off your first month.
TALK TO ME: book a discovery call.
LOCALS: Ask questions of me & guests; get early access to new episodes + exclusive content. Join my community.
SUPPORT THE SHOW: subscribe, like, comment, & share or donate.
EIGHTSLEEP: Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST.
ORGANIFI: Take 20% off Organifi with code SOMETHERAPIST.
COZYEARTH: Visit CozyEarth.com/sometherapist and use code SOMETHERAPIST for 40% off their selection of bedding, towels, skincare and other cozy home items.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.
MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.
PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.
To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
Learn more about Do No Harm.
Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.
Take 20% off all superfood beverages with code SOMETHERAPIST at Organifi.
Check out my shop for book recommendations + wellness products.
Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
Parents of trans-identified adolescents and young adults need educational resources that go beyond merely explaining why gender ideology and medicalization are harmful. They need tools that help them understand the psychological state their adolescent and young adult children are in, and teach them different approaches to communicating that are more likely to succeed than to backfire given their kids’ state of mind.
I created The ROGD Repair Course and Community with this in mind. It’s a comprehensive toolkit designed to empower concerned parents to help get their kids out of this mess while restoring their relationships — and their sanity.
ROGD Repair is a promising new program designed to equip parents of trans-identified adolescents and young adults with a comprehensive and customizable toolkit of psychology concepts and communication skills, curated specifically to help them walk their children toward desistance while protecting parents’ own sanity.
Imagine if parents of “trans” identified kids actually had a way to walk them out of this mess, wisely and strategically, and bring them home to safety and sanity.
Imagine if every new ROGD parent knew which pitfalls to avoid when communicating with zealous adolescents and young adults. What if, instead, these parents could skillfully apply time-tested communication techniques, suited to address the mental state of gender-confused youth? What if the youth’s own fears and motivations could actually lead them toward health, harmony and wholeness?
What if parents could protect their sanity and their most important relationships at the same time, all while improving their odds of rescuing their children from the clutches of a harmful ideology before any bodily harm takes place?
The ROGD Repair Course + Community for Parents is designed to do all of that. And now, it’s available to the public, at a fraction of the cost of coaching.
Parents can learn the tools from 90+ video and written lessons on their own time and begin implementing them immediately. Discuss the Reflection Questions with their spouse or a buddy, or journal straight into the program. Ask questions, share insights, and request new topics in the community forums.
Right now I am offering the first 100 people to enroll post-launch an incredible offer that won’t come again. Coupon code FIRST100 takes 50% off every month a student remains enrolled in the program, for as long as they need to stay. Simply visit ROGDrepair.com and enter the code FIRST100 at checkout to use this offer. This special offer is my way of saying thanks for being part of the launching phase of this project, while we are still building a robust community.
If that code has been used up, you can still use code SOMETHERAPIST2024 to take 50% off your first month until the end of the year.
If you have an audience of your own who you think would want to know about ROGD Repair (eg., a popular podcast or blog), and you would consider promoting this resource, reach out to me with your website and a bit about you, and I will give you access to the course so you can check it out. [email protected].
00:00 Start
[00:02:40] ROGD Repair explained.
[00:07:21] Creating accessible educational tools.
[00:10:45] ROGD Repair.
[00:13:35] Family systems view and gender ideology.
[00:17:19] Talking to kids about detransitioners.
[00:20:30] Detransitioning and transphobia.
[00:24:37] Parenting and health concerns.
[00:28:10] Combating gender identity ideology.
[00:33:46] Female-specific issues.
[00:36:03] Reducing Screen Time Techniques.
[00:41:14] Parenting and activism balance.
[00:44:37] Double binds in parenting.
[00:48:34] Assertive communication techniques.
[00:52:18] Therapeutic communication techniques
[00:55:22] Recognizing signs of uncertainty.
[00:57:19] ROGD Repair offering.
[01:03:00] Special discount offers.
[01:08:03] A total game changer.
[01:11:13] Overcoming challenges in success.
[01:14:26] Battling gender ideology.
TALK TO ME: book a discovery call.
LOCALS: Ask questions of me & guests; get early access to new episodes + exclusive content. Join my community.
SUPPORT THE SHOW: subscribe, like, comment, & share or donate.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.
MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.
PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.
To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
Learn more about Do No Harm.
Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.
Take 20% off all superfood beverages with code SOMETHERAPIST at Organifi.
Check out my shop for book recommendations + wellness products.
Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
Have a question for me? Looking to go deep...
Dr. Elliot Kaminetzky is a child and adolescent psychologist specializing in parenting based interventions for child anxiety, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, and behavioral challenges. He received his PhD at Hofstra University. Dr. Kaminetzky is the founder and clinical director of My OCD Care and The Center for Child Behavioral Health. Dr. Kaminetzky has publicly spoken out against unethical practices in the area of pediatric gender medicine and the silencing of concerned medical and mental health professionals. Recognizing the challenges parents face in parenting children with gender related concerns, Dr. Kaminetzky founded Serenity Parent Consulting to provide parents with accurate information, useful resources, and emotional support.
Together, we delve into the intriguing world of identity-based OCD. We explore the fears and obsessions associated with OCD, from concerns about being in the wrong body to the fear of living inauthentically. But what if these fears are not just about identity but also about the fear of being ordinary? How do these fears manifest in transgender-identifying young people, and what role does societal influence play in shaping their identities?
We uncover the complexities of OCD, from intrusive thoughts to compulsive behaviors, and how they can impact one's sense of self. How do individuals with OCD navigate the fine line between seeking reassurance and finding inner validation? And what happens when therapy becomes a battleground for seeking external validation versus trusting one's own judgment?
Join us as we unravel the layers of identity-based OCD, exploring the nuances of authenticity, societal constructs, and the quest for certainty in a world filled with uncertainties. Tune in to discover how individuals grapple with their fears, seeking validation from external sources while yearning for inner peace and self-acceptance.
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[00:00:22] Identity-based themes in OCD.
[00:04:41] Trauma and public shaming.
[00:10:28] Therapists' differing beliefs.
[00:15:18] Fear of ordinariness.
[00:18:48] Identity and societal expectations.
[00:22:45] Identity-based OCD.
[00:28:26] Fear of being ordinary.
[00:30:34] Fear of being ordinary.
[00:37:21] Maladaptive beliefs about identity.
[00:38:50] Fluidity of Male Sexuality.
[00:44:19] Intrusive thoughts and OCD.
[00:49:43] Mild OCD in therapy.
[00:51:38] OCD therapy techniques.
[00:56:03] Pain reprocessing therapy and acceptance.
[00:59:57] Finding your life's mission.
[01:05:21] Exposure therapy in podcasting.
[01:09:17] Gender-related OCD.
[01:12:24] Gender identity and mental health.
[01:17:22] Cultural changes regarding suicide.
[01:19:44] Gender crisis.
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Audra's firsthand experiences with heinous crimes provide a chilling insight into the lack of guilt and empathy in certain offenders. What drives these individuals to commit such atrocities? How do they navigate the world with a narrow focus on their selfish and sadistic desires, devoid of remorse?
As the conversation unfolds, we touch on the importance of mothering in the 21st century and the delicate balance between protecting children and navigating societal norms. We discuss the risks associated with daycare and the need for vigilant screening of caregivers. What red flags should parents watch out for? How can they ensure their child's safety in a world where predators lurk in unexpected places?
The episode takes a thought-provoking turn as we explore the complexities of mental health services and the challenges faced by individuals with various conditions. From the need for social skills training for autistic young adults to the debate surrounding the treatment of chronic offenders with antisocial traits, the conversation delves into the gaps in the current system. But where do these individuals truly belong? Are prisons the answer, or is there a need for more specialized care? Tune in to uncover the answers to these pressing questions and more.
Audra Worlow has a Bachelors of Applied Health Science from BGSU. She worked in criminal law for her local county prosecutor's office for five years dealing with homicide and sex crimes, before leaving the field to focus on her family and writing. She is Catholic as well as a Conservatarian. She writes about science, politics, culture, humor, and morality. Follow her on X at @audrawrongspeak
Books mentioned in this episode:
00:00 Start
[00:01:45] Mothering in the 21st century.
[00:06:18] Daycare safety concerns.
[00:09:19] Choosing a trustworthy babysitter.
[00:14:36] Reading physiological cues in gerbils.
[00:19:49] Stepfathers' hidden motives.
[00:22:27] Stepparenting and relationship dynamics.
[00:26:09] Stepmothers and abusive behavior.
[00:30:36] Living in a rape culture.
[00:35:52] Grooming in abusive situations.
[00:37:42] The nature of sexual impulses.
[00:42:54] Lack of empathy in criminals.
[00:48:31] Autistic young adults and identity.
[00:52:51] Criminal justice and mental health.
[00:55:35] Bipolar disorder and borderline personality.
[00:58:26] Mental health and stigma.
[01:01:18] Conflicting values and bodily autonomy.
[01:07:26] Hormones and mental health consequences.
[01:10:33] Personality disorders in trans-identified people.
[01:14:32] Personality disorders in society.
[01:19:02] Religious element in detransitioning.
[01:23:07] Gaslighting and manipulation techniques.
[01:28:14] Envy and resentment in relationships.
[01:30:13] Surgeons and psychopathy.
[01:34:34] Injecting cross-sex hormones into others.
[01:37:51] The gender crisis.
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Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
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Jane Wise is a certified addictions counselor who, like me, provides both individual and group support for parents of ROGD kids. After learning that parents who questioned their children's gender identity were not only lacking in support, but were being called bigots and transphobes just for worrying about their kids, Jane decided to use her skills as a group counselor to help provide a space for them to support each other.
In this episode, we compare and contrast our approaches to helping ROGD parents, work that occupies relatively new and uncharted territory in a cultural and political landscape that remains hostile toward the concerns of both parents and mental health professionals. Jane shares her personal evolution from a staunch supporter of the trans movement to a critical observer, shedding light on the struggles faced by parents navigating rapid onset gender dysphoria in their children.
The episode touches on the delicate balance between offering support and avoiding enabling harmful decisions, drawing parallels between addiction dynamics and gender identity exploration. We discuss the emotional turmoil experienced by parents, the impact of societal pressures, and the importance of maintaining hope amidst uncertainty. We explore the concept of motivational interviewing and its application in guiding parents through difficult conversations with their children. I also share a sneak preview of a few concepts from my upcoming course for parents.
Jane Wise is a certified addictions counselor who facilitates one of the regional, monthly parent support groups for Parents of ROGD Kids. Jane is not a parent herself, but after learning that parents who questioned their children's gender identity were not only lacking in support, but were being called bigots and transphobes just for worrying about their kids, she decided to use her skills as a group counselor to help provide a space for them to support each other. Jane also provides free individual support to parents of ROGD kids by appointment, and they do not have to belong to the support group she facilitates.
Books mentioned in this episode can be found via these Amazon affiliate links:
- Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss
- The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt
Check out the rest of my recommendations for ROGD parents in the second section down in my bookshop.
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00:00 Start
[00:01:10] Supporting parents of ROGD kids.
[00:04:29] Detransitioners and changing perspectives.
[00:09:25] Parental dynamics in transition.
[00:13:32] Maintaining Connection with Trans Children
[00:16:15] Cluster B personality traits.
[00:19:57] Catch-22 situation.
[00:21:41] Double binds in parenting.
[00:28:23] Parenting and problem-solving strategies.
[00:31:12] Motivational interviewing technique
[00:35:17] Addiction and gender exploration.
[00:37:32] The nature of gender ideology.
[00:40:08] The nature of evil.
[00:44:31] The concept of being an ally.
[00:50:52] Love and limits in parenting.
[00:54:29] Parenting challenges and dynamics.
[00:57:02] Cluster B personality traits.
[01:01:22] Moral psychology and disgust.
[01:05:16] Powerful, destructive habit.
[01:09:16] Puberty blockers and suicide rates.
[01:13:40] Destructive vs. good addictions.
[01:15:03] Recognizing harms of gender affirmation.
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MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.
To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
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My good friend Amy Sousa is a brave and resilient woman presently battling stage 3 breast cancer. We delve into the complex emotions and decisions Amy faces as she navigates her cancer journey. Amy shares her unique perspective on the significance of breasts, challenging societal norms and gender ideology. We explore the impact of cancer on her embodiment activism and the importance of self-acceptance and love.
Amy discusses her holistic approach to treatment, incorporating a metabolic approach alongside traditional chemotherapy. We uncover the power of nutrition and lifestyle choices in supporting the body's natural healing processes.
We explore the boundaries and intersections between the psyche and the body in the context of illness. Why might people who identify as transgender claim to have “phantom limb sensations” about body parts they’ve never had? And when cosmetic, optional, life-shortening procedures are reframed as “medically necessary,” how does this affect the flow of medical resources toward those truly in need?
Join us as we unravel the complexities of cancer treatment, the mind-body connection, and the resilience of the human spirit.
Amy E. Sousa holds a MA in Depth Psychology. She is a women's rights activist, lecturer, and educator, with an expertise in embodiment. She holds one-on-one coaching, teaches classes, and facilitates workshops to help women strengthen their intuition. She also posts educational videos about embodiment & boundaries on her YouTube. Sousa has organized multiple rallies, protests, and free speech events on behalf of women/girls sex-based safeguarding provisions and against the unnecessary medicalization of children. For more about Amy follow her on Twitter, Instagram, & TikTok @KnownHeretic, on Substack at theknownheretic.com, or on YouTube @KnownHeretic.
00:00 Start
[00:00:00] Breast cancer and gender identity.
[00:05:19] Embodiment and breast cancer.
[00:09:49] Self-acceptance and body image.
[00:15:05] Elective surgeries and privilege.
[00:18:31] D-trans women's reproductive challenges.
[00:22:03] Identity and authenticity.
[00:28:42] The pleasure of having breasts.
[00:32:00] Sensation and personal choices.
[00:38:08] Gender role-playing among men.
[00:40:18] Phantom limb sensations.
[00:43:33] Obsessive thoughts and compulsions.
[00:47:03] Ketosis and cancer treatment.
[00:52:33] Gender-affirming care and passive models.
[00:56:26] Neuroplasticity and self-fulfilling prophecies.
[01:03:24] Resilience and self-identity.
[01:07:11] Internalizing vs. externalizing behavior.
[01:11:07] Misdiagnosing depression as abuse.
[01:15:06] Self-diagnosis in mental health.
[01:20:38] Time blindness and consequences.
[01:22:23] Time blindness in modern society.
[01:25:17] Cancer and self-reflection.
To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
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