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Even if you’ve been following my work for a while, you’re not going to believe how bad the state of affairs has gotten when it comes to postgraduate education in counseling psychology — until you hear from today’s guest.
Ryan Rogers, a student currently pursuing a masters degree in the hopes of becoming a therapist, joins me to discuss the troubling trends he's observed in mental health education. Ryan shares his personal journey, including his background in addiction and the motivation behind his pursuit of a counseling career. We delve into the alarming shift in graduate programs, where political activism often takes precedence over the core principles of therapy.
Ryan highlights his experiences in classes that prioritize critical theory over practical skills, leaving students ill-equipped to address the real needs of their clients. We explore the implications of this shift, particularly in relation to suicide prevention, addiction treatment, and the importance of cultural competency. Ryan raises critical questions about the role of therapists: should they be activists for so-called social justice, or should they focus on helping individuals navigate their personal struggles?
Throughout our conversation, we examine the consequences of substituting genuine therapeutic training with ideological indoctrination. As we unpack these issues, we aim to shed light on the future of counseling psychology and the urgent need for a return to a client-centered approach that prioritizes healing over activism.
Ryan Rogers is a graduate student in clinical mental health counseling. He has a bachelor’s degree in psychology and work history in addiction treatment.
Twitter/X: @RyanMcRogers
Upcoming book: The Woke Mind: The Twisted Psychology of the Social Justice Movement (Social Justice Fanaticism Book 6) - Kindle edition by Rogers, Ryan
View my complete list of book recommendations, including those written by authors who have been guests on this show, at https://sometherapist.com/bookshop.
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00:00 Start
[00:02:30] Counseling program concerns and indoctrination.
[00:04:18] Activism in therapy training.
[00:08:22] Cultural competency in therapy.
[00:10:37] American perfectionism vs. Mexican culture.
[00:17:12] Counseling grad programs' effectiveness.
[00:18:22] Teaching quality in psychology classes.
[00:24:01] ROGD Repair for parents.
[00:27:16] Common humanity versus identity markers.
[00:31:06] Wokeness in academic environments.
[00:34:12] Lack of experienced educators.
[00:38:58] Counseling theories in academia.
[00:42:46] Counseling versus Social Justice Advocacy.
[00:45:04] Self-beliefs and mental health.
[00:51:06] Antinatalist views and human nature.
[00:52:57] Normlessness in society and therapy.
[00:58:00] The Ethical Slut in Counseling.
[01:00:45] Attachment theory and relationships.
[01:04:44] Therapy and its societal perceptions.
[01:09:03] Intersectionality and Religion Evaluation.
[01:12:24] Pride in Professional Experience.
[01:16:20] Hate and envy in activism.
[01:20:54] The downfall of counseling profession.
[01:24:51] Therapy and political discontent.
[01:29:56] Transition in kids.
[01:30:41] Limits of gender dysphoria treatment.
[01:34:13] Tribalism and cultural biases.
[01:38:48] Understanding social justice radicalism.
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Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation...
Has modern therapy become a hostile environment towards Jewish people? I sit down with Malka Shaw, a licensed clinical social worker and trauma therapist, to delve into the pressing issue of anti-Semitism and its psychological implications. Malka shares her experiences as a therapist and the challenges Jewish clients face in therapy, particularly in light of recent events that have heightened anti-Semitic sentiments. We discuss the inappropriate remarks some therapists make, which can invalidate the experiences of their Jewish clients, and how this reflects a broader trend of misunderstanding and bias within the mental health field.
Malka also introduces her organization, Kesher Shalom, which aims to provide education and support for Jewish communities while addressing the cultural accommodations needed in mental health practices. We explore the concept of anti-Semitism as a form of racism, the historical context of Jews as scapegoats, and the psychological mechanisms that allow such biases to persist. Malka clarifies the true meaning of Zionism and why the rise of anti-Zionist sentiments concern her. Throughout our conversation, we question why anti-Semitism is often overlooked and how it serves as a warning sign for societal health.
Malka Shaw, LCSW (licensed in NJ, NY, and Florida), is a psychotherapist and trauma expert with over 25 years of experience in the mental health field. Specializing in trauma recovery using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), she has built a private practice focusing on women’s wellness, relationship dynamics, and maternal health. Malka also provides clinical supervision, and consultation, develops continuing education courses on trauma and antisemitism; and often presents at professional events. Drawing on her experience with large-scale trauma, Malka founded Kesher Shalom Projects following the devastating events of October 7th. KSP's mission is to provide education and professional development on mental health and antisemitism, critical for building resilience within Jewish communities. By helping others understand the psychology behind antisemitic propaganda and its impact on society, Kesher Shalom offers valuable insights for combating antisemitism and supporting those affected.
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Malka’s next training for therapists, coming up December 2, 2024: Navigating Trauma: GUARD System Techniques for Addressing Symptoms from Antisemitism and Prolonged Stress
Books mentioned in this episode are listed below.
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00:00 Start
[00:01:21] Psychology of antisemitism and impact.
[00:03:44] Mental health education gaps.
[00:09:08] Anti-Semitism in healthcare settings.
[00:11:18] Therapist validation of Jewish concerns.
[00:17:36] Multi-ethnic identity of Jews.
[00:19:56] Targeted hate crimes statistics.
[00:24:16] Defining anti-Semitism and its nuances.
[00:27:07] Jews as universal scapegoat.
[00:30:22] Jewish identity and resilience.
[00:33:44] Responsibilities of the chosen people.
[00:37:34] Moral disengagement and accountability.
[00:41:27] Moral disengagement and gaslighting.
[00:48:22] Defining Zionism and its implications.
[00:51:14] Right to live in our land.
[00:56:00] Peaceful coexistence in the Middle East.
[00:57:41] The meaning of Zionism.
[01:01:49] Importance of diverse opinions.
[01:06:08] Jewish culture and moral compass.
[01:09:51] Cultural competency and anti-Semitism.
[01:11:35] Gender crisis and care.
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Why is it so hard to find a trustworthy physician? Dr. Andrew Zywiec has chosen to practice medicine as a licensed tribal practitioner through the First Nation Medical Board in order to allow him the freedom to operate according to his conscience. What is his inside perspective on the moral and ethical crossroads many aspiring healers find themselves navigating in today’s politicized, money-corrupted healthcare landscape?
We dive into the complexities surrounding gender dysphoria, exploring how it often intersects with trauma, anxiety, and depression. Dr. Zywiec shares his perspective on the current medical landscape, particularly the challenges parents face in finding trustworthy doctors for their trans-identified youth.
We discuss the evolution of the "standard of care" in treating gender dysphoria, highlighting how it has shifted from a more holistic approach to one that prioritizes affirmation and fast-tracks medicalization without addressing underlying issues. Dr. Zywiec emphasizes the importance of both critical thinking and intuition in medicine and critiques the algorithmic nature of modern medical practices, which can lead to a lack of personalized care.
We also break down the concept of “medical necessity” and how it has been manipulated within the healthcare system, particularly in relation to insurance practices. I question whether “gender affirming” practitioners are in fact committing insurance fraud.
Dr. Zywiec graduated medical school in 2019 with Distinction in Research and the Research Commendation Award, then left hospital medicine in 2023 due to ethical objections to current vaccine practices as well as the pharmacological castration and surgical mutilation of children. Dr. Zywiec actively fought against COVID mandates and “gender affirming care” in minors, and is still involved in the fight against medical tyranny and censorship, working with healthcare professionals nationwide and leaders in both the Ohio and Michigan House of Representatives. Dr. Zywiec is active in pro-life advocacy, and cofounded Doctors Against Gender Affirming Care with Dr. Somil Viradia. If you are a doctor please sign their petition. Follow Dr. Zywiec on X @AndrewZywiecMD. Visit his website at ZywiecAndPorter.com.
Books mentioned in this episode:
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00:00 Start
[00:00:10] Trauma response in gender dysphoria.
[00:05:20] Freedom in medical practice.
[00:08:37] Sick care model profit motives.
[00:12:20] Standard of care in medicine.
[00:16:21] Disconnect from critical thinking.
[00:20:42] Surgical methods for mental illness.
[00:21:47] Chest Dysphoria Rating Scale.
[00:26:48] Insurance fraud in therapy.
[00:30:23] Tribal practitioner licensing explained.
[00:33:18] Anti-system doctors in medicine.
[00:35:42] Vaccine opinions and polarization.
[00:39:12] Vaccine injury and immune response.
[00:45:14] Vaccine safety concerns.
[00:48:46] Fragile early weeks of life.
[00:52:15] World without vaccines health benefits.
[00:53:23] Handwashing reduces infectious diseases.
[00:58:50] COVID response and civil liberties.
[01:01:22] Vaccine shedding and its effects.
[01:06:49] Long COVID mechanisms discussed.
[01:10:02] Long COVID and vaccine injury.
[01:11:16] Chronic illnesses post-COVID.
[01:15:19] Biological basis of gender dysphoria.
[01:18:39] Social contagion and mental health.
[01:22:27] Endocrine disruption in young men.
[01:25:31] Medication withdrawal effects on women.
[01:30:41] Finding a trustworthy doctor.
[01:32:41] Empowering patients in health care.
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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Jillian Spencer, a child and adolescent psychiatrist from Brisbane, Australia, who has found herself at the center of a heated debate surrounding so-called “gender-affirming care” for children. After raising concerns about the practices at her hospital's gender clinic, Jillian was suspended and is now embroiled in legal battles that could redefine workplace protections for those with gender-critical beliefs. What led her to take such a bold stand, and what are the implications for mental health care?
We explore the concepts in a not-yet-published paper Jillian recently co-authored with Dr. Roberto D’Angelo, analyzing the interpersonal dynamics between gender clinicians and their patients using psychodynamic theory. How do psychological dynamics such as repression, collusion, codependency, projection, and reaction formation play into relationships between distressed, vulnerable patients and the professionals who “affirm” them? And what are the risks involved in psychiatry’s shift away from psychodynamic thinking?
We analyze the alarming trend of fast-tracking youth with suicidal ideation to gender clinics and the dangerous message this sends to vulnerable adolescents, potentially incentivizing personality disordered behavior and risking permanently entrenching vulnerable people into problematic problems for life that they could have grown out of in adolescence if only provided with the proper support.
Jillian Spencer is a child and adolescent psychiatrist in Brisbane, Australia. In April 2023, she was stood down from her job at the Queensland Children’s Hospital for raising concerns about gender interventions for children. Since that time, she has spoken out in the Australian media about her concerns which has led to further allegations of breaching the employee Code of Conduct. She remains suspended from her job. Jillian has launched legal action claiming political discrimination in the workplace due to her belief in biological reality, that people can’t change sex, in the hope of achieving a Forstater decision in Australia. This court case will occur in early 2025. She is also awaiting an employment commission outcome as to whether she is officially a ‘whistleblower’. If so, this would help her to retain her hospital job. You can follow her on X @jilliantweeting
Note: I mentioned that an episode with James Esses would come out the week before Jillian’s. The timeline for the release of James’ episode has been pushed back a few weeks to allow him time to finish a project we hope to be able to announce with that episode. Be on the lookout for my conversation with James in November.
00:00 Start
[00:02:39] Psychodynamic thinking in therapy.
[00:05:36] Gender clinic referral practices.
[00:09:39] Suicidality and gender clinic access.
[00:12:20] Trans identity and self-harm.
[00:16:04] Parent-Child Dynamics in “Trans” Care.
[00:19:07] Gender clinic assessment validity.
[00:23:15] Whistleblower protections in Queensland.
[00:27:22] Political discrimination and beliefs.
[00:30:49] Multidisciplinary care model critique.
[00:34:43] Psychodynamic perspective in treatment.
[00:37:49] Clinician influence on therapy dynamics.
[00:44:36] Projection and hate in therapy.
[00:46:11] Power dynamics in gender clinics.
[00:50:35] Psychological health and gender distress.
[00:53:11] The wounded healer archetype.
[00:56:32] Transgender identity and empathy.
[01:00:17] Gender non-conforming youth sexuality.
[01:04:16] Downfall of psychotherapy.
[01:08:03] Self-care and well-being tips.
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Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow ...
In this episode, I sit down with Warren Smith, a passionate educator and critical thinker, who gained viral attention for his thought-provoking dialogue in which he used Socratic dialogue to question a student’s belief that “J.K. Rowling is transphobic.” We dive deep into the importance of teaching critical thinking skills in today's educational landscape, where echo chambers and social media often stifle independent thought. How can we encourage students to think for themselves amidst a flood of content and opinions?
Warren shares his experiences as a multimedia teacher, revealing the innovative ways he helps students become comfortable on camera and articulate their thoughts. But what happens when the very framework of education is challenged by administrative pressures and societal expectations? We explore the obstacles he faced in fostering a culture of open dialogue and critical inquiry.
As we discuss the implications of his viral video, Warren reflects on the repercussions it had on his career. Did he anticipate the fallout, and how did it change his teaching environment? We also touch on the broader cultural shifts in education and the challenges of navigating a landscape that often prioritizes conformity over creativity. What does the future hold for educators who dare to challenge the status quo?
Warren also turns the tables and interviews me, offering me an opportunity to articulate how I built my podcast, how my thoughts on gender ideology have taken shape over the past several years, and where my attitude toward the mental health profession currently stands.
Warren Smith is the founder of the Secret Scholars on YouTube. He is a volunteer firefighter, teacher and critical thinker.
00:00 Start
[00:01:16] Teaching critical thinking skills.
[00:05:30] Critical thinking in education.
[00:10:45] Workplace culture and leadership changes.
[00:13:40] Teaching critical thinking challenges.
[00:18:35] Movie industry critical thinking challenges.
[00:21:00] Democratization of content creation.
[00:24:31] Podcasting and audience engagement.
[00:29:17] Gender critical perspectives and challenges.
[00:30:34] Gender identity in therapy settings.
[00:35:58] Detransitioners and their experiences.
[00:40:43] ROGD Repair course for parents.
[00:42:23] Gender identity and its implications.
[00:46:39] Trans identity and cultural change.
[00:50:15] Therapy's purpose and expectations.
[00:56:39] Defining mental health challenges.
[00:58:30] Social contagion and mental health.
[01:02:20] Identity and emotional attachment.
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MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.
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Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
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Have you ever wondered why far left Gen Z activists idealize foreign cultures halfway across the planet while diminishing their own, to the point of holding beliefs that seem paradoxical or even delusional? Today’s brilliant guest, Maral Salmassi, helps us explore the complex dynamics of the "Queers for Palestine" movement and the sadomasochistic interpersonal dynamics that can emerge within woke culture.
Maral draws on the psychological frameworks of Erich Fromm to unpack the internal conflicts that fuel these behaviors. Are we witnessing a projection of powerlessness that leads to sadistic control over dissenting voices? As we navigate these intricate themes, we also touch on the implications of cluster B personality traits in social movements. In order to better understand ideologically captured youth, what do mature thinkers need to know about psychological phenomena such as splitting, projection, idealization and devaluation, and the Karpman Drama Triangle of victim, rescuer and persecutor?
What role does social media play in amplifying these dynamics, and how does it contribute to identity fragmentation among vulnerable individuals?
Join us as we dissect the paradoxes of ideological purity and the logical fallacies that can arise in the pursuit of social justice. Tune in to discover Maral's insights and my reflections on these pressing questions that resonate deeply in today's cultural landscape. Today’s format deviates from the norm as Maral reads a thoughtfully scripted monologue prepared exclusively for my listeners, and I respond with my asynchronous reflections.
Maral Salmassi was born in Tehran, Iran, and spent her early years in Iran, Jordan, and Israel, where her father was a diplomat under the Shah. Her mother, a literature teacher, nurtured her appreciation for culture and the arts. Following the fall of the Shah and the outbreak of the Iran-Iraq war, her family fled Iran in 1986, settling in Germany. Salmassi pursued an education in Media Art in Cologne, which provided a foundation for her future endeavors. She is also a self-taught music producer and sound engineer. Since 1997, she has shaped culture as an artist, producer, and entrepreneur, initially in Cologne and later in Berlin. Her work is influenced by her diverse cultural background and a strong interest in sociopolitics and psychology. She also spent a brief period living in France, contributing to her multicultural perspective.
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00:00 Start
[00:00:10] Ideological purity in woke culture.
[00:05:06] Sadomasochism in Queers for Palestine.
[00:08:07] Polarizing content and identity.
[00:12:20] Gameable heuristics in society.
[00:17:34] Victim mentality and self-interest.
[00:20:10] Reaction formation and its implications.
[00:24:46] Woke beliefs and self-interest.
[00:27:25] Sadomasochism and entitlement dynamics.
ROGD REPAIR Course + Community for Parents is available now! Are you concerned about an adolescent or young adult with Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria? Join at ROGDrepair.com and get instant access to over 100 lessons designed to equip you with the psychological insights and communication tools you need to get through to your kid. Use code SOMETHERAPIST2024 to take 50% off your first month.
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Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.
MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.
PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.
To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
Learn more about Do No Harm.
Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.
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Check out my shop for book recommendations + wellness products.
Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
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In this episode, I have the privilege of speaking with Vaishnavi Sundar, a self-taught filmmaker and advocate for women's rights, about her groundbreaking documentary, Behind the Looking Glass. This film delves into the often-overlooked experiences of women whose male partners “transition,” shedding light on the emotional turmoil and coercive control they face. Why is it that these women, often silenced and marginalized, feel compelled to redefine their identities in the shadow of their partners?
Vaishnavi shares powerful insights into the dynamics of narcissism and gaslighting that permeate these relationships. How do societal expectations and gender ideology contribute to the erasure of these women's voices? As we explore the metaphor of the "looking glass," we uncover the disturbing reality of men who, in their quest for self-identity, leave their partners feeling like mere ghosts of their former selves.
What happens when these women finally muster the courage to leave? What challenges do they face in reclaiming their autonomy and identity? Join us as we navigate these complex questions and hear the poignant stories of resilience and hope from those who have endured this unique form of domestic violence. You won't want to miss this eye-opening conversation that challenges the narratives surrounding gender identity and the often-unseen victims of this movement.
Watch Behind the Looking Glass on YouTube.
Vaishnavi Sundar is a writer and a self-taught filmmaker from Chennai, India. Through her films, she advocates for the rights of women and girls worldwide. She founded Lime Soda Films about a decade ago with the aim of highlighting themes of social justice, women’s empowerment and education. She is the Founder of Women Making Films (WMF) – a platform for female filmmakers to collaborate and create works of art, and has the privilege to host the work of members from more than 20 countries. Follow her on X @Vaishax.
00:00 Start
[00:02:08] Trans widows and their experiences.
[00:04:03] Narcissism and gender ideology.
[00:09:13] Women's experiences in relationships.
[00:12:19] Marital struggles and gender ideology.
[00:18:59] Women's voices in transitions.
[00:20:25] Questions about gender identity.
[00:24:17] Prenuptial agreements and women's rights.
[00:30:14] Emotional boundaries in relationships.
[00:32:25] Disgust in gender identity changes.
[00:39:08] Protective instinct in abuse situations.
[00:42:57] Defining identity beyond trauma.
[00:46:16] Supporting trans widows and families.
[00:51:46] Support for women in distress.
[00:52:17] Reassurance for women in abuse.
[00:55:48] Radical love and understanding.
[01:01:44] Transitioning and identity complexities.
[01:04:03] Identity and self-perception struggles.
[01:09:08] Creative career shift in India.
[01:11:23] Filmmaking as a personal outlet.
[01:17:21] Workplace sexual harassment in India.
[01:19:35] Gender ideology and women's safety.
[01:24:09] Pornography's impact on society.
[01:29:58] Women's struggles in a multicultural society.
[01:31:20] Domestic violence and helplessness.
[01:35:54] Women's rights in rural India.
[01:39:50] Anger as creative fuel.
[01:43:59] Compassion and anger connection.
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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
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I’m grateful to share a portion of my most recent conversation with Josh Slocum from the Disaffected podcast, where we dive deep into the complexities surrounding Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria (ROGD) and my new program, ROGD Repair. Have you ever wondered how cluster B personality traits intertwine with gender identity ideology to create a perfect storm for vulnerable youth? What if the very beliefs that are meant to empower these young people are actually leading them down a path of confusion and harm?
As we explore the trifecta of social contagion—gender identity ideology, woke beliefs about social justice, and cluster B personality traits—I reveal how these elements can distort the way adolescents perceive themselves and their relationships. What are the common pitfalls parents face when trying to connect with their children caught in this whirlwind? Can more information actually backfire when trying to reach a child who feels morally superior?
Join us as we unpack the psychological vulnerabilities at play and discuss practical strategies for parents to navigate these turbulent waters. How can understanding the dynamics of splitting and projection help parents regain their footing? Tune in to discover the answers and learn how ROGD Repair can empower families to foster healthier communication and understanding.
Josh Slocum is the host of the weekly show Disaffected, available on Youtube and all usual podcast platforms. Disaffected examines politics and culture through a psychological point of view. Josh's experience coming from an abusive childhood informs the show's working premise that the psychological narcissistic abuse found in families now structures our public life. Follow him on X @disaffectedpod. This episode was borrowed from episode 187 of Disaffected, Old Man Yells at Cloud. Find this podcast and more of Josh’s work at disaffected.com.
00:00 Start
[00:01:43] Trifecta of social contagion.
[00:06:25] ROGD Repair and family support.
[00:08:25] Gender identity ideology's impact.
[00:12:01] Course and community for parents.
[00:15:09] More information doesn't help.
[00:22:00] Cluster B personality disorders.
[00:24:21] Grandiosity in identity politics.
[00:27:52] Projected doubt in parenting.
[00:32:04] ROGD parent community dynamics.
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SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.
MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.
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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
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In this episode, I sit down with my good friend Anita Bartholomew, who is deep into writing her upcoming book, "Sacrificial Lambs," which explores the alarming indoctrination happening in our K-12 education system. Have you ever wondered how children are being taught about gender identity in first grade? What happens when the lines between education and ideology blur?
Anita shares her journey from being a traditional liberal to confronting the radical shifts in educational content, particularly around queer theory and gender ideology. We discuss the troubling rise in young people identifying as transgender and the role schools play in this phenomenon. How are children being primed for these beliefs, and what impact does this have on their mental health?
We dive into shocking examples of curriculum materials that normalize complex and abstract concepts about gender for young children. Are teachers equipped to handle such sensitive topics, or are they overstepping their bounds? As we unravel these issues, we also touch on the implications of comprehensive sexual education and the troubling trend of keeping parents in the dark. What does this mean for the future of our children? Tune in to discover the answers and more as we navigate this critical conversation.
For almost three decades, Anita Bartholomew has been one of Reader’s Digest’s top reporters, and a contributing editor to the magazine for eight of those years. She’s covered a vast range of stories over the course of her career. But what’s always animated her writing, no matter the topic, is her focus on the people involved, how they coped with the extraordinary events affecting their lives. Her current book project, about how the trans cult targets kids, combines in-depth reporting and analysis with vignettes about the real people trying to maintain sanity in what amounts to a mass psychosis afflicting nearly all of the western world. She is the co-author of the award-winning medical memoir SOMETHING TO PROVE, and the author of SIEGE, about the January 6, 2021 US Capitol uprising. Two of her narratives have been adapted as TV movies, one for Netflix and another for Lifetime. AnitaBartholomew.com
Books mentioned in this episode:
All books mentioned on this podcast can be found at sometherapist.com/bookshop
00:00 Start
[00:01:32] Indoctrination of children.
[00:08:25] Queer theory and social justice.
[00:10:07] Queer theory in education.
[00:16:41] Predation in gender identity discourse.
[00:19:16] Gender identity teaching in schools.
[00:25:23] Teacher's role in sexual education.
[00:28:00] Innocence of childhood crushes.
[00:34:45] Pornographic content in education.
[00:36:39] School curriculum and anti-bullying.
[00:44:51] Diagram of a thousand genitals.
[00:46:00] Planned Parenthood and gender clinics.
[00:52:00] Fourth grade girls and furries.
[00:55:04] Intersex and genitalia misconceptions.
[01:01:39] Gender identity and inclusion in education.
[01:06:04] Gender education in schools.
[01:09:14] Puberty blockers and children.
[01:12:42] Sexualization of children in education.
[01:19:19] Furries and sexual role-playing.
[01:21:45] Predators disguising in society.
[01:29:32] Sympathy for monsters and boundaries.
[01:31:26] The battle between good and evil.
[01:36:24] Cultural shifts and individual responsibility.
[01:40:56] Understanding January 6th participants.
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SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.
MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.
PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.
To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order.
Laura Wiley Haynes returns to shed light on the complex intergenerational aspects of the current gender crisis. Why do so many young people today seem unable to launch into adulthood, remaining perennially online and disembodied, reportedly held back by feelings they label “dysphoria?” What developmental shifts have occurred in parenting over the last few generations that might explain this phenomenon?
Laura shares her insights on how the lack of dyadic care—one-on-one nurturing relationships—has contributed to a generation of children who struggle with self-perception and emotional regulation. Could the rise of screens and social media be robbing our kids of the deep, relational connections they need to thrive? We explore the implications of group care environments and how they may hinder the development of essential social skills.
As we discuss the alarming trend of young adults romanticizing their emotional turmoil, I ask: what happens when a young man on estrogen experiences mood swings reminiscent of a teenage girl? Is this a sign of deeper unresolved issues? Join us as we unpack these critical questions and more, revealing the intricate web of attachment, trauma, and the urgent need for effective parenting in today’s world. Tune in to discover how we can better support our children in navigating their identities and emotions.
Laura Wiley Haynes is a writer, a mother & grandmother, and a former CASA. Follow her on X @haynes_wiley.
Books mentioned in this episode:
Emotional Blackmail by Dr. Susan Forward
Episodes mentioned:
123. Identity-Based OCD: Dr. Elliot Kaminetzky on Trans & the Fear of Living Inauthentically
00:00 Start
[00:01:41] Intergenerational aspects of gender crisis.
[00:06:46] Impaired grownups and child distress.
[00:11:21] Early attachment trauma effects.
[00:13:06] Developmental needs and selfhood.
[00:19:39] Self-regulation and emotional responses.
[00:22:50] Authenticity and children's identity struggles.
[00:27:39] Boundaries and communication in parenting.
[00:30:28] Parenting teenagers and communication.
[00:34:26] Parenting and cultural changes.
[00:40:23] Failure to launch in youth.
[00:44:56] Parenting and boundaries for children.
[00:49:21] Authority in parenting dynamics.
[00:51:33] Strategic apologizing in parenting.
[00:57:07] Boundary setting in parenting.
[01:00:25] Parenting and children's disappointment.
[01:03:34] Parental honesty in difficult discussions.
[01:08:41] Reading between the lines.
[01:14:15] Cluster B behaviors and attachment.
[01:15:34] Cluster B relationships and control.
[01:20:40] Parenting and setting boundaries.
[01:24:40] The importance of saying no.
[01:29:09] Parenting and setting boundaries.
[01:34:52] Identity instability and self-perception.
[01:37:39] Hostage negotiation techniques.
ROGD REPAIR Course + Community for Parents is available now! Join at ROGDrepair.com and start using the tools immediately. Use code SOMETHERAPIST2024 to take 50% off your first month.
TALK TO ME: book a discovery call.
LOCALS: Ask questions of me & guests; get early access to new episodes + exclusive content. Join my community.
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COZYEARTH: Visit CozyEarth.com/sometherapist and use code SOMETHERAPIST for 40% off their selection of bedding, towels, skincare and other cozy home items.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.
MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission.
PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.
To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
Learn more about Do No Harm.
Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.
Take 20% off all superfood beverages with code SOMETHERAPIST at Organifi.
Check out my shop for book recommendations + wellness products.
Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
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