This week we are deep diving into this term that is popping up everywhere, Gaslighting. Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation that attempts to make individuals question their own reality in order to gain power and control over them. And, the scary thing is- it can happen to anyone. There is good news though and Kat is going solo this week to make sure we all know that there is a way to get out of these kinds of tangled webs. Listen this week to gain a better understanding of what Gaslighting actually is, how to spot it, and what to do when you feel like you are being gas lit. 

Links for episodes and articles that were talked about:

11 Red Flags of Gaslighting in a Relationship

Stephanie Sarkis, Ph.D. Book

Narcissism Episode

Love Addiction Episode 

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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat gives her thoughts on online therapy platforms like Better Help and Talk Space. 

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This week, Kat dives into the lies that we tell ourselves. It’s something that we all do for one reason or another… we lie to stay comfortable, we lie to avoid, we lie because it can feel good, and we can lie to continue a narrative that we want ourselves and others to believe. The tricky part is, sometimes we lie so well that we can convince ourselves that we aren’t even lying anymore. So, in this episode, Kat dives into some of the most common lies we tell ourselves, why we might use them, and how they might be hurting us. 

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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat responds to a listener question about a complicated, secret relationship that has suddenly come to light, leaving her to face painful fallout and deep self-doubt, as well as struggling with feelings of guilt, loss, and fear of judgment from those around her. 

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Who remembers their first time? This week, Kat, Josie, and Julia reminisce on the first time they ever went to therapy. And surprise! All of their experiences were a little bit different. Kat refused to speak in her session, Julia's may have told her therapist what she didn't like about her, and Josie was wishing her therapist was "cooler". 

Kat wanted to have a conversation that talked about what it is like to go to therapy for the first time and what you may experience yourself because doing new things can be super intimidating. While we can't tell you exactly what it will be like- we can give you three perspectives from three different therapists. In this episode we answer listener questions including:

1. What happens if I don't know what to talk about in session?
2. How many sessions will it take to know if your therapist is the right fit?
3. What kind of questions does a therapist ask during the first session?
4. As a therapist, how do you prepare for a new client and what are some ways you try to ease the discomfort of a first timer?
5. How do you get over the fear of embarrassment knowing you will cry the whole time? 
6. AND MORE!

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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat responds to a listener who's feeling crushed after her therapist suddenly announced she’s leaving. Kat dives into why saying goodbye can feel so intense, whether it's normal to feel so attached, and how to keep going in therapy even when it feels hard to start over.

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This week, Kat is helping us differentiate between having a heated debate and having a respectful conversation. Every human is going to find themselves in a conversation where they do not agree with some of the other parties involved. While that may not be fun or ideal— it doesn’t mean you have to fight them! In this episode you will learn how reframing the goals of your “disagreements”  allows you to understand your peers, friends, and partners better and vice versa. 

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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat replies to an email about someone who finds a box of their boyfriend’s ex’s things while cleaning his house. 

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In this episode, Kat recalls a haunting jail tour from years ago that left her feeling trapped in more ways than one. Though she isn’t a fan of scary attractions, the experience reminded her how real "stuckness" feels in relationships, jobs, finances, and more. Kat explores why making logical decisions can be difficult when emotions come into play, how our wiser selves often go missing in tough moments, and why the scariest thing is sometimes just feeling stuck.

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Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to [email protected]. This week, Kat responds to a listener question about how her long-term boyfriend asked for time alone to process stress but didn’t give a timeline for reconnecting, and how she's struggling with uncertainty and wondering how to respect his need for space while expressing her own needs.

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