When you think about that "thing" you've been meaning to get to in your life, do you hear the lie in your head - you can't do that???

So many of us do and it's because our default brain is always trying to keep us safe in our comfort zone.

And our default brain loves to point to all the past evidence it has to make you believe this sneaky lie.

Evidence like your past failures, evidence like you haven't done this before.

But you know what - it's ALWAYS a lie.

You can succeed where you've failed before, you can do things you haven't done before.

And I know that's true - because once you really stop and think about it - you'll find plenty of evidence that you've already done that in your life - despite what your default brain tries to tell you.

Join me on this podcast to hear how you've already proven you can do that and what you can do to make that a reality in any area you're struggling to believe that in today!

..."Embrace this God-life. Really embrace it, and nothing will be too much for you. That’s why I urge you to pray for absolutely everything, ranging from small to large. Include everything as you embrace this God-life, and you’ll get God’s everything."  Jesus in Mark 11:24 MSG

There's one emotion that's SO powerful it makes everything in our lives better.

Yet most of us don't understand this, so we don't apply it to our lives.

Our default brain confuses us to believe this feeling will make us complacent and content. It tells us if we feel this, then we won't respond to the desires God puts on our heart.

So instead we use the opposite approach to try to motivate ourselves to do the things we want to do.

But that approach doesn't work because it feels terrible, it's exhausting, and eventually it makes us quit.

Do you know what this feeling is???

Join me on this podcast to learn what it is, how you can assess if you need more of it in your life, and how you can start feeling it more today!

...And regardless of what else you put on, wear (insert feeling here). It's your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.  Colossians 3:12 MSG

We weren't created to always feel happy, great, or excited.

I talk a lot about God's 50/50 for our human life - He purposefully created us to experience both negative and positive emotions.

If we fail to understand that, then when we experience lots of negative emotions we start thinking there's something wrong with us, we start feeling bad about feeling bad, and we seek out comfort and short-term pleasures to resist those negative feelings.

We can learn how to create more of the feelings we want to have in our life, but another very important skill to learn is how to allow our feelings - ALL of them.

That's such an important skill for our human life because our feelings drive our actions so if we're constantly having a bunch of crappy feelings, we're continually going to be taking a bunch of crappy actions

When we learn to allow our feelings -- it's not only easier to create more empowering feelings -- it's also easier to take constructive actions even when negative feelings show up.

Join me and learn how to allow your feelings so you can better control both your feelings and your reactions to them.

There is a time to weep. And there’s a time to laugh. There is a time to be sad. And there’s a time to dance.  Ecclesiastes 3:4 NIRV

How many times have you been told to "think positive"?

"Think positive" is how the world tells us to change our thoughts.

Seems so simple, right?  But our real-life experience tells us otherwise.

The problem is this teaches us to resist the negative thoughts we are having -- and resistance is NEVER the solution.

What we resist persists.  Resisting our thoughts drives them into our subconscious and makes them show back up with even more intensity.

Ready for the awesome news?

God does give us the ability to control our thoughts, but it's a multi-step process.

Through His gift of our prefrontal cortex, we can build awareness of what we're thinking, we can understand why we're thinking it, and THEN we can start thinking thoughts that serve us rather than hold us back.

This is a meta-skill to living our best human lives that so many of us never learn, yet alone put into practice.

So join me as I share exactly how you can start having more empowering thoughts that move and serve you - right where you are today.  It just might change your life like it did mine.

We break down every thought and proud thing that puts itself up against the wisdom of God. We take hold of every thought and make it obey Christ.  2 Corinthians 10:5 NLV

I want to share the biggest light bulb moment I've ever experienced in my life:  I have full control over both my thoughts and my feelings.

Not my husband.

Not my mom.

Not my kids (if I had any)

Not my boss.

Not my friends.

Not the person making me feel small, dump or like I don't know what I'm doing.

I - and only I - have full control over my thoughts and my feelings - and that is the BEST NEWS EVER.

Because if you understand God's model for your human life, then you know that means, along with God, it's YOU and only YOU who controls your life on this earth.

You control the actions you take or don't take, you control the results you experience in your life.

If you're like me and didn't know this - don't beat yourself up - because this is NOT what the world teaches us.

The world teaches us it's other people and our circumstances that control our thoughts and feelings.

So that's how many of us live our lives and it's why so many of us have this strong desire to control everything - because we believe that's how we will feel better.

Unfortunately there's many things in our earthly life we can't control so that leads to us feeling helpless and powerless.

Join me for this podcast as I share the truth about this and how Emotional Adulthood is the path to living your most empowered life.

People who cannot control themselves are like cities without walls to protect them. Proverbs 27:28 ERV

We all experience urges in our life...

...to eat the chocolate

...to drink the wine

...to pick up our phone and check social

...to binge watch the latest Netflix series

...to not do the thing we know we should do.

How are you responding to the urges in your life?

Many of the urges we have feel so strong that it feels like we aren't even in control of them.

We're reacting to them without thinking about it and before we even realize what we're doing.  And when we try to resist, the urge grows stronger until we feel like the only solution to make it go away is to give into it.

The great news is God gives you everything you need to control your urge.

And it all starts with awareness and understanding.

Once you know where they come from and why you have them, then you can choose how you want to respond to them.

Join me for this podcast as I share how you can start responding the way you truly want to ALL the urges you have in your life today.

Everyone is tempted by their own cravings; they are lured away and enticed by them.  James 1:14 CEB

100 Days to Change (Join me!)

You probably have something in your life you've been trying to change BUT...it just doesn't seem possible to connect all the dots.

If that’s you, I'd love to have you join me in my 100 Days to Change group.

In this group, I'm real and raw as I share the big changes I'm making in my life and how you can do the same - no matter where you are today.

All you have to do is join me in my private FB group by going to https://www.facebook.com/groups/100daystochange.  

Self-confidence is something we all want but we're not sure how to get.

I know because I had BIG-TIME struggles with my self-confidence in the past.  And here's the thing I can see so clearly now - allowing those struggles to persist NEVER served me.

True self-confidence serves us in so many ways...

...it keeps us moving forward even through our doubts and fears

...it allows us to show up for ourselves regardless of our circumstances

...it helps us stay true to our authentic selves when we interact with others

...it help us avoid feeling stuck in our lives.

Many of us believe self-confidence is something we're born with - we either have it or we don't.

The great news?  It isn't - it's actually a skill each of us can develop and create for ourselves.

The other great news?  God wants us to do this and be confident.

Join me for this podcast as I share more about how you can start creating more self-confidence in your life today.  The positive impact of doing this will be felt in ALL areas!

So we can say with great confidence: “I know the Lord is for me and I will never be afraid of what people may do to me!"  Hebrews 13:6

I'd love to have you join me in my 100 Days to Change group.  

I'm not sure about your experience in our world today but I see so many negative emotions - anger, frustration, outrage - driving people to treat others poorly.

How do you respond to the things you see going on around you?

Do you allow yourself to go along for the ride and follow the wave - OR are you being intentional in charting your own path.

What do you think God's message is for us in this?

I believe it's that we have the opportunity right now to be the light for everyone we touch in our daily lives more than ever.

But to do that we have to live our lives with intention.

Now you might be thinking - I get that, but based on ALL the things I'm having to deal with in my life right now that just doesn't feel doable for me.

If that's you, I've got the perfect message to share today.

Join me as I talk about important steps you can take in your life so you can start showing up exactly how you want to show up for other people.

You can start being that light for others.  That light they so desperately need.

And the rewards of doing this are many - for them and for YOU!

...let your light shine before people in such a way that they will see your good actions and glorify your Father in heaven.  Matthew 5:16

I'd love to have you join me in my 100 Days to Change group.  

How many times do you feel like a lack of true authentic support has held you back in your life?

God did not create us to do life alone, so when we lack real connection that can happen.

The connection and support we need in our life is out there and ready for us, we just have to be willing to look for it and find it.

And when we do - step 2 is plug ourselves actively into it.  No more sitting and hiding in the back row.  You are too valuable and important!  You're God's VIP that deserves to have a front-row seat.

Join me on this podcast as I talk about the power of true connection and how to bring it into your life - as well as a bonus tip on how you can start receiving more support TODAY from the people you want it from the most - those closest to you.

Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.  Ecclesiastes 4:8-10

I'd love to have you join me in my 100 Days to Change group.  

Your past is completely fixed, right?  What's done is done, can't change it even if you wanted to.  So we just shrug our shoulders and do our best to forget about it and carry on.

Speaking of change - I'd love to have you join me in my 100 Days to Change group.