You Will Please Me

Ever wondered how people respond to a woman who chooses an unconventional path for her livelihood? I once met a man so profoundly disturbed by my line of work, he became aggressive and then splurged on two million dollars worth of watches to soothe himself. What does it mean to face aggression and intimidation, not as a result of any personal wrong-doing, but merely from the threat your profession poses to societal norms? On this episode of the #teakink Podcast we explore the array of reactions I’ve received as a Dominatrix. We discuss how these responses are shaped by societal expectations and how I’ve learned to navigate them. This conversation serves as a deep reminder of how society struggles with open discussions around sexuality and the unique strength it takes to be a woman who doesn't back down in the face of such intimidation.

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HIGHLIGHTS:

I, Eva Oh, have found myself at a crossroads - TV show proposals, brand collaborations, and even the prospect of becoming an AI companion have me reflecting on the trajectory of my unconventional career. On this episode I delve deep into the pros and cons; and why now, more than ever, there's a sudden interest in stories like mine. My choices today will reshape the narrative of my life tomorrow, and that's a responsibility I do not take lightly. So, come along as I contemplate the chaos and ponder over whether it's the right time for me - a Dominatrix - to step into the mainstream.

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HIGHLIGHTS:

(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:15) - TV Producers, Talent Managers and Agents Approaching

(01:40) - Why Would a Sex Worker Say Yes?

(02:20) - What Disgusts Me About the Idea

(03:50) - My Words and Voice

(05:05) - What I Enjoy About Interviews

(06:30) - Why the Media are Interested in Representing Sex Workers Now

(08:20) - How Should I Join the Narrative?

(08:44) - From Dominatrix to Executive Producer

(10:30) - Sex Workers Mistrust of the Media

(11:10) - Seeing it as an Opportunity

(11:55) - TV Hesitation vs AI Enthusiasm

(12:30) - The Chaos of Sex Worker Meets Influencer Culture

(14:25) - How Meditation Plays it's Part

(15:25) - Embracing the Chaos

(16:30) - Am I a Sell Out?

(18:10) - Community and Personal Gain

(18:55) - The Case for RuPaul’s Drag Race

(22:55) - Am I Going to Regret This?

(24:00) - Self-compassion

I’ve had some trouble working and playing with couples since I first started working as a Dominatrix in 2011. In this episode, hear the story of Fisting Bob, a regular at the dungeon I used to work in, and the strange turns our professional relationship took when I started getting letters from his wife. Follow me into the Piss Pit at Berghain with two dear friends of mine who may have rescued my faith in playing with couples. Find out more about the exploration of our desires and how the BDSM community can give space to the negotiation that can facilitate their satiation. Watch me rethink my past and maybe reframe the opinion that started this episode in the first place.

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HIGHLIGHTS:

(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:15) - What is a Relationship Unicorn?

(00:52) - Meet Fisting Bob

(07:06) - A Bad Decision?

(15:13) - Exploring Desires and Negotiating Boundaries

(16:59) - The Piss Pit at Berghain

(24:00) - Reflections on Reacting and Seeking Reassurance

(27:21) - Changing My Perception on Being a Unicorn

Curious about the intriguing world of a Dominatrix and it's relationship to money? Listen in as I discuss the evolution of my rates, the rationale behind the changes, and the crucial balance between wealth accumulation and personal values. I also share the peaks and troughs of my career, including dealing with overwork and burnout, and how and why I pivoted to provide my clients rich, relationship-driven experiences. We will navigate the potential relationship between money and isolation, and how wealth can sometimes create a divide from reality. I also shed light on the importance of wealth redistribution, especially when it's in the hands of women. Let's redefine the power dynamics of wealth together.

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HIGHLIGHTS:

(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:15) - I Like Taking Money From Rich Men

(01:01) - Should Anyone Be This Rich?

(01:30) - The Evolution of My Rates

(04:30) - Burnout as a Catalyst

(07:00) - Wealth and Fairness

(08:50) - Valuing Ourselves

(10:55) - The Sexism in Money, The Caring Industries

(12:15) - Ar*sehole Tax

(15:20) - What is Money?

(16:20) - My Relationship to Work, Money and Self-Care

(19:55) - Reprogramming my Wealthy Clients

(25:13) - Freedom, Wealth Redistribution, and Women's Impact

LINKS:

Financial Literacy, https://www.investopedia.com/guide-to-financial-literacy-4800530

UN Women, Economic Impact - https://www.unwomen.org/en/what-we-do/economic-empowerment/facts-and-figures

TED Talk - How Economic Inequality Harms Societies, https://www.ted.com/talks/richard_wilkinson_how_economic_inequality_harms_societies?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

TED Talk - Universal Basic Income, https://www.ted.com/talks/steven_shafarman_the_case_for_universal_basic_income?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

Curious about how a Dominatrix runs her business? Join me on a revealing journey into the sex work industry. As a Dominatrix since 2011, I'll uncover the complexities, from bookings to emotional labor. This episode goes beyond sessions, touching on banking challenges, service gaps, and the role of sex worker organizations. Discover the resilience that drives us forward. Despite hurdles, I'll explain why this profession brings me a unique gratification.

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Ready to challenge perceptions of men, emotions, and sports? Join me in exploring the intriguing links between the fervor of a pub during a match and the emotional liberation I witness in my work as a Dominatrix. This episode uncovers the beauty of unfiltered emotions, the spaces that allow them, and the power they hold. We'll delve into the story of my first profoundly moving session — a testament to human vulnerability. We’ll journey through sports tribalism, my admiration for teams like Manchester City, and the importance of allowing ourselves to express our emotions. Let’s unravel the complexity of men's emotions, the societal pressure they face, and the courage it takes to allow oneself to truly feel.

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HIGHLIGHTS:

Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.

(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:15) - My Discovery. Men Crying at the Pub.

(06:30) - Tribalism

(07:55) - Manchester City

(08:45) - Parallels to the Freedom of Emotion in My Work

(12:32) - The First Time a Man Cried for Me

(16:00) - What Does Everyone Want?

(17:15) - What is Sexuality?

(19:40) - How Will Emotion be Integrated in a Tech-driven World?

(22:45) - My Emotional Sadism

(25:15) - My Masochism and Meditation

(26:20) - Freedom

(31:15) - Everyone’s Problem

Ever wondered about breaking free from those conforming roles we play? I'm Eva Oh, and I'll take you on my unconventional journey into the world of the Dominatrix. It started with a joke from my ex about my assertiveness. Little did I know this would lead me to becoming one. Brace yourself as I guide you through uncharted territory, on how I quit the corporate world, to sharing my first day on the job as a Dominatrix, and recounting my exhilarating first session. I reflect on society's view of sex work too. This episode is just the start of a series where I share experiences, insights, and lessons I've learned. Come along for the ride!

More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com

HIGHLIGHTS:

Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.

(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:15) - Becoming a Dominatrix

(01:39) - Women's Assertiveness and Societal Perceptions

(04:51) - From Strategic Consultant to Dominatrix

(08:51) - First Day as Mistress, New Experiences

(15:06) - A Special First Shadowing Experience

(21:10) - Exploring BDSM and Personal Enjoyment

(27:56) - Work Dungeon to Personal Business Transition

(33:40) - The Power of Non-Judgmental Intimacy

(35:35) - Sex Work and Society's Perception

Welcome to my world, unfiltered. Come curious. Get the #teakink.

More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com