Your Magical Midlife

In this episode I talk about something I’ve been thinking about for years: what happens when we freeze those expressions with Botox.

Research shows that Botox doesn’t just change how we look — it can actually mute our ability to fully feel certain emotions and can make it harder for children to learn emotional intelligence by watching our faces.

I’m not here to shame anyone who chooses Botox. I get the pressure. But this is exactly why I’ve decided to keep my free-range face — lines, creases, and all.

Because my face isn’t broken. It’s a map of a life fully lived. And in a world that’s becoming more filtered and AI-perfect every day, I want my face to stay a real, honest instrument of connection.

This is part of my Empress energy: choosing to be more fully human instead of trying to look forever young.

If you’ve ever stood in front of the mirror and felt that tug of “maybe I should fix this,” this episode is for you.

What do you think? Have you noticed this in yourself or with the kids around you? Send me a voice note — I read every single one.

The waitlist is open for Desert Bloom Retreat Fall of  2027 at Ojo Resort in Santa Fe New Mexico find out all about it and join the waitlist here: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/desert-bloom-retreat

If you’re ready to explore which archetype is most active in your life right now, take the free Midlife Archetype Quiz.

👉 Take the Midlife Archetype Quiz

What to book my signature workshop Craft Your Crown: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/craft-your-crown

Book your FREE  coaching curiosity call: https://calendly.com/your-magical-midlife/coaching-curiosity-call

Follow me on Instagram @yourmagicalmidlife where you can find updates on my upcoming workshops, retreats and coaching offers.  

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Fun isn’t frivolous. Fun is medicine.
And play is a form of prayer.

The wild, silly, filled-with-glee Maiden inside you never actually left. She’s just been waiting for permission to come out and play again.

This episode is your invitation to stop being so responsible for five minutes and remember what it feels like to be ridiculous, joyful, and fully alive.

What’s one silly, playful thing you’re going to do this week just because it feels good? Send me a voice note — I read every single one and I love them.

The waitlist is open for Desert Bloom Retreat Fall of  2027 at Ojo Resort in Santa Fe New Mexico find out all about it and join the waitlist here: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/desert-bloom-retreat

If you’re ready to explore which archetype is most active in your life right now, take the free Midlife Archetype Quiz.

👉 Take the Midlife Archetype Quiz

What to book my signature workshop Craft Your Crown: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/craft-your-crown

Book your FREE  coaching curiosity call: https://calendly.com/your-magical-midlife/coaching-curiosity-call

Follow me on Instagram @yourmagicalmidlife where you can find updates on my upcoming workshops, retreats and coaching offers.  

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We talk about a lot of losses in midlife — but we rarely talk about the quiet grief of saying goodbye to the girl we used to be. 

There’s a real ache that comes when you realize that sparkling, reckless version of yourself is gone. The one who still believed she had unlimited time. The one who hadn’t yet been told to shrink.

This grief is sacred. It deserves to be felt, not rushed past or spiritual-bypassed. Because honoring it is what makes space for the Empress we’re becoming.

If you’ve been quietly mourning the younger version of yourself, this episode is for you.

What part of your “girlhood” are you still finding hard to let go of? Send me a voice note — I read every single one.

The waitlist is open for Desert Bloom Retreat Fall of  2027 at Ojo Resort in Santa Fe New Mexico find out all about it and join the waitlist here: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/desert-bloom-retreat

If you’re ready to explore which archetype is most active in your life right now, take the free Midlife Archetype Quiz.

👉 Take the Midlife Archetype Quiz

What to book my signature workshop Craft Your Crown: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/craft-your-crown

Book your FREE  coaching curiosity call: https://calendly.com/your-magical-midlife/coaching-curiosity-call

Follow me on Instagram @yourmagicalmidlife where you can find updates on my upcoming workshops, retreats and coaching offers.  

Please share this podcast with a midlife friend who needs to know she's not alone ♥️

From a young age, little girls are told to quiet down, be polite, and stop being “too much.” We trade their sparkle for “appropriate” and their freedom for approval.

In this episode I share my own story of rebelling against those expectations — goth phase, purple phase, pink phase, burlesque stages and all — and the quiet grief so many of us carry when we realize the wild girl we used to be has been buried under years of “shoulds.”

The good news? The Maiden isn’t gone. She’s just waiting for permission to come out and play again.

If you’ve been feeling the pull to bring more joy and silliness back into midlife, this one’s for you.

What’s one way your inner wild girl wants to come out and play right now? Send me a voice note — I read every single one.

The waitlist is open for Desert Bloom Retreat Fall of  2027 at Ojo Resort in Santa Fe New Mexico find out all about it and join the waitlist here: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/desert-bloom-retreat

If you’re ready to explore which archetype is most active in your life right now, take the free Midlife Archetype Quiz.

👉 Take the Midlife Archetype Quiz

What to book my signature workshop Craft Your Crown: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/craft-your-crown

Book your FREE  coaching curiosity call: https://calendly.com/your-magical-midlife/coaching-curiosity-call

Follow me on Instagram @yourmagicalmidlife where you can find updates on my upcoming workshops, retreats and coaching offers.  

Please share this podcast with a midlife friend who needs to know she's not alone ♥️

I just got back from Santa Fe, where I led a private Craft Your Crown day with one incredible client, and I’m still feeling the afterglow.

Midlife can be lonely. Kids launch, parents pass, careers go stale, and sometimes even longtime friendships fade, leaving you wondering where you belong now.

But here’s what I know for sure: magic happens when women gather.

Real women. Unconventional women. The ones who skipped the script, who are childfree or late bloomers or just done pretending. When we come together in midlife, we don’t just chat. We witness each other. We hold space for the grief and the excitement. We remind each other that we’re not broken — we’re becoming.

In this episode I also talk about why AI, for all its brilliance, can never replace the core human experiences: love, grief, joy, longing, awe, the need for belonging, and the messy, slow, beautiful feeling of being alive in a body on this planet. No algorithm can read the energy in the room or hold space while you ugly-cry through shame the way another woman who’s walked through the fire can.

If you’ve been craving real connection and community in midlife, this one’s for you.

Listen now and let me know — when was the last time you felt truly seen by other women?

The waitlist is open for Desert Bloom Retreat Fall of  2027 at Ojo Resort in Santa Fe New Mexico find out all about it and join the waitlist here: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/desert-bloom-retreat

If you’re ready to explore which archetype is most active in your life right now, take the free Midlife Archetype Quiz.

👉 Take the Midlife Archetype Quiz

What to book my signature workshop Craft Your Crown: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/craft-your-crown

Book your FREE  coaching curiosity call: https://calendly.com/your-magical-midlife/coaching-curiosity-call

Follow me on Instagram @yourmagicalmidlife where you can find updates on my upcoming workshops, retreats and coaching offers.  

Please share this podcast with a midlife friend who needs to know she's not alone ♥️

This is a vulnerable share. I am presenting this story at an event in Santa Fe called Third Act Quest created by Diana Dunbar-Place, an amazing woman who I interviewed on this podcast (E36) 

This story is about the expectations placed on girls by their mothers and what happens when girls make choices for themselves. 

The doors are officially open for Empress Awakened Immersion- a four week online journey through The Maiden The Mother The Empress and The Crone. 

If this work is calling your name, schedule your curiosity call below. 

Follow me on Instagram @yourmagicalmidlife

Join the waitlist for Empress Awakened Immersion-we begin June 3rd: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/empress-awakened

Book me to come to you so that YOU can Craft Your Crown: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/craft-your-crown

Book your FREE  20 minute coaching discovery call: https://calendly.com/kate-katehigginslcsw/curiosity-call 

The waitlist is open for Desert Bloom Retreat Fall of  2027 at Ojo Resort in Santa Fe New Mexico find out all about it and join the waitlist here: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/desert-bloom-retreat

If you’re ready to explore which archetype is most active in your life right now, take the free Midlife Archetype Quiz.

👉 Take the Midlife Archetype Quiz

What to book my signature workshop Craft Your Crown: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/craft-your-crown

Book your FREE  coaching curiosity call: https://calendly.com/your-magical-midlife/coaching-curiosity-call

Follow me on Instagram @yourmagicalmidlife where you can find updates on my upcoming workshops, retreats and coaching offers.  

Please share this podcast with a midlife friend who needs to know she's not alone ♥️

Stress is at an all time high, look at the news and it's completely overwhelming- if you're feeling "flakier" you are not alone. Breathe, babe 

The waitlist is open for Desert Bloom Retreat Fall of  2027 at Ojo Resort in Santa Fe New Mexico find out all about it and join the waitlist here: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/desert-bloom-retreat

If you’re ready to explore which archetype is most active in your life right now, take the free Midlife Archetype Quiz.

👉 Take the Midlife Archetype Quiz

What to book my signature workshop Craft Your Crown: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/craft-your-crown

Book your FREE  coaching curiosity call: https://calendly.com/your-magical-midlife/coaching-curiosity-call

Follow me on Instagram @yourmagicalmidlife where you can find updates on my upcoming workshops, retreats and coaching offers.  

Please share this podcast with a midlife friend who needs to know she's not alone ♥️

I'm so tired of people insisting that midlife is some kind of crisis. Midlife offers the opportunity of a lifetime-the opportunity to step fully into the woman you were meant to be. 

The waitlist is open for Desert Bloom Retreat Fall of  2027 at Ojo Resort in Santa Fe New Mexico find out all about it and join the waitlist here: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/desert-bloom-retreat

If you’re ready to explore which archetype is most active in your life right now, take the free Midlife Archetype Quiz.

👉 Take the Midlife Archetype Quiz

What to book my signature workshop Craft Your Crown: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/craft-your-crown

Book your FREE  coaching curiosity call: https://calendly.com/your-magical-midlife/coaching-curiosity-call

Follow me on Instagram @yourmagicalmidlife where you can find updates on my upcoming workshops, retreats and coaching offers.  

Please share this podcast with a midlife friend who needs to know she's not alone ♥️

A wedding, baby shower, graduation, or 21st birthday should never be the last time a woman is surrounded by community, witnessed, and joyfully celebrated.

Society throws confetti for the young—but what if we threw just as much (or more) for the women who have actually lived long enough to become magnificent?

What if menopause, divorce, the empty nest, retirement, recovery from illness or even widowhood were honored with ceremony and ritual instead of hushed conversations and polite “you’re so brave” comments?

These aren’t endings. They’re awakenings. They deserve their own sacred pause, their own circle, their own crown.

Craft Your Crown™ is the rite of passage your soul has been quietly craving and I am so thrilled to be presenting it at Quest Santa Fe in juts 2 weeks. 

Part grounding meditation, part guided reflection, part intuitive art-making, and part ceremony—this experience is created entirely around you.

If this is an experience that your soul is aching for, you can book me to come to your city ! Check out my website for more details 

The waitlist is open for Desert Bloom Retreat Fall of  2027 at Ojo Resort in Santa Fe New Mexico find out all about it and join the waitlist here: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/desert-bloom-retreat

If you’re ready to explore which archetype is most active in your life right now, take the free Midlife Archetype Quiz.

👉 Take the Midlife Archetype Quiz

What to book my signature workshop Craft Your Crown: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/craft-your-crown

Book your FREE  coaching curiosity call: https://calendly.com/your-magical-midlife/coaching-curiosity-call

Follow me on Instagram @yourmagicalmidlife where you can find updates on my upcoming workshops, retreats and coaching offers.  

Please share this podcast with a midlife friend who needs to know she's not alone ♥️

Ai is everywhere and quickly taking over. 

ChatGPT’s great for quick facts or recipe hacks, but as a replacement for a therapist or life coach? 👀

This week, I did a little experiment. I talked back and forth with Chat about a (completely fabricated) emotional problem.

Chat validated me up and down the wazoo, yessed me to pieces, told me I was 100% valid, totally in the right

Sure. Chat is always available, free and (annoyingly) perky but Chat is programmed to validate, affirm and agree with you. 

Chat is a total people pleaser-keeping you engaged. On the hook. Dependent.

Chat just tells you what you want to hear. 

Chat will not challenge you. 

Chat will not call you on your BS 

Chat will not provide an alternate point of view. 

Chat can't guide you through life because chat has no LIVED EXPERIENCE. 

If you don't actually want to be challenged, if all you're seeking is affirmation, then Chat is for you. 

See you in a year. Your life will be exactly the same. 

BUT if you want to break old patterns, shift your internal narrative and actually move forward? 

Please for the love of God, hire a human.

The waitlist is open for Desert Bloom Retreat Fall of  2027 at Ojo Resort in Santa Fe New Mexico find out all about it and join the waitlist here: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/desert-bloom-retreat

If you’re ready to explore which archetype is most active in your life right now, take the free Midlife Archetype Quiz.

👉 Take the Midlife Archetype Quiz

What to book my signature workshop Craft Your Crown: https://yourmagicalmidlife.com/craft-your-crown

Book your FREE  coaching curiosity call: https://calendly.com/your-magical-midlife/coaching-curiosity-call

Follow me on Instagram @yourmagicalmidlife where you can find updates on my upcoming workshops, retreats and coaching offers.  

Please share this podcast with a midlife friend who needs to know she's not alone ♥️