Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast

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In this episode, I’m speaking to the mom who’s also a teacher, therapist, coach—or simply someone who feels called to help others—but is still struggling with yelling, burnout, or self-doubt at home.

You know what to do. You’ve done the healing work.
But there’s still that voice that whispers:

I’ve been there too.

In this episode, I share:

• My own story of pivoting from corporate coaching to healing work while still in the mess
• Why your imperfection is actually what qualifies you to lead
• How to stop letting the judge in your head run your life
• The mindset shift that changed everything for me—and my clients
• And why progress, not perfection, is the new leadership

 You don’t have to be “done” to start helping. You just have to be a few steps ahead.
This is your permission to rise anyway.

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In this episode, I share something personal: what happened when I committed to writing my book… and then immediately felt the weight of it.

This isn’t just about writing. It’s about that moment when a dream lights you up—then resistance pulls you down.
You start asking:

Sound familiar?

Whether it’s healing, parenting, or chasing a deeper purpose, we all hit that wall. And in this episode, I show you what helped me shift—not by pushing harder, but by reconnecting with vision, identity, and joy.

 You'll hear:

• Why most moms lose momentum (and how to get it back)
• How to create a “moonshot” goal that pulls you forward
• Why micro-habits matter more than willpower
• What I learned from a client who almost gave up—and didn’t

Plus, I’ll share the bigger mission I’m building, and how you’re already part of it.

Let’s dream bigger—without burning out. Listen now and then message me: What’s your moonshot?

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In this raw and emotional episode, Ruby — now part of my team — shares the truth behind her burnout, hidden guilt, and silent implosions as a mother. Unlike many Zen Supermom clients, Ruby didn’t explode at her kids — she disappeared. Emotionally checked out, exhausted, and stuck in chronic people-pleasing, she thought this was just who she was.

Until she realized it wasn’t.

Join us as she talks about what changed, how she rewired deep-rooted patterns from childhood, and how her healing gave her kids a safer, more connected version of her — and gave her back herself.

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Are you exhausted from trying gentle parenting techniques that just don't stick? If you've read all the books, learned the scripts, but still find yourself yelling at your kids when you're stressed or running late, this episode is for you.

In this raw and honest conversation, I break down the 3 most common reasons why gentle parenting fails - and spoiler alert: it has nothing to do with your kids or needing better techniques.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why you can't execute gentle parenting scripts when you're triggered (and what to focus on instead)
• The difference between healthy boundaries and punishment - and why most of us never learned this
• How generational trauma shows up in your parenting moments and keeps you stuck in old patterns
• Why healing your own childhood wounds is the key to becoming the calm, grounded parent you want to be

This episode is perfect for you if:

• You believe in connection-based parenting but struggle to stay calm when your kids push your buttons
• You find yourself turning into your own parents when stressed, even though you swore you'd do things differently
• You're tired of feeling guilty about yelling and want to break the cycle for good

Remember: You're an amazing mom. It's not your fault that gentle parenting hasn't worked yet - you just need to start in the right place. And that place is YOU.

Ready to heal your generational trauma and become the parent you've always wanted to be? This episode will show you exactly where to start.

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In this deeply moving interview, Jeanette shares one of the most powerful transformation stories I've ever witnessed - how healing her own childhood wounds completely freed her 7-year-old daughter's spirit in just three months.

As a Mexican expatriate mom living in the Netherlands with no support system, Jeanette was trapped in an overwhelming cycle. Her daughter had begun hearing "voices" that told her not to trust her mom, to fight her brother, and that she was "silly" - the exact same critical voices Jeanette had heard as a child growing up as the third of four children with little attention and no emotional support.

The little girl had become the classic "good girl" - quiet, compliant, always focusing on what was wrong instead of finding joy. She was unconsciously repeating the same wounded patterns her mother had learned.

Despite trying psychologists, parenting courses, and religious guidance, nothing created lasting change until Jeanette discovered the connection between her childhood wounds and her daughter's suffering.

In this raw, honest conversation, Jeanette reveals:

• How growing up as the third of four children with no emotional support created patterns she was unconsciously repeating
• The specific brain exercises that helped her regain control of her emotions in just one week
• How her transformation affected not just her parenting, but her work relationships and life decisions
• The moment she realized her "good girl" daughter was repeating generational patterns
• Her brave decision to pursue divorce and create a healthier future for her children

What makes this episode particularly powerful is witnessing Jeanette's courage - someone who usually "sits in the back" stepping forward to share her story publicly for the first time.

If you're feeling trapped by your circumstances, overwhelmed by your emotions, or wondering if real change is possible - Jeanette's story proves that healing can happen faster than you think, and that courage can emerge from the most difficult situations.

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In this powerful interview, Ines shares how she transformed from a constantly triggered, yelling mom to creating a peaceful home in just four months.

As a working mom managing solo parenting during the week, Ines found herself screaming at her six-year-old son, her partner, and even colleagues at work. Despite trying mental load coaching, parenting books, and even inner child workbooks, nothing seemed to create lasting change.

The breakthrough? Discovering that her uncontrollable reactions weren't about her son's behavior at all, but about wounds from her own childhood - where she was the "responsible" middle child, never allowed to play, and never told she was loved unconditionally.

In this raw, honest conversation, Ines reveals:

• The specific situations that used to trigger her worst mommy tantrums
• How she went from dreading bedtime to creating a peaceful routine
• The shocking moment her own mother said "I love you too" for the first time
• How healing her triggers saved her relationship with her partner

If you've tried everything to stop yelling at your kids but nothing has worked, this episode reveals why - and shows how healing your own childhood wounds can transform not just your parenting, but every relationship in your life.

The ripple effect of this healing extends to three generations - proving it's never too late to break generational patterns.

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In this deeply personal episode, I share the real story behind my 3-year shaved head journey – and why I'm now letting my hair grow again.
This isn't a beauty update. It's a healing revelation.

For generations, women in my family measured their worth through appearance and achievement. Always proving. Never enough. I inherited this painful pattern, relying on my looks and intelligence to feel worthy of love and belonging.
When I finally began healing this generational wound, my razor became an unexpected ally. By shaving my head, I wasn't rejecting beauty – I was rejecting the need for external validation.

In this episode, I reveal:
- How my shaved head became physical proof I no longer needed others' approval
- The unexpected freedom I found in letting go of my "pretty girl" identity
- Why growing my hair now isn't a step backward, but a sign of deeper healing
- How our appearance choices often reflect our internal healing journey

Whether you've struggled with beauty standards or fought to break free from generational patterns, this episode invites you to look beyond the surface and recognize how our external choices can reflect our internal healing.
Your appearance journey might look different from mine – but the path toward feeling whole, worthy, and free always begins within.

Here's my video of my hair story: Why I shaved my head - aka how much do you really care about what others think of you?

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Ever feel like you have a "dark side" that comes out when you yell at your kids?
I used to think my mommy tantrums were proof I was broken. That if people saw this side of me, they'd run away. I'd end up alone.
And I realized I felt that way even before I became a mom. Always hiding or changing who I was, to make people like me.
But guess what? There is no dark side.
In this episode, I share the truth that changed everything for me:

What if those mommy tantrums and your strong emotions in general aren't evidence of your failure, but signals from unhealed parts of yourself desperate to be integrated?

In this episode, I reveal:

Why your "worst" parenting moments are actually generational healing trying to happen
How to recognize when your inner child—not your adult self—is reacting to your kids (or adults)
The liberating truth that transforms shame into healing opportunity
What becomes possible when you integrate these wounded parts instead of hiding them

If you've ever looked at yourself after yelling at your kids and thought, "Who is this monster?", this episode will change how you see yourself forever.

This isn't just about becoming a calmer parent. It's about becoming whole by reclaiming the parts of yourself you've been taught to reject.

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My personal story about setting boundaries with adult bullies or strangers is in the context of racism. But I use it as an example to unpack the general principles that are applicable in any situation where you feel verbally/emotionally attacked by another adult.

I share it also as a big-picture inspiration. Because you are not here just to be a mom.
You are and deserve to be so much more than that.
And so often it seems impossible to even imagine that you could ever feel good enough, not needing anyone's approval or validation...

So, wouldn't it be fun if...?
Wouldn't it be fun if you did not get triggered by other people's judgment or criticism?
Wouldn't it be fun if you could set healthy boundaries without shrinking or overreacting aggressively?
Wouldn't it be fun if you started liking who you are? :)

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Her ex-husband asked for 50-50 custody of their toddler son.
And out of the desperation, afraid of staying all alone and abandoned, she bought a puppy for Christmas... Which turned out to be as much work as if she got a second child. While now she had to function as a single parent.

That was Barbara's recipe for uncontrollable "rage blowouts", as she called them.

So how did she turn it around in just 3 months?
Because even CBT for burnout did not really help before. Neither did the parenting books...

Listen to her story and see what becomes possible once you grab your problems by the roots.

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