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TODAY... Upgrading your life!

§ We all want free upgrades, but most good things of value come with a price.

§ Upgrading your life is about stepping into the unknown from the known. Taking a chance, a step out of your comfort zone. Be ok with the discomfort of change.

§ While it can be scary, it will be extremely rewarding and will increase your confidence and self-worth.

§ Start by raising your standards – internally and externally. Expecting more from yourself and others in your life brings value to all.

§ Make goals for yourself – what you want to achieve, where you want to be and set out a plan on how to achieve them. Want a better job? Want to find love? Want to buy a house? All great goals, now for the how …

§ Aristotle wrote, “Excellence is not a single act, it’s a habit” so in order to upgrade your life you need change how you do things, your environment and routines.

§ Self-care is also an important part of this. Optimal health and well-being gives you the stamina to keep going. When you feel crappy you do crappy things. Feeling good gives you the energy to keep going.

§ Self-care also includes doing the inner work – elevating yourself from the inside out. This consists of letting go, forgiving (yourself and others), working on your mental health, seeking out help if you need it.

§ Failure IS an option and it is totally ok. Embrace failure as a lesson learned and move forward. Do not be discouraged by it.

§ Upgrading your life takes work but is ultimately worth it because you will get where you need and want to be and you will have earned it.

§ TRY THIS: Live for today and work hard for tomorrow. Learn a new skill, enhance yourself, and seek out opportunities for growth.

POST IT NOTE: I will embrace my excellence

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§ We all know change is hard,   but “Whatever makes you uncomfortable is your biggest opportunity for   growth.” [Bryant McGill]

§ Change is one of the hardest   things we have to go through in our lives.

§ The solution to the discomfort   of change is embracing growth – this includes constantly evolving and improving   yourself.

§ Everyone wants to be on   mountain peak but true growth happens when we are climbing the mountain –   especially the challenges and hardships.

§ The thing that makes change so   hard is the feeling of a loss of control. We like our comfort zones but when   a change is forced on us or encouraged of us, it hard and we do not always   face it positively or make something good out of it.

§ Transitioning from the   negative perception of change into growth helps put a positive spin on your   experiences.

§ This includes learning from   our mistakes, learning from others / other perspectives and applying this to   our next steps.

§ Each step you take you learn   what to do or not to do. For example, If you step on quick sand, you learn   for next time that you will be stuck and you will not do it again. Next time   you will step on solid ground. That is growth.

§ In the same way, we should   learn from our mistakes in life – whether it is in love, in our careers or   personally – change is part of life so you can either throw a pity party or   learn and elevate yourself to the next level. The choice is yours to make.

§ Growing pains are part of   growth, push through and you will be happy you did.

§ POST IT NOTE: I will embrace change in my life

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§ The actual definition of imposter syndrome is: the persistent inability to believe that one's success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved as a result of one's own efforts or skills.

§ Those with imposter syndrome doubt their achievements and abilities. They almost always have a nagging fear that they’re a fraud and others will see them that way. It can stand in the way of their own personal growth.

§ Think of it as – “I don’t belong here”, “I have no business being here”

§ It is something we have all felt at one point. It is actually very common, especially among those who are well accomplished at something (education, career, etc). Apparently, research has shown that around 70 percent of adults may experience imposter syndrome at least once in their life.

§ This can affect not only education, career, social abilities, but also romantically. If you do not feel you deserve to be there or are worthy of it you will run away from the opportunities.

§ Imposter syndrome is rooted in lack of self-worth, self-confidence and self-love. Those who feel it do not give themselves enough credit for their achievements, accomplishments and skills.

§ To overcome these feelings you have to change how you think about yourself and your abilities. Give credit where credit is due.

§ For example, be confident in your abilities to do something based on your accomplishments in the area without comparing yourself to others.

§ Some people try “faking it until you make it” but that does not help it only adds to the insecurity. What does work is believing in your abilities and confidence in who you are and what you have to offer.

§ TRY THIS: Write down an accomplishment and all the steps you took to get there including the work/time put into it.

POST IT NOTE: I will be confident in by abilities

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§ Confidence in yourself means knowing you are great at something, you feel good about who you are and what you are bringing to the table.

§ When you are self-confident, you always have something good to say about yourself rather than always putting yourself down or comparing yourself to others.

§ Body language counts too. Self-confident people have a different energy and presence. They make eye contact and keep a straight back.

§ You need to be proud of everything that you have achieved. It could seem a small thing to you, but any achievement counts towards building your self-esteem. Maybe you have baked something awesome and unique or you have written something or maybe accomplished a difficult task.

§ Overcoming adversity always helps build your self-confidence. Challenges are all around us and they build our resiliency and ability to deal with whatever life throws at us.

§ Surrounding yourself with good people who lift you up but also help you grow out of your insecurities helps a lot. Keep away from those that tear you down or bring out parts of you that are contrary to your values.

§ I have seen many suggestions that exercise actually helps build self-confidence because it releases happy feel good hormones.

§ You get better at doing stuff by the doing of the stuff. So to build your confidence by actually increasing your skill set of what you feel you’re lacking.

§ You are in control of your confidence. Take back your power and lift yourself up. You ARE somebody. You ARE worthy. Believe it.

§ In the end, be patient and kind to yourself. Embrace your imperfections with positive self-talk and use your perceived flaws to lift you up instead of bring you down.

§ TRY THIS: Make a board / collage visually listing things that you KNOW you are good at and that you love about yourself and those who have had a positive impact. Post it and keep reminding yourself.

POST IT NOTE: Self-Confidence is my Superpower

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§ “Imperfection is perfection.” Said the   musician Flume and I would agree. We are all perfect in our   imperfections because these imperfections are perfect for us. They ARE us. We   should celebrate them.

§ Embracing   and even celebrating your imperfections is really about accepting   everything as it is now, including yourself.

§ You   need to love everything about yourself – yes, even your rolls, wrinkles,   bruises, scars, aches and pains, silliness and mistakes.

§ Who   has to say what is perfect anyway? It is relative and subjective. As they   say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Not everyone is going to   appreciate you, just as you will not appreciate everyone. The important thing   is that you appreciate yourself.

§ We   have all made mistakes in our life, but those missteps have led us to where   we are now, who we are now, regardless of the imperfection.

§ Whether   your flaws or imperfections are physical, mental, emotional or experiential,   you can embrace them and appreciate them, use them to your advantage.

§ I   recently read this article  about the steps to embrace your imperfections that I wanted to share with   you:
1. Find the positive side of your flaws (shift self-perception /   perspective)
 2. Realize that your imperfections make you human (let go of the need to   conform to any unrealistic   standards)
 3. Take inspiration from art (which is rarely perfect, neither is nature)
 4. Focus on flow instead of perfection (set realistic goals rather than   perfect ones)
 5. Surround yourself with positive voices (those who accept you as you are –   flaws and all)
 6. Use your imperfections to help others (sharing your experience with others   who are struggling helps you embrace your own imperfections)

§ Expecting   perfection from yourself is unrealistic. Instead, live a more authentic life   and celebrate who you are, be confident in who you are.

§ POST IT NOTE: I let   go of my need for perfection

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We live in a very image based society. Between the dating apps, social media influencers and entertainment, we are bombarded with images of seemingly perfect people.

•However, these perfect images are, in fact, imperfect in every way. Most of the time there are several takes, lots of beauty enhancers and filters and set up situations. 

•Is image important? Of course, it is but not every image has to be perfect and we should not compare ourselves to others. 

•Embracing imperfections means saying, as Brene Brown wrote: “I am imperfect, vulnerable & sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.” 

•We are all worthy of love and belonging and we are each unique. We may each have something we hate about ourselves but that does not make us unworthy. 

•For many, sadly, they internalize this lack of self-worth and it affects every aspect of their life especially social and romantic. I can speak from personal experience. It is something I struggled with most of my life. I still do sometimes, but I remind myself where I am at is not where I was and I keep moving forward.  

•I am flawed as is each one of you but there is so much beauty in that flaw.

•Leonard Cohen wrote that “There’s a crack in everything; that’s how the light gets in.” 

•You have probably heard of “Kintsugi” - the Japanese art of putting broken pottery pieces back together with gold. Essentially, it is based on embracing flaws and imperfections and making it stronger in the process, highlighting, instead of hiding scars. 

•You too can create perfection from imperfection and something unique, beautiful and strong – accepting what you perceive as your flaws - and, as a result stand out from the crowd as the amazing person that you are – making you a much more magnetic and attractive person in all aspects of your life.

•TRY THIS: Visualize filling in all your imperfections with gold and reflect on how this newfound strength can help others.

•POST IT NOTE: I am perfectly imperfect

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