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§ We all have our comfort zones, and, well, yes, they are comfortable, familiar and cozy because we know what to expect and how to handle it BUT perhaps you need to start thinking of your comfort zone like a cage.

§ Increasing your self-worth and confidence happens when you step outside the zone.

§ Choosing to remain in your comfort zone stunts your growth and progress.

§ You can better yourself and enhance your chances of success when you step out of your comfort zone.

§ You cannot make any progress in your life if you do not try something different.

§ In fact, staying in your comfort zone will almost certainly ensure that you miss out on a lot in life because you are holding back.

§ You have so much to offer the world and so much to learn and experience. This is why it’s so important to step out and live!

§ Here are some quick tips (from a source I recommend) to help you get started:
1. Do your regular every day things/routines differently (make small changes)
2. Expand your professional skills to gain confidence (learn a new skill – language, public speaking, take a course, etc)
3. Try new foods (eat differently, healthier, more variety, etc)
4. Get active (set goals for yourself, try something new, etc)
5. Get creative (arts or anything else, helps foster a growth and creativity mindset, it doesn’t have to be perfect it just has to be you)
6. Challenge your beliefs (look at other perspectives, ideas, ways of doing and thinking)
7. Be honest with others and yourself (fosters feelings of openness and builds strength of character)

§ It may be scary at first but if you take small steps and make small goals, then it will make it much much easier.

§ TRY THIS: change one thing in your daily routine such as taking a different route to work or the store, the type of coffee you drink, etc.

POST IT NOTE: I will step out of my comfort zone

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§ One of my favorite quotes is   from Tene Edwards and it reads, “Know your worth. You must find the courage   to leave the table is respect is no longer being served.” Wow! So powerful!

§ Those who value their worth   are usually happier because they are more confident and are more comfortable   in who they are are.

§ When you value your worth, you   stop tolerating, or even excusing, lack of respect.

§ A part of this is also   self-respect. Not everyone is there yet, and that is OK but it is a goal   worth reaching for.

§ It starts with believing that   you're worthy and valuing your worth and ends with being surrounded by those   who lift you up rather than use, abuse and disrespect you.

§ How to value your worth:
 1. Talk about yourself in a positive way.
 2. Accept that you are not perfect and that is OK.
 3. Voice your concerns when your boundaries not being respected.
 4. Remove negative people and things from your life.
 5. Trust your instincts / gut.
 6. Be confident about who you are and what you have to offer.

§ We have all experienced   someone judging us unfairly, disrespecting us or treating us poorly.

§ Whether it's a family member,   a friend, a lover, a love interest or even a co-worker or employer - it   stings. It bites away at your soul and crushes your ego.

§ It all starts inside you. You   own life experiences have made you who you are, they have defined you.   However, I want to challenge you to define yourself. I want to challenge you   build yourself up so much that you CAN deflect disrespect and, ultimately, be   confident enough to remove yourself from the situation when "respect   isn't being served".

§ Self-love, self-worth,   confidence, etc a process for most of us but it is undoubtedly worth it. When   we are bombarded with images of so-called perfection and skewed milestones of   success, we can feel inadequate.

§ POST IT NOTE: I will not tolerate disrespect

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§ Know and value your worth. We   all often undervalue ourselves and let others have discounts when it comes to   our physical, mental and emotional worth.

§ We shy away from praise or do   not even feel we are worthy of it or that it is necessary. Many of us, me   included, were raised to be “humble” but that made me really uncomfortable   with receiving. Something I am personally working on.

§ Many discount their worth   because of low self-esteem, which is something they either grew up with or   acquired as time went on.

§ It is really important to have   an accurate understanding of who you are and what you have to offer the   world. This means knowing your value.

§ By being self-aware, we gain   the confidence we need to stop discounting ourselves and gain appreciation   and knowledge of our worth.

§ It also means being open to   others and their worldviews, not being arrogant or narcissistic. Because you   know who you are, you do not feel threatened.

§ Accept the fact that you,   along with each and every other person, are valuable and worthy of all good   things.

§ This means accepting every   part of you, perfect or not, forgiving yourself and others in order to move   forward confidently.

§ Also, appreciate and celebrate   your strengths. Additionally, own your weaknesses as areas to work on and   improve. No one is perfect but that does not make him or her less valuable.

§ Ensure that you always   communicate your needs and set your boundaries in such a way that others will   not discount or devalue you.

§ We are all guilty of   discounting ourselves but it is important we value ourselves so that others   will value us in the same way. Discount yourself and others will feel that is   a green light to discount you as well.

§ Remember, your value does not   decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

§ TRY THIS: write down a list of all the things that you are   proud of – accomplishments, actions, etc. Then, know your worth and add tax!

§ POST IT NOTE: I will value my worth

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§ Self-respect is having pride and confidence in yourself, liking yourself for who and what you are, regardless of our deficits.

§ You are so much better than you believe you are. It is true.

§ Having self-respect is not the same as having a big ego; it is a demonstration of strength.

§ The Buddha said, “YOU, yourself, just as much as anyone in the universe deserve YOUR love and affection.” So do you love yourself? Love who you are?

§ Never lose your self-respect or dignity trying to please other people, be true to your values.

§ If you do not demonstrate self-respect then others will see that as a green light to disrespect you and, frankly, treat you as you treat yourself.

§ When you respect yourself, you feel significantly happier and more confident in your life and interactions with others – socially, professionally and romantically.

§ The more you respect and love yourself the less you fear or care about the opinions of others.

§ TRY THIS: Write down affirmations of who you are. Remember to always be yourself, do not be afraid of expressing yourself, and have lots of faith in yourself. Be true to you and do not copy others.

POST IT NOTE: I am an awesome person worthy of good things and people.

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§ You. Yes you! You are great!

§ You are talented and capable of greatness.

§ The problem is that most people do not believe that they are great.

§ BUT it’s by knowing and celebrating who you are that you will truly know and enforce your worth.

§ Identify what you love and what makes you special, what talents you have, what makes you stand out from the crowd.

§ How to do this? Work at it. Yes, the “W” word. When you are exploring what you are great at you will have to work at building what is already there. For example, you may have a good singing voice but if you do not train it then you will always be good not build it to something great.

§ When you are passionate about something this will not be hard to do.

§ It is important to set attainable goals for yourself as well so you will stay motivated and focused.

§ Be open to change and see things in a new way in order to grow.

§ Additionally, having a good support system around you helps encourage you, especially because some moments will be difficult.

§ TRY THIS: Identify what you are great at, if you cannot yourself, ask others. Find ways to build on it and make it even stronger and better. Enhancing your growth.

POST IT NOTE: I will be great at what I’m great at

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· One of the hardest things for people to accept is their worthiness of love and respect.

· They may SAY they will not settle for less but they always do - from their friends, family, coworkers and love interests.

· We have all been burnt on our journey and that can erode our self-esteem making us feel less worthy.

· But I challenge you to take your power back! You are not a victim you an empowered strong person.

· To be worthy of love and respect doesn't mean that you have to be perfect or better than anyone else.

· No one person is more or less worthy or deserving.

· Knowing your worth means that you don't accept any behavior from others that makes you feel less than you are because you KNOW who you are and what you have to offer.

· You deserve to be treated well by others and to be happy and fulfilled.

· You are worthy of love and respect.

· This week's mantra: "I am worthy of love and respect."

Write it down. Repeat it. BELIEVE IT!

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Be a Team Player
§ We live in a world that is interconnected. Whether we like it or not, we need each other.

§ A team player actively contributes to their circle - whether it is a community, work, social or family group - for the greater good of all.

§ Someone who is a good team player understands their personal roles and responsibilities as related to others but also that they are part of a collective. All do better when each person works for the betterment of all.

§ Helping others becomes part of your daily life. Whatever that means for you. It could be listening to someone, helping someone with their groceries, or even motivating others to reach their full potential.

§ A team player knows all people can succeed concurrently, even if there are differing opinions, ideas, or ways of doing things. It does not mean you need to always "drink the kool aid" and conform, it means to respect others and their ways of being and thinking.

§ Being a team player makes you a positive magnet to others. People want to be around others who will listen to them and work together with them. This can greatly benefit you in all aspects of your life.

§ It demonstrates confidence in who you are and what you have to offer others.

§ You can enhance your collaborative qualities by:

§ - being open to be helpful to others,

§ - being an active listener,

§ - communicating effectively (verbally and nonverbally),

§ - respecting others,

§ - sharing your knowledge,

§ - as well as celebrating others' successes.

§ It does not mean enabling others' bad behavior or suppressing your own values or beliefs to conform to others. What it does mean is being true to yourself and using what makes you special to help others.

§ We do not live in a bubble; we cannot, not if we want to make a positive impact in our lives and with others. As they say: be the change you wish to see in the world.

§ TRY THIS: Look for opportunities to be a good team player / global citizen and use what you have to offer (your passions, your talents, your skills) in your community to enhance it and help others on their own path.

POST IT NOTE: I will find opportunities to help others

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§ It's easy to get carried away with life's craziness which is why we need to focus on taking control of our life ourselves rather than letting life control us.

§ Control means different things to different people, so it is important to pinpoint what exactly you feel is out of control in your life in order to take the steps to regain control.

§ Whatever "out of control" means for you, it represents a challenge you have to overcome. For example, if your house looks like a tornado ripped through it, organizing and cleaning may help regain your focus.

§ Being honest about your limitations - what is within and outside your control - helps with perspective. Accept that you cannot change everyone or everything but you can work on yourself by changing your thinking.

§ Succeeding at taking control of your life really begins with commitment to the process and learning every step of the way - what works? What doesn't? What makes you feel more in control? What doesn't? What motivates you to do better? Use your intuition. It is really a process.

§ Controlling your emotions, reactions and perspectives can also help you see things more clearly and build your emotional intelligence. Try meditating or even taking a deep breath to "regroup" when you feel that things are spiraling out of control.

§ You will find that taking control of your life will help you not only connect in a meaningful way with others but also make you look more positively at your life.

§ TRY THIS: Reflect on what taking control of your life really means for you so that you can focus your efforts. What do you feel is "out of control" and what is within your control? What steps can you take to make a change? Remember to start small.

POST IT NOTE: I will not let my life control me

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The storms we face in life can be overwhelming. 

•It could, at times, feel unbearable, as if we cannot move another foot.

•BUT we can. YOU can. You are STRONGER than your storm.

•Using your past experiences and any supports that you have, you can get through anything. 

•Just be patient with yourself. Some journeys take longer than others do and that is OK.

•This week's mantra: "I am stronger than my storm."

•Write it down. Repeat it. BELIEVE IT!

•POST IT NOTE: I am stronger than my storm

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It is important to be known as someone who keeps their word and gets things done – essentially a “closer”.

•This starts by setting goals and achieving them. Start small and then move to bigger ones. Small goals achieved will motivate you to do more. 

•Writing things down personally helps me achieve my goals. It makes it real and sometimes I write the steps I need to accomplish in order to achieve my goals. Then I put things into motion until they are done.

•Being a closer is especially important in your interpersonal relationships. By being a person of your word, you demonstrate respect for others, which reflects positively on you and makes others take you more seriously.

•Additionally, when you demonstrate that your life is in order, and that you achieve the goals you set out for yourself, it makes you more attractive to others – especially love and career interests.

•POST IT NOTE: I will achieve my goals

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