In this episode, I share with you an afternoon rambling about how I use my energy throughout my day to enjoy being in my mind, body, and connecting with people—the fundamental human wellness-ing elements.

Something to know about me is that I'm not interesting or special, despite what many tell me. Instead, because of my love of language and human experience, I notice things many don't and have the words to describe it.

Listen if you want to hear another way a fellow human human's in the every day, because I have the strongest belief that by shifting our angle in our experience by the smallest degree (word), we can choose how we experience our experience (e.g., conversations, work, learning...). 

Listen loosely,

Kx

Kathy Swears Scale: Zip, zilch, zero swears.

Can you recall a time you sat in front of someone and asked them for help or needed them to do something for you and felt that pressure of having to know it all? Or has someone said, 'Why didn't you ask for help?' Or, 'What's stopping you?'

 

These examples of articulating what you're experiencing, being aware of blind spots, and what we need and from how....this is the skill of knowing oneself and being able to articulate it—self-reporting.

 

When you don't know it's a thing, self-reporting can feel really heavy and uncomfortable. When you know different you can experience it differently.

 

In this episode, I share one of my stories that inspires part of my passion for language in our every day. An experience of being aware of oneself is one thing. It's about how we describe that experience to others that blocks and unlocks what happens next.

 

I intended to share how this works in the business setting, but you'll giggle with me as I change the plan partway in the conversation. Instead, shifting the focus toward collecting examples of self-reports and what you can do with them now you know it's a thing.

 

Listen loosely,

 

Kx

 

Kathy Swears Scale: Totally PG bordering G rating.

This episode can be listened to as a buyer or a seller of something. I'm talking about an earworm I couldn't shake as I was reviewing and writing recent sales pages for a couple of clients. They said the same words I had said previously, 'I don't like the idea of pain points in my marketing'.

 

So, I share this conversation to start a different angle of the dangle of pain points in selling.

 

While I make every effort to stick to one point here about moving the connection to pain points in selling, you can giggle as I catch myself in 'Squirrel' moments and then quickly bring myself back to the main point (yes, I too am continually practising the art of clear messaging).

 

Pain points in selling are an industry of themselves, and I truly believe we can shape the market by learning what they do and what we can do instead. This conversation contributes to a broader conversation that I'm sure (hope) already exists in the world, and this one just has my language angle.

 

Listen loosely, and then you can giggle as you notice the pain points in your world. Giggle as you see businesses doing the very best they can with what they have.

 

Expert listeners...for those that want to come at a different angle, shift this concept of pain points to how we sell our stories to get buy-in from others to get their support...a very interesting angle to talk about another day.

 

Kx

 

Kathy Swears Scale: Holy sh!t it's Friday and I didn't swear once!

In this episode, I share with you part of my experience of how I realised I was experiencing what many may call a depressive episode. It's funny, in here I didn't say that word once because, like cheap chocolate, it doesn't do it for me.

 

Instead, when you listen, you will find another way to experience this experience. Especially as this (depressive) episode had no suffering, no pain, or little loss of observable functioning.

 

It cleverly whispered under my radar far longer than I still can put my finger on.

 

My suggestion is to focus on part of my experience that resonates with you, and at least one of the things I did that may be helpful to you to do in your world. Like me, it's not about labels but about how we can shape our experience one step at a time.

 

If you are to share your experience, I suggest focusing on what you know now and what you can do now that you know.

 

Listen loosely,

 

Kx

 

Kathy Swears Scale: None. There are many Fs I give about this experience, and they are all wonderful, softly written between the lines of my experience here.

Have you heard of a USP? A USP is our unique selling position. They are how we describe who we are, what we do, who we do it with and what it achieves. Some call it an elevator pitch, and others have no friggin idea what I'm talking about...yet. If it helps, think of your USP as your bio on Instagram. Short, to the point, and let people size of how you are relevant (or not) to them.

 

Listen to this episode if you want to hear how I realised I was USP-ing to collect confusion and slow what I'm creating behind closed doors. Then listen to how you can use this to shape your experience now to influence people to look where you want them to look (and what it gets you). This is relevant to both those working in their own business or for/in a business/organisation.

 

This conversation is a wonderful weaving path to something I didn't plan, and yet it works. It's funny how our feet always find the ground, maybe not as easily as cats, but like dogs as we shake ourselves off, smile and feel the joy of a moment.

 

Listen loosely while walking in your lunch break, cleaning the back of the fridge, or laying on the grass making out shapes from the passing clouds.

 

Kx

 

Kathy Swears Scale: No wonderful swears in this one.

Listen to this episode if you want a fresh view of what you can do when you're witnessing others in crisis. This is one view from a human who has been on the front line of crisis in its many stages and positions.

 

If you only read this, the takeaway is to know that it's important to have more than enough in the tank to continue to do you and to share resources over the long haul. With fatigue, many can overlook the role they can play in a chronic crisis or prolong recovery efforts. Yet, by recognising the pull of mirroring the feeling and energy of the acute crisis, we can be helpful for a long time to come.

 

Listen loosely and talk curiously with your people.

 

Kx

 

Kathy Swears Scale: Just a couple of Fs to give on this important sowing of conversation seeds (and it's a Friday).

Have you ever said, 'Oh, you must have...been so scared...felt awful...' or 'That must be so frustrating....hard...' or all the versions of what you say to someone (often well-meaning) after hearing something bad. Or did you hear something and had no idea what to say?

Listen to this episode if you're ready to know what's helps to say and not helpful to say...for both of you. Listen to this episode if you're ready to really hold space and not make it about you (because it is for and it totally isn't for them).

Clear as mud?

Listen loosely, laugh at what I learned not to do when you have false teeth and take what you learn into your day from there (I mean the language strategy, not the false teeth learning).

Kx

 

Kathy Swears Scale: Think this one was a straight-up PG rating people...which is a surprise because it's a Friday!

WARNING (YES I'M YELLING): THIS EPISODE CONTAINS THE BEST WORDS THAT ARE TYPICALLY CONSIDERED OFFENSIVE, RUDE, SWEARING.

THE PURPOSE OF THIS EPISODE IS TO SHARE AN ALTERNATIVE VIEW ON A DATED DEFINITION.

ONLY LISTEN if you are ready, or already do, love to consider the full range a word can extend. 

This conversation is sparked because I say Ricky Gervais beautiful serious 'After Life' was rated R because of one word and the very next thing I watched had horrific violence and was rated M. What the ?!

This led me to ponder how it may be time to shift our baseline.

I warn and encourage you to hear how the C word in my house has gone from the worse word to one of love. Swearing has a purpose in my orbit and no word is left behind. Swearing is only used for a specific purpose and is not used for another. When these conditions are met, swearing aligns with safe and flowing conversations.

Listen curiously with a soft eye and cheeky smile in realising the wonder of these words. Just by being curious we can change that old story and shape a new.

Kx

Kathy Swears Scale: All the best swear words said with love. So many innuendos as this was recorded on a Friday. Only listen if you already feel comfortable with swearing or want to grow to.

This episode if for the conversation starters, decision-makers, and those that lead from the front and encourage from the back. For those that love being in the middle, this is an important place to echo what's growing.

Listen to the episode if you have recently had a conversation about changing the date of Australia Day (or a similar conversation in your part of the world).

Here I suggest that changing the date is not what we want, actually it may be drawing out the change that is desired by slowing the conversation.

Here I dance with an evolving conversation.

We can move the action quicker by moving from ambiguity to getting specific now.

Ambiguity gets agreement and details get action already did.

From here you can giggle at the grey that decision-makers love in 'Change the Date' and be a part of supporting them to make decisions in real-time.

This conversation is shared with wholehearted respect and courtesy to all the events that have led to this very moment, may they show us what we can inspire our future humans to grow toward.

Kx

Kathy Swears: Like one F-bomb I think and a bitta slang.

Have you picked your word of the year yet? Yes? No?

 

Whether you have or you haven't, you can find out what you can do here. Listen to this episode if you're up to making your word of the year stick by listening to me up my human functioning levels in 2022 with the lens that is my word of the year.

 

This episode builds on what I found after writing the blog on my word of the year. Click here to read the article (or listen...that's right, I read it to you).

 

I'm loving this blog and really upping my long-form writing there as I get to put all the licks and tricks with my writing there as I choose. You'll giggle hearing the little slips of Harry Potter and the sensation created with my wording way. Like, smelling still waters. Do they smell crisp and fresh for you or kinda stanky in their stillness. Check it out and see it in context to notice what you notice.

 

Until then and then until, thank you for showing up here without being told and being open to curiosity-ing as only you can do.

 

Kathy x

 

Kathy Swears Scale: Totally PG, mostly twanging in my slanging in this one—it's a Tuesday after all.