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Listen to this episode if you are one (or you know someone) who has the continual urge to jump from one thing to another and fight with all your might to stand still.

You're in good company and you're perfectly normal. Being someone who knows a thing or two about chronic, I adapt my knowledge to what my pain had helped me hide for so long...my creativity and curiosity.

In this episode, you will hear a little of my evolving inner commentary. Imagine me holding a microphone running after my mind which is flying around the room like a balloon that has just been untied.

There is a beauty in this randomness when you breathe slower than me and listen to the rhythm of the fast beats. Find your rhythm and discover all the hidden parts I've plugged in just for you.

Shortly, I'll share my word for 2022. Having listened to this episode now, you'll soon realise the importance of this word in shaping a daily life of quality.

Listen to this episode if you're about to get a dose of honesty served to you.

 

Here, I share with you my current efforts and energies to shape my experience of taking in feedback to be received as it's intended by the beautiful human sharing it. By making the experience feel better, you can invest less energy into feeling the fight-flight-freeze physiology and get more blood to your brain, which means you can take in more information and process it easier and easier.

 

Oh yes, it feels icky and I share with you what icky means here to give you further language-ing you can use to describe your experience and again reduce the energy investment (connection) in feeling big feelings.

 

Instead, make it simpler.

 

Come back to this episode when you want to grow and practice growing, your story about being safe and learning to love the feedback process so that you can supercharge integrating the notes you receive.

 

Listen loosely and with an open heart.

 

K x

 

Kathy Swears Scale: Like one F-bomb.

Do you find feedback fun or frustrating? Do you look forward to hearing what you don't know yet, especially when it's going to potentially change what you are doing? Do you have the energy?

 

What if shaping your story about feedback frees up up energy to make feedback-ing experiences reach their full potential?

 

Listen to this episode if you want to hear another way you can shape your experience of developing and deploying a new business service/product and applying real-time changes. It doesn't have to be hard and it does feel icky at times, and the outcome is you get stronger sooner.

 

The point is that you can shape your experience, and by listening to this episode you will have a few different things you can collect in how YOU can do you in this process. Does it apply to not business-ing? (we shall call this careering) Yes!

 

Feedback has been shaped as not what it is. I've not met a lazy person that has listened to my podcast, which means you're not lazy and you are curious. This means you know you can shape receiving feedback with a little fun and a lot of success quickly. It means the struggle is there for as long as it needs to be and then you get to work (feel the feels, discover what you need, and get it did already.

 

Hint: Notice when you, or someone else, say(s), 'You've done it wrong,' and change it to, 'Righto, what's preventing this from being right now?'

 

K x

 

Kathy Swears Scale: None in this one, just a little slang.

Following the last episode, I continued to unlock a collection of things people love and hate about how I talk with them. In this episode, I share how I look at people differently. It both pushes people away and draws people in.

 

Listen to this episode if you want to catch the bug of looking at people with strength and ponder if you see people as being broken or strong. Then you can wonder how does this reflect how you see yourself right now.

 

We only see others as we see ourselves. It can be as brutal as it is empowering to realise.

 

Regardless, doing it with love and wonder, because you're here, that means you're must be friggin' amazing!

 

Kx

 

Kathy Swears Scale: Instagram doesn't bleep out pissed off, so I haven't considered that as a swear word.

Listen to this episode if you want to put your toe on what it is about how I talk that intrigues your scratchy curiosity so much.

It's also helpful to those that find themselves in conversations that regularly piss people off.

Sharing a new light on a dark subject, holding something with humour, or coming in so opposite can be misunderstood as a lack of respect, not taking things seriously, and not getting it. Many talk about fighting, speaking up, getting people to...

The simple fact is that we cannot make anyone do anything they don't want to, especially if it doesn't align with what's important to them. To do so (and expect the same) is potentially unsafe for us all.

Here you can come along the windy path towards how I have learned to know when to say something, how to make it more welcoming than not, knowing that whatever follows is not about me, and know when to shut the f* up (a language strategy I share with many).

It's all about safety. It's always about you relative to your world. Knowing where we start and stop and how our bubble influences others is a truly magnificent skill to grow.

Listen loosely and take what is yours.

Kx

Kathy Swears Scale: I say a lot of p's in this one I think. The Ps help capture that reaction felt when something's too far out our worlds it can be felt as a threat.

Listen to this episode if you're open to strengthening your boundaries and actually using them.

 

In this episode, I'm starting a conversation that'll be littered throughout my presence on-the-line—all with the hope and joy of knowing that inspired ideas will be sprouting confetti all over the joint.

 

Everything starts with a seed. This is only the beginning.

 

Hold it lightly and allow the light to help it to grow.

 

Kathy x

 

Kathy Swears Scale: Lots of silent F's not said aloud.

Remember how I said this podcast is my verbal journaling and I'm sharing it here because many told me they like to watch, giggle at me, and learn new ways of processing information. You know when there's no music that I was fired up and ready to jump in. What's interesting is how the thing that rubbed me up the wrong way (caught my attention) wasn't really what peeved me off. Instead, it was the crashing of several ponders that I had been throwing about over the last few weeks. And it rose up in my body like fire.

There's a very high chance this episode doesn't make sense to many. But I trust at least one part will help you, hence I choose to share it with you.

Listen to this episode if you want to hear logic collide with a surge of passion to turn up my pilot light and quieten to a comfortable volume as the logic revealed itself. What's happening is that I'm making sense of many sources of data in my world (what we humans are built for) and with that, I carry what I need in less than 15 minutes of talking to myself.

Your turn.

Listen Loosely.

Kathy swears scale: C'mon, I was peeved at the start, this one definitely has swearing.

Listen to this episode if you want to learn how you can shape receiving feedback in real-time—making the process something to look forward to, to make easy, to know that you're safe and about to discover what you did and didn't know yet.

Here, as always, you're listening to my processing in almost real-time. Discover how language-ing and noticing the stories we tell ourselves can be so friggin amazing and achieve those things we're told.

Feedback can come in many forms. Here you can notice how I process external feedback from another wonderful human while I pair and integrate it with my cognitive and biofeedback (what's happening in my mind and body). 

Kathy Swear Scale: No swearing here. I know right! WTF?!

Oh, this is an exciting lesson I learned recently.

If you're new here or know me well, something changed recently for me. I found my voice and for the last two months, I've been taking her out on a whirlwind romance that's going to stick.

Listen to this episode if you have felt that urge or feel that urge to justify yourself and want different.

Listen when you want to shape what you do at the next networking event.

Listen if you want to hear a human that is loving her mind silly and sharing all the overflowing bits with you...there's plenty to go around.

Listen loosely and enjoy,

K x

Kathy swear scale: Said F once...I think!

Extending this week's Word of the Day - Iterate.

Iterate reminds us that nothing is done exactly the same twice, or more. Learning to move from the big to the small detail is key. That means if it feels the same, work out what's the same and then dive into the detail. If it feels too much, move back up to the big picture.

 

Instead of saying it is different, I suggest saying it's a little new. This connects enough to what was and assumes that there is not that wasn't there until now.

 

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Transcript and link to newsletter available soon (this was delaying sharing this episode, so I said stuff it, I will just let you know because you are a good bunch and want to get iterating already!)

 

Kathy swear scale: Like two Fs I think I gave here!