• Do self-reflection on how your own desires were/are met, and how this relates to your personal stories.
• Consider opening up to safe people about what you are discovering and figuring out regarding your own story and the seven desires.

• Hosts express gratitude for podcast's reach and impact, while acknowledging the need for continued support and sharing.
• Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter discuss the importance of communication in sexual relationships.
• They describe how many couples operate in a "sexual dance" of non-communication, which can lead to unhealthy patterns.
• Hosts discuss seven desires of the human heart in navigating difficult circumstances.
• Roane Hunter explains that desire is not just a physical need but a deeper longing for true intimacy and connection.
• The Hebrew word "yetzer hara" refers to the dark desires within us, including murder, greed, and lust, which are part of human nature even after salvation.

• Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter discuss the limitations of traditional religious teachings on sexuality and relationships.
• Derrick argues that the Western Church is not open or safe for discussions on these topics, while Hunter believes that people are desperate for this information.
• Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter discuss the struggle with dark desires and the importance of acknowledging and addressing them in one's spiritual journey.
• The speakers emphasize the reality of these desires in people's lives and the need to understand and deal with them in a biblical and experiential way.

• Roane Hunter discusses the "seven desires" concept, citing James 4:1-2.
• Roane Hunter discusses the importance of being heard, understood, and blessed, as well as being safe, touched, included, and chosen in relationships.
• Hunter emphasizes the need for emotional safety and human touch in relationships, and how a lack of these can lead to long-term problems.

• Ben Derrick discusses his desire for affirmation and understanding in his relationships, and how he has taken control of his own desires when they are not being met.
• Derrick shares his experiences with sexuality and obsession with being chosen and touched, and how this has impacted his relationships.
• Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter discuss the impact of unmet desires on sexual behavior and the importance of addressing these needs in a healthy and constructive way.
• Roane Hunter discusses the appeal of masturbation and pornography, citing ease of access and satisfaction of desires as main reasons.
• Hunter argues that the brain is conditioned to respond positively to these stimuli, making it difficult for men to stop despite negative consequences.

• Men struggle to regulate emotions through pornography use, leading to unmet desires and emotional work.
• Roane Hunter discusses the challenges of overcoming pornography addiction, particularly in men.
• Hunter notes that exposure to pornography is common among children, with the average age of exposure to hardcore porn being around 10-13 years old.

• Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter discuss the harm caused by shaming children and using religion to hide their sexual curiosity.
• They argue that this approach leads to secrecy and silence, causing more harm in the long run.
• Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter discuss the "Desires of the Heart" list, a tool for couples to identify and communicate their deepest needs and desires in their relationship.
• The list includes 7 categories, and the couple works together to rate how well their partner is meeting their needs in each category.

• Roane Hunter and Ben Derrick discuss the importance of communication in relationships, particularly in understanding each other's needs and desires.
• They explore how childhood experiences can shape one's understanding of relationships and how to meet needs in a healthy way.
• Roane Hunter describes himself as a high feeling man, raised by an Enneagram One mother and Five father, and struggles with emotional intensity and overactive conscience.
• Hunter believes that parents of high feeling emotional men often struggle to meet their emotional needs, leading to a "big mess" in relationships until the man can slow down and be understood.
• Roane Hunter shares personal experiences as a high feeling man, recognizing that many men struggle with emotional expression and stoicism.
• Ben Derrick agrees and adds that depression can be seen as anger turned inward, while anger turned outward can be a sign of depression.

• Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter discuss the importance of men's groups for emotional support and meeting desires.
• Men can find emotional fulfillment in healthy men's groups, rather than relying solely on their spouses.
• Roane Hunter and Ben Derrick discuss the importance of self-awareness in relationships and spiritual growth.
• They emphasize the need for men to open up and uncover their true selves, especially in same-gender relationships.

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