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119: How to Have the Best Fight of Your Life with Lindley Gentile, LMFT

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How are your fighting skills? Most couples could use a LOT of work in this area, and I have just the person to help us! I’m thrilled to be joined by a great friend, Lindley Gentile, for today’s episode. She’s a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who recently wrote an ebook titled, How to Have the Best Fight of Your Life. Listen to our conversation about this thought-provoking topic and learn why looking for right and wrong is the WORST way to handle conflict. 


Show Highlights:

  • Lindley’s motivation to write this book? Because many (most!) couples seek therapy around communication issues
  • Fighting well leads to being seen well.
  • The need to uplevel your fighting skill set beyond being “right or wrong”
  • Ways in which we are fighting wrong
  • Making the shift from arguing about who’s right to witnessing one another
  • The fable of the elephant can teach us about being open to another’s experience.
  • The value of “I” statements over “You” statements
  • Withdrawing physically and emotionally during conflict vs. the skill of asking for a pause
  • Fight, flight, or freeze
  • The WWC framework: witness, witness, and collaborate


    • Resources and Links:

    Connect with Lindley Gentile and Austin Couples Concierge: Website, Instagram, and book

    Connect with KC: Website, TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook

    Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning

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