By Cate Osborn, Understood.org
5
1111 ratings
The podcast currently has 14 episodes available.
If you like this show, consider making a donation this holiday season. 100% of your donation will go towards helping us create more podcasts (like this one!). Click here to make a gift today.
Sometimes, romantic relationships just don’t work out. And breaking up with someone can be really tough — including having the breakup conversation. With ADHD, overthinking, people-pleasing, and rejection sensitivity can make it even harder.
This week, ADHD coach and author of I Don’t Hate My Ex-Husband Jess DuBose visits Sorry, I Missed This. Listen to learn how to check in with yourself about your relationship, and some tips to help you through a breakup conversation.
Related resources
Timestamps
(02:08) Why did Jess write her book?
(04:13) How does ADHD impact breaking up?
(05:19) Staying in a relationship because of people-pleasing
(07:42) Jess’ growth process: ASPIRE
(10:22) Guided meditation exercise about whether or not to break up with someone
(14:08) What can help you through a breakup
(19:32) Initiating the conversation to end a relationship
(24:10) How to avoid the impulse to backpedal during the breakup conversation
(27:37) Jess’ parting advice
(29:14) Where you can find Jess
To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org.
We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at [email protected].
Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
If you like this show, consider making a donation this holiday season. 100% of your donation will go towards helping us create more podcasts (like this one!). Click here to make a gift today.
Self-advocacy and ADHD workplace disclosure come together in a package. It’s important to know yourself and your values in order to be the best self-advocate you can be.
In this week’s episode, ADHD at Work founder Meghan Brown-Enyia answers the question: What is a good self-advocate? And, gives her recipe for advocating for yourself.
Related resources
Timestamps
(03:05) Why did Meghan create ADHD at Work?
(06:59) Am I ready to be an ADHD self-advocate?
(09:37) Meghan’s recipe for self-advocacy
(13:19) Self-advocacy and emotional regulation
(16:08) How do you figure out your ADHD needs in the workplace?
(19:33) Best practices for asking for supports
(24:00) Am I a bad self-advocate if I choose not to disclose my ADHD?
(26:36) Where you can find Meghan
To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org
We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at [email protected].
Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
If you like this show, consider making a donation this holiday season. 100% of your donation will go towards helping us create more podcasts (like this one!). Click here to make a gift today.
Consent is an agreement that people reach together. It can get a bit tricky with people-pleasing and black and white thinking — two things that can often come up with ADHD. The Wheel of Consent can help.
This week, host Cate Osborn welcomes Betty Martin to the show. Betty is the author of The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent. Join Betty and Cate as they break down the Wheel of Consent and why it can be a great tool for ADHDers.
Related resources
Timestamps
(00:00) Introduction to the Wheel of Consent
(03:08) What is consent?
(08:25) What does the Wheel of Consent do?
(10:25) Redefining “receiving” and “giving”
(12:21) ADHD, and talking about consent
(17:34) How to figure out what you actually want
(23:14) The 3-minute game
(29:26) “Putting up with” touch
(31:26) The “shadow sides” of the Wheel of Consent
(35:17) Where you can find Betty and more Wheel of Consent resources
To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org
We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at [email protected].
Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
If you like this show, consider making a donation this holiday season. 100% of your donation will go towards helping us create more podcasts (like this one!). Click here to make a gift today.
Do you not notice that you’re hungry until you’re raging? Do you bump into things constantly? These are just two examples of how our sensory systems can affect those of us with ADHD. And they have a lot more to do with communication than you might think.
This week, author of ADHD & Us and licensed clinical social worker Anita Robertson breaks down the three hidden sensory systems. Join Anita and Cate as they talk about how these can affect relationships with ADHD, and share some tools that can help.
Related resources
Timestamps
(04:19) What is a sensory difference?
(08:21) What are the 3 hidden sensory systems?
(11:05) How does interoception impact ADHD?
(14:47) The vestibular system and ADHD
(20:28) Proprioception and ADHD
(23:05) Sensory systems and communication with ADHD
(26:56) How do we start identifying our sensory needs?
(30:21) Where you can find Anita
To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org
We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at [email protected].
Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
If you like this show, consider making a donation this holiday season. 100% of your donation will go towards helping us create more podcasts (like this one!). Click here to make a gift today.
Have you ever impulsively thrown yourself into a relationship? Do you change your interests based on who you’re dating? Today, we're sharing an episode of the "Tips from an ADHD Coach" podcast on rushing into relationships that might not actually be what you want.
ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on changing yourself in relationships. Listen for Jaye’s own connection to this, and some reality checks you can give yourself. Explore more episodes of "Tips from an ADHD Coach" and check out other podcasts on MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel.
To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the MissUnderstood podcast page at Understood.org
We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at [email protected].
Related resources
Timestamps
(02:28) Ange’s quote
(04:51) Jaye’s reaction
(06:25) What is dopamine?
(09:57) What happens once we get into the relationship we wanted?
(11:47) What can we do to help?
Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
If you like this show, consider making a donation this holiday season. 100% of your donation will go towards helping us create more podcasts (like this one!). Click here to make a gift today.
Conflict can be uncomfortable. But it’s a necessary part of life that can have great outcomes. ADHD often comes with trouble with executive function, emotional regulation, time perception, and more. This can make conflict even tougher to face.
Senior certified Gottman relationship therapist Michael McNulty walks us through the research on which the Gottman Method is based — and what it means for relationships.
Listen to Cate and Michael as they explore how conflict can change with ADHD, and the four horsemen of divorce — each with their own antidote.
Related resources
Timestamps
(03:34) What is the Gottman Method?
(06:00) The research the Gottman Method is based on
(09:42) ADHD and the Gottman Method
(12:54) Executive function and conflict
(15:22) Time perception and conflict
(16:20) What is “turning away and turning towards”?
(19:13) The four horsemen of divorce
(20:32) The first horseman: Criticism
(23:26) The second horseman: Defensiveness
(24:50) The third horseman: Contempt
(27:48) The fourth horseman: Stonewalling
(29:11) Where you can find Michael
To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org
We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at [email protected].
Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
If you like this show, consider making a donation this holiday season. 100% of your donation will go towards helping us create more podcasts (like this one!). Click here to make a gift today.
Dating is a skill. And like any skill, it takes practice. ADHD can intensify dating challenges. Like, masking to be someone we’re not so the other person will like us. Or, having intense feelings quickly, and jumping into a relationship that may not be what we want in the long run.
Dating coach Amie Leadingham visits the show this week to talk about what a dating coach does and common dating pitfalls. Host Cate Osborn addresses what these challenges can look like with ADHD on top.
Related resources
Timestamps
(03:59) What does a dating coach do?
(08:07) How ADHD can affect dating
(09:29) ADHD and “love bombing”
(12:56) What is “screening”?
(14:04) Masking in dating/The “marketing trap”
(17:50) How to ask good questions
(19:45) What to do when you realize your relationship might not be what you want
(21:37) How can people with ADHD show up to be good partners?
(23:42) When do we disclose that we have ADHD?
(25:21) Trouble with time perception and texting
(26:20) Trouble with impulse control and dating
(27:30) Amie’s question suggestions
(29:00) ADHD and oversharing
(30:54) Amie on a dating timeline
(33:10) ADHD and kink
(34:24) Where you can find Amie
To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org
We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at [email protected].
Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
Workplace relationships can be challenging for anyone. But for people with ADHD, trouble with working memory, self-control, emotions, and more can make professionalism even more confusing.
Executive and ADHD coach Farah Jamil visits the show to clear up some common mysteries, like, how do I speak up for myself? And, what do I do when I’ve made a mistake? Listen for her answers, and some great tips to keep in your back pocket.
Related resources
Timestamps
(03:38) What does Farah do as an executive coach and ADHD coach?
(06:57) Recognizing that it’s OK not to have all of the answers at work
(09:40) How can ADHD affect collaboration in the workplace?
(11:01) The What, the How, and the Why
(13:03) How can ADHD affect communication in the workplace?
(14:56) Feeling socially awkward at work
(17:15) How to start identifying your needs
(19:36) Conflict in the workplace
(21:43) Communication strategies
(25:28) How can we take ownership of our mistakes?
(31:12) Fear of success
(34:37) Where you can find Farah
To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org
We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at [email protected].
Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
When you have ADHD, it can affect every part of your life — even sex. ADHD impacts how we show up in relationships. And it can be easy to forget it’s with us in the bedroom too.
ADHD sexpert and psychologist Dr. Ari Tuckman visits the podcast this week to talk about the connection between ADHD and sex. Listen to this foundational episode as we set the scene to cover more in-depth topics on sex in future episodes.
To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org.
We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at [email protected].
Related resources
Timestamps
(03:45) Why is ADHD and sex an important topic?
(07:24) What Ari learned from research for his book, ADHD After Dark
(10:33) ADHD and responsibility
(12:47) Avoiding a transactional sexual relationship
(14:55) Intentionality and ADHD
(17:39) What can we do to help?
(25:10) Ari’s main takeaways
(26:45) What do I do if me or my partner is really excited about sex, but one or the other of us struggles to remember it exists?
(29:54) What do I do if I get distracted during sex?
Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
Boundaries are limits based on our values — and a key part of good relationships. ADHD can come with low self-esteem and anxiety, which can get in the way of respecting your own boundaries in relationships.
ADHD educator and marriage counselor Melissa Orlov explains what boundaries are and how ADHD comes into play. Plus, she offers tips on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries in relationships.
To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.
We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at [email protected].
Related resources
Timestamps
(04:28) What is a boundary?
(10:20) How do we figure out what our boundaries are?
(14:51) People pleasing
(20:45) How do we work on creating and evolving boundaries with a partner?
(22:16) Top three things to know, and some activities to get started
(24:42) Cate's Comment Corner
Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
The podcast currently has 14 episodes available.
10,773 Listeners
439 Listeners
1,307 Listeners
1,971 Listeners
43,186 Listeners
12,481 Listeners
22,869 Listeners
2,714 Listeners
633 Listeners
1,994 Listeners
40,438 Listeners
6,079 Listeners
106 Listeners
721 Listeners
348 Listeners