Do you struggle with rejection?

How does your response vary from the boardroom to the bedroom?

Do layers of your identity affect how you deal with rejection?

We surveyed our community regarding their experiences of rejection, and we shared their insights in this week's episode. We think it's a great one! Thank you to those who sent messages. We appreciate you.

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12 Strategies to Manage Rejection

Intro: You're listening to the sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice. You can use tonight.

Dr. Jess: Hey, hey, we are running a repeat podcast today on the topic of rejection because it's, it's a week of rejection emails. If you're going to rejection, that's my jam. I'm totally, let's go. Let's do this. It's your specialty? Receiving rejection or rejecting others? Both. Oh, really? Okay. Anyhow, we received so many questions about dealing with rejection this week.

Sometimes these things come in waves and themes. And questions about rejection in and out of the bedroom. And a while back, we covered this topic, so we're gonna do it again, and I'm gonna share that episode with you, which is perfect for me, because we are down at my family reunion. Over 60 of us, Chinese [00:01:00] Jamaicans, Changs.

Brandon: This is where the rejection came in. I tried so hard to talk to people, but they just kept rejecting and not listening to me.

Dr. Jess: Well, my family's on transmit, not receive. Yeah, for sure. We talk more than we listen. Anyhow, we're down here, lots of distractions, lots of food, so much chaos, so much love, and I'm happy to get to enjoy it.

So, without further ado, we'll throw it back to, I think March 2022. Here you go.

Brandon: Welcome to the sex with Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your co host Brandon Ware here with my lovely other half, Dr. Jess.

Dr. Jess: Well, hello. Hello. We're going to be talking about rejection because we started talking about rejection last week by accident, sort of, and I got a lot of feedback actually on that episode and people had a lot of questions and maybe felt we didn't go as much into depth as we could have and also people shared their insights.

So today we're going to talk about how to handle rejection and potentially boost confidence and I have insights from over a dozen people. who sent short messages, longer messages and all really helpful stuff, actually.

Brandon: I feel like I did go very deep, [00:02:00] personally.

Dr. Jess: Oh, it was to be clear, people weren't complaining, they just kind of wanted more of it.

Oh, okay.

Brandon: Well, I mean, rejection is something that everybody deals with, so let's

Dr. Jess: do it. Yeah, and last week, actually, we talked about the fact that you don't feel badly when I reject you sexually. It's when it's otherwise. Mm hmm, yes. Yeah, and that's really interesting because one of the first comments I received, and then I received a number along this theme, is around why women can say no to sex, but when a guy says no, it's absurd or crazy, and there were a bunch of other kind of descriptions there.

And it really does speak to these gender double standards that are rooted in, I think, social capital around, along gender lines, right? Men are supposed to always want sex, they're supposed to be good at sex, they're supposed to take it personally if a partner doesn't want them, and for women,