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What happens in you when someone comes at you with intensity?
Do you freeze, go blank, lose your words, or start doubting yourself?
We explore what it means to stay grounded when another person’s energy feels too hot to handle by talking with Kate, who finds herself going into freeze mode when someone else’s intensity rises and tone sharpens. Together, we explore how to meet our shutdown responses with awareness instead of judgment, seeing them as wisdom, not weakness.
Afterwards, Josie brings up a nuanced distinction: What’s the difference between asking for what we need and demanding someone change? Where’s the line between honest self-expression and control?
We’ll tease apart how to speak truthfully without blame, how to hold boundaries without closing your heart, and how to stay in integrity even when things get intense.
If you’ve ever longed to stay calm, clear, and connected when someone else is coming in hot, this one’s for you.
Want to read more? How to Stay Grounded When Someone's Coming in Hot
Use code SOHC to get 50% off your first month in the School of Human Connection. Learn more here.
Use code YVETTE to get 20% of your annual subscription at nvclibrary.com
For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.
Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care.
You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans.
Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com.
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By Yvette Erasmus4.9
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What happens in you when someone comes at you with intensity?
Do you freeze, go blank, lose your words, or start doubting yourself?
We explore what it means to stay grounded when another person’s energy feels too hot to handle by talking with Kate, who finds herself going into freeze mode when someone else’s intensity rises and tone sharpens. Together, we explore how to meet our shutdown responses with awareness instead of judgment, seeing them as wisdom, not weakness.
Afterwards, Josie brings up a nuanced distinction: What’s the difference between asking for what we need and demanding someone change? Where’s the line between honest self-expression and control?
We’ll tease apart how to speak truthfully without blame, how to hold boundaries without closing your heart, and how to stay in integrity even when things get intense.
If you’ve ever longed to stay calm, clear, and connected when someone else is coming in hot, this one’s for you.
Want to read more? How to Stay Grounded When Someone's Coming in Hot
Use code SOHC to get 50% off your first month in the School of Human Connection. Learn more here.
Use code YVETTE to get 20% of your annual subscription at nvclibrary.com
For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.
Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care.
You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans.
Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com.
Here are more ways to connect with me:

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