Conversations from the Heart

#129 - How to Stay Grounded When Someone’s Coming in Hot


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What happens in you when someone comes at you with intensity?

Do you freeze, go blank, lose your words, or start doubting yourself?

We explore what it means to stay grounded when another person’s energy feels too hot to handle by talking with Kate, who finds herself going into freeze mode when someone else’s intensity rises and tone sharpens. Together, we explore how to meet our shutdown responses with awareness instead of judgment, seeing them as wisdom, not weakness.

Afterwards, Josie brings up a nuanced distinction: What’s the difference between asking for what we need and demanding someone change? Where’s the line between honest self-expression and control?

We’ll tease apart how to speak truthfully without blame, how to hold boundaries without closing your heart, and how to stay in integrity even when things get intense.

If you’ve ever longed to stay calm, clear, and connected when someone else is coming in hot, this one’s for you.

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