Conversations from the Heart

#14 - How to Break Through Codependency


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Have you ever wrestled with the fear and discomfort that emerges when you want to shift your relationship dynamics? Are you grappling with codependency or struggling to express your emotions authentically with your parents? In today's conversation, we explore a daughter's heartfelt journey of wanting to honor her parents while navigating the challenges of building deeper connections. We talk about the courage it takes to invite our loved ones into new experiences and the vulnerability that comes with it. Our discussion extends to the wisdom of releasing demanding energies in our interactions, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and the freedom of letting go of specific outcomes. The latter part of our conversation is about parenting dynamics, as we observe an 8-year-old learning codependent behaviors from a mom aiming to break free from people-pleasing cycles. Together, we explore the art of expressing ourselves honestly, asking for what we need, and embracing detachment from external outcomes.

Show notes:
[1:08] Why is it so difficult to show up differently in my relationship with my parents?

[4:55] Why am I so uncomfortable when my mom says "I love you"?

[11:15] Using hindsight and foresight to heal in the present

[14:30] I'm worried this "fancy language" will alienate instead of connect us

[19:40] Where does our courage come from?

[22:15] How do I respond with empathy without sounding formulaic?

[25:16] How you react to me tells me about you AND me

[30:05] How do I prevent passing my codependency down to my child?

[36:00] How can I work on myself?

[39:00] Is it ok to ask others to show up differently?

[46:44] Outro

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