Tom Junod spent more than two decades as one the most celebrated writers in the men's magazine game, winning two National Magazine Awards and penning unforgettable articles about everything from 9/11 to Mister Rogers. Dubbed by Esquire as the man who has "helped teach readers what masculinity looks like in the 21st century," Junod has been considered one of great writers in the magazine's nearly 100-year history, alongside Ernest Hemingway, F. Scott Fitzgerald, and Tom Wolfe.

But Junod certainly didn't learn about masculinity from a magazine. Instead he absorbed lessons about manhood imparted by his father Lou, a man who emulated the leading men of 1930s Hollywood and offered a treasure trove of men's-only secrets of success about wearing turtlenecks, making eye contact, and offering a firm handshake.

Then Tom learned the details of his father's other secrets, and it reshaped his opinion of what it means to be a good man.

Junod is the author of the memoir In The Days Of My Youth I Was Told What It Means To Be A Man, available now wherever you buy books.