Live IFS

148: Rosie A. revisits


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šŸ”ø Figuring out figuring out. An attempt at direct access.


šŸ”¹ Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):

  • The figuring out part, the others. see notes.
  • Uncomfortable with meditation
  • Set up to fail
  • Blanking
  • Fear of hurting others
  • RejectionĀ 
  • ⬄ Rosie shared her parts list: Ā 

    Exile:Ā 

    • Alone cuz me partĀ 
    • Sad/lonely/shame/terrified becauseĀ 
    • bad/difficult/burden/problem/wrong/misunderstood Ā 
    • Managers/Parts trying to get it right:Ā 

      • Figure it out, the managerĀ 
      • Articulate oneĀ Ā 
      • CaretakerĀ Ā 
      • Smiley/Laughing GirlĀ 
      • Don’t know what I’m doing so freeze partĀ 
      • Rational teenagerĀ 
      • Blank oneĀ 
      • Push through part Ā 
      • Firefighters/Parts coping with having gotten it wrong:Ā 

        • Shut down/sullen oneĀ 
        • trying not to need anything
        • emotional withdrawerĀ 
        • Growler ā€œback off I can’t do/be better!ā€Ā 
        • Figure it out, the firefighterĀ 
        • The empathizerĀ 
        • Talks me out of my feelingsĀ Ā 
        • The fixer - emotional pursuer

        • šŸŽ“ What I'd like to do differently:
          Ā Direct access, not something I feel very confident with, although I think I do it implicitly with more ease. Ā 
          Ā Loving these calls with Rosie; I feel I'm at my growth edge, she's patient with me, and has enough experience around this work to have already tried whatever approach comes to me first.
          Ā We chat a lot outside of these sessions, trying to understand what each of us can change to make our work more effective.
          Ā I was full of assumptions in this call, my own figuring out parts. Maybe I identify with her too much? I make (too many) comments, in my own attempt to identify with figuring out. Is that building trust, making parts feel comfortable? Or is that blending?



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