If you've been wondering what lies in the middle between judgment and observation, then this week's episode of the podcast is for you.  

When focusing on making impartial observations instead of value laden judgments, we can sometimes forget about the wisdom that comes with discernment.  

Discernment--the ability "to separate", is an essential, executive function.  A synonym for discernment is understanding.  You not only see what is in front of you, but also understand.  It is possible to discern the nature of a thing without judgment or evaluation.

The theme of discernment is at the heart of one of the questions in this week's call.  I hope you enjoy the discussion!

Show notes:
[1:45] What's the difference between a discernment and a judgment? 
[5:50] How can I navigate a relationship with a difficult superior?
[13:30] But if I love others hard enough won't this make them healthy?
[16:01] The difference between a boundary and a request
[20:15] I don't appreciate being called "lady"
[25:20] How do I unravel my own colonial tendencies?
[31:00] The polarity of precise language and the spirit behind it
[38:00] So how do I respond to others' colonial beliefs?
[40:04] How can I bring up my needs to a new friend without seeming needy?
[52:03] Outro

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