Conversations from the Heart

#153 - When You’re Not Getting What You Need in a Relationship


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What do you do when someone you love can’t meet you in the way you need?

In this episode, we explore the emotional and relational complexity of unmet needs, whether with a parent, a child, or someone close to us. Through two powerful real-life conversations, we unpack the difference between grief and control, the limits of communication, and the shift from trying to change others to relating to what’s actually here.

In this episode, we explore:

•Why unmet needs often lead to urgency, over-effort, and self-abandonment

•The role of grief when connection isn’t available in the way we long for

•How to shift from control and persuasion to invitation and choice

•What it means to take responsibility for your side of a relationship

This is a grounded, compassionate look at what it means to love without losing yourself.

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