Crystal Paine Show

18. Infertility, Open Adoption, and How to Love When It’s So Hard (with Rachel Nielson)


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I'm doing something I've never done on the podcast before... I'm doing an entirely interview-driven episode.

I usually try to keep interviews with guests to around 15 minutes and then we devote the other 15 minutes of the podcast to other segments. But as I was prepping for this particular interview, I just had this feeling that I needed to go longer in the interview. That in order for you to really hear the story well, I needed to allow the entire 30 minutes for the interview.

So that's what we did -- and I hope that this story and interview blesses you deeply. I truly believe it will.

My guest today is Rachel Nielson. She and I first met when she traveled with me and a small team of blog readers to South Africa (you can read about her thoughts on our time there and see a few pictures here.)

Rachel is joining me today to share her incredible story of infertility and adoption. But more than that, she's going to share how she walked through learning to love someone when it was hard to love them and how she will never regret that decision.

Even if you don't struggle with infertility and even if you've never considered adoption, I believe her story will powerfully resonate with you -- and it didn't turn out like you would expect, but I think you will be inspired and challenged by her words.

In This Episode:

[02:05] - Rachel takes us back to the beginning of her marriage and shares her thoughts on motherhood from those days. She shares why they ended up deciding to do fertility treatments AND pursue adoption at the same time and the struggles and hard things they went through during such an emotionally taxing and physically exhausting time.

[05:41] - I asked Rachel if she felt lonely during this time... and I wasn't prepared for how honest her answer would be. She talks about the deep loneliness she felt in her marriage and what helped her to walk through that (she gives some spot-on relationship advice that you don't want to miss!)

[08:11] - Rachel shares really vulnerably what it was like to be in the middle of fertility treatments and she shares encouragement and some practical advice for those who are going through them.

[13:37] - The story of how Noah's birth mom found Rachel and her husband and asked them to adopt Noah is pretty incredible! 

[17:11] - What was it like for Rachel to be in the delivery room as her adoptive son was being born? She shares how it was a holy moment and how strong and brave Noah's birth mom was.

[19:26] - Navigating an open adoption had its challenges -- especially as Noah's birth mom grieved and walked through some of her own hard times. Rachel talks about how this was a challenge to know what to do, but she ultimately decided to choose to love instead of pulling away. (If you only have a little bit of time, please listen to this part of the episode. It has convicted me so deeply!)

[24:53] - Rachel shares the next steps of the story after the first few years of Noah’s birth, including an unexpected and tragic turn of events. She ends the episode sharing about how the story is still being written, but she's so grateful for the fact that her body didn't work and she wasn't able to get pregnant like she wanted, because God had something much more beautiful in store than she could have imagined!

Links and Resources:

  • 3 in 30 Podcast (with Rachel)
  • About Rachel & 3 in 30
  • [email protected]
  • 3in30podcast on Instagram
  • Real Life by Jeff Carson (“I never was the same again” song)
  • CrystalPaine.com
  • MoneySavingMom.com
  • YourBloggingMentor.com
  • My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!)
  • Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: [email protected]
 

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