Listen in this week as Jesse and I share five exciting updates from the Paine house as of late! Some of our updates are more practical, some are deeply personal, and a few honestly caught me completely off guard, and Jesse comes into the conversation without knowing what I am going to share, which makes it even more fun as we walk through what’s been happening behind the scenes in our world!

I start off with something that might sound minor but honestly felt pretty significant to me - a recent dentist visit that went surprisingly well after years of being told something was wrong with my teeth. After working with a functional medicine doctor and trying oil pulling (something that I was very skeptical about), I had a completely different experience at my last appointment. It made me think more about the connection between oral health and overall health and whether some of the small habits that I have added might actually be making a difference.

From there, we share an update about our son David as he prepares to start kindergarten this fall. If you have been following our story, then you know how remarkable that moment feels for our family. David's team has been working closely with us to create a plan that supports his unique needs, and hearing the goals that they have set for him is both exciting and emotional. David continues to surprise everyone with his determination and personality, and we talk about some of the ways that he’s already showing just how capable that he is!

Another unexpected development is that I agreed to run a 10K with our daughter. That decision has launched me into a whole new world of running, training, and learning far more about shoes and socks than I ever expected. I also share how an unexpected invitation is taking me to Guatemala this summer, something that’s been on my heart since we adopted David, and finally, the biggest update of all: I finished writing my next book! I reveal the title, share the story behind how it came together, and explain why this project feels especially meaningful to me. I hope that you enjoy this episode, and please feel free to reach out with your thoughts!

In This Episode

[0:35] - Jesse and I are sharing five recent updates from our home!

[2:30] - Hear how, despite brushing obsessively, discussing my dental history revealed more serious oral health concerns.

[3:52] - I share how, after months of oil pulling, my dentist visit finally showed unexpectedly healthy teeth.

[7:26] - Realizing oral health affects overall health, I have begun flossing far more often.

[8:28] - David will start kindergarten with extensive support, continually surprising everyone with his determination!

[11:57] - Although full days can be tiring, we are so excited for David’s growth and the support surrounding him!

[13:58] - Hear how I impulsively agreed to run a 10K and am now learning how to train.

[16:37] - I discuss how a salesperson encouraged me to try specialty socks, and I loved them so much that I bought two pairs!

[18:14] - Hear how new running shoes improved my comfort and endurance, helping me run three miles without stopping.

[20:59] - Unexpectedly invited on a church trip, I’m finally visiting Guatemala, a longtime personal dream!

[23:46] - I reveal that, after nearly two years of work, I finally completed the manuscript for my upcoming book.

[26:43] - I also reveal the title of my new book – The 7 Habits of Financially Healthy Women.

[29:22] - Early preorders of the upcoming book include access to a live Q&A call with me!

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The 7 Habits of Financially Healthy Women: How to Stop Stressing, Begin Where You Are, and Build the Future You Want by Crystal Paine

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I am so thrilled to have today’s guest on the show because not only does she have brilliant insights to share, she is also a very dear friend as well as my acquisitions editor! Jennifer Dukes Lee is the author of the book How to Love Your Morning: Faith-Filled Habits to Build a Life of Joy and Purpose One Day at a Time, and she joins me for this episode to talk about just that - how to love your morning!

Jennifer offers a truly refreshing perspective that mornings aren’t about the time on the clock but are rather about the mindset that you bring into the day. You don’t have to wake up at 5 a.m. or have two hours of quiet to start well. It’s about the little intentional choices that you make such as greeting God in prayer, practicing gratitude, or reflecting on scripture. She reframes mornings as sacred opportunities even on the hardest days and gives practical ways to create rhythms that fit your life, whether you’re caring for kids, grieving, exhausted from night shifts, or just overwhelmed.

We talk about how small, realistic habits such as setting out clothes the night before, keeping a prayer list by the coffee (or, in my opinion, espresso) maker, or even just stepping outside for a moment of sunlight can truly change your day by setting it on the right track. Listen in as Jennifer shares stories from women across different life stages, as well as historical and everyday figures, showing that there’s no one “perfect” morning routine. I especially love how her book makes it so accessible; it’s permission-giving, practical, and so encouraging!

We also discuss the accompanying six-session Bible study that helps you explore mornings in scripture, offering a chance to go deeper, alone or with friends. Jennifer’s insights reminded me why approaching the day with intention, hope, and God at the center can reshape not just your mornings but your overall life! If you have ever wished that mornings felt less stressful, more meaningful, or simply more joyful, then this episode is definitely for you! Tune in, and please, as always, feel free to reach out to me with your thoughts!

In This Episode

[0:35] - I welcome my good friend Jennifer Dukes Lee to the show to talk about her book How to Love Your Morning!

[1:52] - Jennifer explains how being a morning person is mindset-focused, not defined by the hour you wake.

[4:05] - Jennifer encourages shifting stressful routines into meaningful rituals such as prayer, gratitude, or scripture reflection.

[6:23] - Even during grief or sleepless nights, morning rituals can help you face the day with presence and strength.

[9:52] - I point out that impactful mornings rely on small, realistic habits, not two-hour perfect routines.

[11:13] - Simple, sacred practices like prayer and stepping outside invite God into the start of each day.

[14:49] - I reflect on how stacking small, accessible habits onto daily tasks helps create meaningful morning rhythms.

[17:39] - I also reflect on how giving up coffee was initially difficult because it felt like giving up part of my morning ritual.

[19:00] - Jennifer encourages listeners to begin their mornings with meaningful habits, movement, nourishment, and healthy sleep routines.

[22:55] - Preparing for my morning the night before has been a big gamechanger.

[25:16] - Jennifer highlights how even just one intentional habit can create calmness and inspiration for the whole morning.

[28:28] - Mornings don’t need to be the same for everyone; effectiveness depends on what fits your life.

[31:19] - Scripture reveals mornings to be spiritually important; starting the day with hope aligns us with God’s design.

[34:54] - Doing morning practices with friends can help strengthen accountability and boost everyday joy.

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Books

How to Love Your Morning: Faith-Filled Habits to Build a Life of Joy and Purpose One Day at a Time by Jennifer Dukes Lee

How to Love Your Morning Bible Study: 6-Session Guided Journey to Build a Life of Joy and Purpose One Day at a Time (Devotional Study to Start Your Day and Wake Up Thanking God for Every Sunrise by Jennifer Dukes Lee

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Although we inadvertently took a few weeks off from the podcast, we are back, and overall, the most accurate way to describe life lately is “full.” Between spring breaks, kids popping in and out of the house, and multiple trips layered on top of one another, quiet moments have been pretty rare around here.

Listen in this week as Jesse and I do something we hadn’t actually had time to do yet: sit down and process everything that’s happened over the past few weeks. We talk about the whirlwind of travel – his father-son ski trip to Utah with Silas, my church retreat, and, of course, the titular school trip to Denver that Jesse chaperoned, which he describes as “the most servant-oriented trip I’ve been on.”

Of course, though, life did not slow down when the trips ended. In fact, we walked straight from the airport into a memorial service for three young men whose lives were tragically cut short. One of them had been very close to our family, and the loss really hit our girls – and all of us – deeply.

A big part of this episode, however, as previously mentioned, focuses on Jesse’s time serving alongside students at the Denver Dream Center. Hear how they spent their days hiking in the mountains and their evenings working in inner-city Denver, sharing meals with people experiencing homelessness and connecting with people who were rebuilding their lives after incarceration. Listen as Jesse shares and reflects on some stories about the conversations that happened there such as moments where the goal wasn’t to “fix” anyone but simply to listen, learn names, and recognize the humanity in front of you!

Jesse and I also discuss how even just small choices can shape the direction of a life (for better or worse) and how courage often looks like doing something that feels strange, risky, or unsupported. Sometimes, the most meaningful moments come when we step outside the safe little spaces we’ve built for ourselves and choose to do the thing that scares us most. I hope that you enjoy this heartfelt conversation with Jesse!

In This Episode

[0:35] - We have been absent for a few weeks because of a lot of chaos!

[3:45] - Jesse notes how we haven’t recorded since the trips, which became a major part of his story.

[4:00] - I reflect on how, after returning home, we attended a tragic memorial before juggling several trips and retreats.

[7:26] - Hear how Silas chose a Denver school trip where students hiked Colorado and served the homeless.

[10:24] - What is the ultimate goal of the Denver Dream Center?

[13:24] - Jesse and I talk about how serving others begins with seeing their humanity, learning their stories, and offering dignity and hope!

[16:35] - Serving others ultimately means seeing people’s humanity, learning from them, and connecting without superiority or judgment.

[19:33] - I express my belief that experiences such as Silas’s trip help young people rethink priorities and what's truly important.

[20:16] - Even small choices and courageous ones can reshape the direction of someone's life.

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I am so excited to be bringing this conversation with repeat guest Addison Bevere to you! Addison is the author of the book Words with God: Trading Boring, Empty Prayer for Real Connection, and his work has really stayed with me since our last discussion. I have, in fact, told so many people about how his heart for faith feels grounded, honest, and alive, and, in this new episode, we talk about his new prayer journal that accompanies his book which is designed as a 40-day invitation to build a more real rhythm with God rather than trying to achieve perfect performance. After all, prayer should not be performative!

One of the themes that keeps coming up throughout our conversation is the idea that prayer isn’t about getting the words right, and I reflect a bit about my own experience learning to slow down and practice rest as a spiritual discipline, something I never really thought much about before. Addison explains how many people feel they are “bad at prayer” because they approach it through shame or expectation rather than connection, and, instead, he frames prayer as simply showing up honestly and paying attention.

We also unpack how quickly our mornings can be hijacked by screens, anxiety, or the pressure to immediately start producing, with Addison sharing a simple but powerful practice: when you wake up, breathe, rest in the moment, and allow your mind and heart to settle before grabbing your phone. He explains how early morning brain states may be uniquely open to reflection, creativity, and spiritual awareness, and I also reflect on how this practice has helped me move from feeling overwhelmed by life’s demands to seeing them as opportunities to respond with love and intention. Addison highlights the importance of writing down fears, burdens, or questions that can help name what we are carrying and create space for clarity.

If you have ever felt unsure how to pray, struggled with slowing down, or longed for a deeper sense of closeness with God, this conversation offers a gentle, practical framework for beginning. I hope that you enjoy this conversation with Addison, and, as always, I would love for you to reach out with your thoughts!

In This Episode

[0:35] - Welcome Addison Bevere back to the show!

[2:07] - Addison believes that prayer thrives on relationship, not performance, and frees us from shame.

[5:48] - Showing up honestly before God each morning is more important than fighting distraction or cultural pressure.

[8:16] - Addison asserts that morning openness invites rest and awareness, while phone use often replaces calm with anxiety.

[11:02] - Listeners are encouraged to breathe, rest, and avoid phones after waking to help nurture creativity.

[13:24] - Surrendering control each day leads to clarity, compassion, and wisdom.

[16:57] - Addison reminds us that remembering answered prayers and embracing limits helps foster humility, trust, and deeper spiritual growth.

[19:39] - I describe relying on the Holy Spirit to guide parenting and daily conversations for me.

[21:58] - Hear how morning listening helps Addison speak compassionately rather than react from a place of insecurity.

[24:49] - I reflect on how starting the day slowly helps me reflect and reconnect with God and my body.

[25:51] - According to Addison, writing fears or pain gives language to emotions, helping awareness and release.

[27:22] - Hear how anxiety can help signal inner needs, helping discern God’s guidance vs. condemning voices.

[30:44] - True prayer invites closeness with God and others, avoiding religious rigidity.

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The Crystal Paine Show - 211. Trading Boring, Empty Prayer for Real Connection (with Addison Bevere)

Books

Words with God: Trading Boring, Empty Prayer for Real Connection by Addison D. Bevere

Words with God Prayer Journal: 40 Days of Getting Real with God by Addison D. Bevere

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Just as a forewarning, this week's episode might be a little bit TMI, but I did mention it coming up in a recent episode – my recent colonoscopy! While I don't get into the especially gritty details, I talk openly with Jesse about my experience because I really wanted to share the full story. I kept hearing from people who were scared of the procedure or avoided it because of what they’d heard about the prep, and I was nervous too, especially after reading all the horror stories online, but I found that preparation and good guidance made a bigger difference than I had expected!

Listen in as I walk you through why I had the procedures in the first place, including my long history with chronic anemia and how my doctors wanted to look for possible root causes rather than just treat symptoms. A big part of the episode is the prep experience because honestly, that’s what people tend to dread the most. However, I talk about starting a low-residue diet days early, sticking to very bland foods, and what it actually felt like to move into the clear-liquids phase. I share how hunger, brain fog, and low energy showed up for me and how surprisingly manageable the laxative process was compared to what I feared. I also mention small practical things that helped such as choosing certain drinks and realizing that some flavors quickly became unappealing once prep started.

I then walk you through the procedure day itself - checking in, getting an IV, anesthesia, and what it felt like waking up after sedation. The sedation was so strong and peaceful that I can understand why people describe it as a really good nap. In fact, I kind of didn't want to wake up! I also reflect on how disorienting that it felt trying to talk afterward when my brain wasn’t putting words together correctly.

I also, of course, touch upon recovery, what my results looked like so far, and why I truly believe that these screenings are worth it, so if you have been afraid of getting a colonoscopy, I really hope that this episode with Jesse makes it feel a lot more approachable!

As always, please feel free to reach out! I would love to hear your thoughts!

In This Episode

[0:35] - This episode shares my colonoscopy and endoscopy experience, addressing fear, prep, and cancer detection.

[4:44] - Hear how I underwent procedures mainly because chronic anemia persisted since childhood and pregnancy complications occurred.

[7:16] - Hear how low hemoglobin and ferritin levels led my doctor to recommend colonoscopy and endoscopy for diagnosis.

[10:42] - I reflect on how I began a strict low-residue diet early, avoiding fiber, fruit, vegetables, and acidic foods.

[13:52] - Hear how the clear-liquid phase felt surprisingly difficult, causing intense hunger, weight loss, and constant emptiness.

[16:36] - I share how clear-liquid days drained my energy.

[18:39] - I avoided mixing Miralax with my favorite drinks because prep may have made those drinks unappealing later.

[20:32] - Preparing for laxatives, I found the worst fears exaggerated; one nauseous hour passed and then relief.

[23:49] - Hear how mixing Miralax with Gatorade surprisingly tasted fine, and calories plus electrolytes improved my energy.

[26:00] - I share how I chugged 36 ounces of prep fluid over two hours, experienced mild thirst, and slept mostly well.

[29:43] - I describe how the anesthesiologist warned of a “spicy” feeling before sedation, and I instantly lost consciousness.

[32:47] - Hear how I was completely out under propofol sedation, awakening groggy but unaware of the procedure.

[34:56] - Waking from propofol felt hypnotically peaceful, and my body stayed unusually difficult to rouse.

[37:18] - Hear how I wanted more sleep after waking, felt groggy, spoke coherently, but couldn’t fully process conversation.

[39:27] - Hear how, post-procedure, I was so disoriented that I dropped food in the car but still ate it!

[42:22] - Recovery was quick, and results looked good, although biopsies and stool tests are still pending.

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I have been eagerly looking forward to doing this episode ever since I got my hands on Dr. Lee Warren’s new book, The Life-Changing Art of Self-Brain Surgery. The title alone had Jesse asking, “Wait… self-brain surgery?” Honestly, I actually had the same thought, but what Lee shares in this conversation completely blew me away. He is a brain surgeon, and he has discovered that the same principles he uses in the operating room can be applied by each of us to literally change our own brains - via our thoughts!

Most of what runs through our minds every day is false, negative, or repetitive, keeping us stuck, but when we intentionally practice new ways of thinking, we can rewire our brains in real time and reshape the life that follows, and, in this episode of The Crystal Paine Show, Lee and I talk about why our culture often convinces us that we are powerless to change, why 80% of our thoughts are false, and how the simple act of noticing and choosing our thoughts can literally transform our neurochemistry, our bodies, and our perspective!

Lee and I dive into practical tools - from prayer and meditation to quiet reflection - that help filter out the noise and build mental habits that help make us calmer, more resilient, and more intentional. We also explore the deeply human side of change - the grief, loss, and impossible days that can feel like they could crush us. Listen in as Lee shares his personal story of losing his son and welcoming a grandchild on the same day and how recognizing that two truths can exist at once (joy and sorrow) was life-giving and transformative.

Tune in this week and see how science and scripture beautifully reinforce each other and how small, consistent actions can rebuild your mind, your habits, and your hope. If you have ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or powerless to change your thoughts and your life, then this episode will very likely challenge you, encourage you, and give you hope that real change isn’t just possible; it’s built into how you’re wired!

As always, please feel free to reach out! I would love to hear your thoughts!

In This Episode

[0:35] - Welcome to the show, Dr. Lee Warren, author of The Life-Changing Art of Self-Brain Surgery!

[1:13] - Lee argues that our thoughts physically influence our brains, giving us real agency over our lives.

[4:46] - It's important to pause to examine thoughts because doing so allows for rational thinking to replace fear and rewires healthier habits.

[7:21] - I reflect on how replacing false, negative thoughts with truth changed my brain, behavior, and parenting.

[8:31] - What we focus on filters our perception, giving us responsibility over how life appears to us.

[10:56] - Lee explains how consistently practicing positive focus rewires the brain - building calm, wise, and grounded habits.

[14:38] - Lee argues that healing ultimately comes from focusing on the future, not dwelling on past trauma or suffering.

[18:02] - Trauma breaks beliefs, not you, and small courageous actions retrain the brain for resilience!

[21:31] - Lee has learned how deep sorrow and real beauty can exist simultaneously, revealing hope even in darkness.

[24:10] - I point out how many face a pit of grief where summoning the strength to act feels impossible.

[25:07] - Hear how, for Lee, necessity forced action, showing how focused thoughts instantly change neurochemistry and emotional response.

[28:28] - Lee explains how changing your thoughts intentionally produces real-time brain and body changes, proving that mental rewiring is literal.

[30:05] - Lee and I discuss how you can only control your own responses and perspective, not others or circumstances.

[31:45] - Ultimately, you can only control yourself, not others or circumstances.

[33:19] - Lee reminds us that emotions are chemical events, not facts, and controlling your thoughts directs your emotional response.

[35:22] - Recognizing your agency in daily choices shifts perspective and builds gratitude for what you can control.

[36:35] - Lasting change requires lifelong practice and retraining learned patterns to create healthier mental habits!

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Books

The-Life Changing Art of Self-Brain Surgery: Connecting Neuroscience and Faith to Radically Transform Your Life by W. Lee Warren, MD

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This week on The Crystal Paine Show, I want to talk about something that has unexpectedly changed my life this year - what I jokingly call my “grandma hobbies era.” When I first shared that phrase online, it stirred up more feelings than I ever expected. Some people really loved it, but some were really bothered by it. For me, it’s a playful way to describe something deeply meaningful: choosing activities that slow me down, calm my body, and help me feel present again!

Two years ago, if I had heard myself talking about puzzles, watercoloring, baking, or crocheting a scarf, I probably would have thought something had gone very wrong. Back then, my life was full of adrenaline, constant urgency, and never-ending to-do lists. I didn’t realize how tightly I was living until I started to loosen my grip, and with the encouragement of my functional medicine doctor, I began intentionally creating space - working fewer hours, building in white space, and letting go of the need to always be “on,” and in that space, I found myself drawn to simple, creative things that didn’t demand anything from me other than just my attention.

Listen in this episode as Jesse and I open up honestly about what it has been like to step out of fight mode and learn how to rest, and I share how scary it felt to reduce my work hours as the CEO of a company, how much anxiety that stirred up, and how it revealed an idol of control that I hadn't even realized I had. I also share the surprising ways that God met me in that place - financially, emotionally, and spiritually - when I ultimately chose to trust instead of hustle.

Jesse and I also talk about what it feels like when your calendar finally has breathing room, when your to-do list doesn’t fill the page, and when people start to feel like opportunities instead of interruptions. We laugh about puzzles, sourdough, and my very flexible relationship with recipes, but even more than that, we talk about what it means to live from a calmer place and show up more fully to the people and work we love!

Please tune in this week, especially if you are tired, running on adrenaline, or craving a slower, richer way to live. Maybe it’s time to find your own version of a “grandma hobby.” I hope that this conversation encourages you, and, as always, I would love to hear from you, so please feel free to reach out!

In This Episode

[0:35] - This episode is about how the phrase “grandma hobbies” is a playful, positive term for calming activities that have unexpectedly improved my life!

[3:07] - I talk about how leaning into energizing “grandma hobbies” helps me re-regulate my nervous system and move out of constant fight mode.

[6:44] - Jesse and I discuss how living constantly in fight-or-flight exhausts the body because it was designed only for short-term survival.

[7:30] - I explain how calming, repetitive hobbies redirect my focus and gently regulate my nervous system without adrenaline or urgency.

[9:42] - I reflect on how letting go of rigid rules revealed how I was addicted to adrenaline and uneasy with newly open space.

[11:11] - Hear how cutting back hours exposed my fear, control, and misplaced belief that success depended solely on me.

[14:40] - I argue how choosing trust over hustle showed me that rest, not control, leads to freedom.

[17:26] - Hear how working less has made my life richer, calmer, and more present across work, relationships, and creativity.

[20:28] – Jesse and I talk about how working fewer hours has improved my energy, sleep quality, and overall well-being by preventing constant exhaustion.

[21:31] - Jesse and I discuss how intentional stillness via simple, calming activities helps restore awareness, reduce stress, and regulate the nervous system!

[24:36] - I am finding that simple creative hobbies create space, restore calm, and help me show up with joy and love!

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Several years ago, Lindsey Maestas challenged me to see Jesse not as another task on my never-ending list but rather as a person again - a moment that stuck with me, and in this season of raising a big family and carrying a lot of weight, I realized how easily my marriage had slipped to the back burner. So for this episode, I invited Lindsey on to talk about what it really looks like to choose your marriage when life is busy or you are tired, hurting, or feeling like life is difficult.

Using her book Don’t Burn Your House Down as the basis of our conversation, Lindsey and I talk about the quiet disappointments that build up such as when a gift feels impersonal or you feel completely unseen and why those moments often point to deeper needs, not deal-breakers. Lindsey shares why love doesn’t “just happen,” how unspoken expectations create distance, and what to do when your spouse hears your requests as criticism or failure. We uncover the anxious–avoidant cycle, the danger of keeping emotional receipts, and why fighting fire with fire only burns the house down even faster.

One of my favorite parts of this episode is honestly when we shift away from heavy conversations and talk about rebuilding friendship. Laughter, play, small acts of service, and even silly moments can soften hearts in ways that words sometimes can’t, and Lindsay explains the power of what she calls “micro attractions” - the tiny daily choices that quietly say, “I see you.” We also talk about why trying to change your spouse almost never works and how real change begins when you look honestly at yourself.

This conversation is for anyone who feels lonely in their marriage, overwhelmed by life, or just wants to build a stronger marriage. It’s not about pretending things are fine but rather about choosing hope, humility, and connection again, even when it feels easier to quit.

In This Episode

[0:35] - Join me in welcoming Lindsey Maestas, author of Don’t Burn Your House Down!

[2:34] - Lindsey believes that love and connection in marriage require daily, intentional choices, even during difficult periods.

[4:30] - Despite struggles, couples can find hope, tools, and renewed commitment in marriage.

[7:29] - Lindsey has seen how small daily disappointments reveal deeper needs for care, attention, and consideration.

[9:20] - While you can't change my spouse, you can choose to love and communicate well.

[11:48] - Lindsey has learned that conflict often stems from unspoken expectations, and clarity requires open explanation.

[14:15] - Our anxious–avoidant patterns trap us, and breaking them requires addressing and naming the cycle.

[17:05] - Lindsey asserts that rebuilding friendship, play, and shared joy often reconnects hearts more than repeated conversations.

[20:16] - I add how, amid daily chaos, couples need to remember to nurture joy and play in their marriage.

[21:14] - Hear how fighting fire with fire fuels resentment, whereas forgiveness and grace restore connection.

[24:19] - Ultimately, marriage reveals our flaws and calls us to become more like Christ.

[27:14] - Shifting expectations from spouse to God relieves pressure and highlights small acts of love.

[29:02] - Lindsey explains how micro gestures such as noticing, serving, and affirming help build the strongest foundation in marriage.

[32:00] - Lindsey points out how letting go of resentment can lead to relational growth.

[34:00] - Becoming our best selves honors God, strengthens marriage, and revitalizes energy and joy.

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Books

Don’t Burn Your House Down: Prioritizing Your Marriage, Your Spouse, and Yourself for a Deeper Connection by Lindsey Maestas

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Join me and Jesse this week as I share what it has actually been like wearing a continuous glucose monitor as a non-diabetic, why I decided to try it, and what I’ve learned about my body in the process. It all starts in the middle of a very real “snowpocalypse” with canceled plans, sick kids, and a scrapped anniversary trip, which somehow turned into the perfect time to slow down, rest, and pay closer attention to my health!

I walk you through the basics of what a continuous glucose monitor is, how the non-medical versions work, and why my functional medicine doctor encouraged me to use one for a few months. I also dig into why I chose the brand that I did, what it cost, how easy it was to install and remove, and what it actually feels like to wear one day to day. (It’s way less intense than I expected, and I forgot it was even there most of the time!)

The real value for me, though, has been the data. Seeing my blood sugar in real time completely changed how I think about food, especially carbs, protein, and movement. Listen in as I share how I assumed that I had major blood sugar issues only to find out that my levels were actually pretty stable and that most of my past “crashes” were likely from under-eating and not getting enough protein. I break down the biggest patterns that I noticed such as why carb-only snacks spike my blood sugar, why starting meals with protein matters, and how even a short walk after eating can make a measurable difference.

Jesse and I also get into some surprisingly practical discoveries such as why eating the same foods in a different order changes the outcome, how workouts affect glucose levels, and why three muffins in one evening sounded fun but did not feel great later. This episode isn’t about perfection or rules. No; it’s about curiosity, small experiments, and using real feedback from my own body to make better choices, so if you have ever wondered how your habits actually impact your energy, focus, or overall health, then this episode is basically me being your guinea pig so you don’t have to be! Tune in, and, as always, I would love to hear from you, so please feel free to reach out!

In This Episode

[0:35] - We’re in the middle of a snowstorm, prepped for possible power loss!

[3:30] - Hear how my anniversary with Jesse was planned, but Micah suddenly complained of ear pain before we could leave.

[4:41] - Hear how both kids tested positive for strep, with Micah also having COVID and an ear infection.

[7:37] - I discuss how I avoided strep but feel that I might have borderline laryngitis, so I’m resting at home and taking vitamins.

[8:53] - I explain how continuous glucose monitors for non-diabetics give real-time data to help me understand my body.

[11:23] - I chose the Stello monitor because it’s accessible, affordable, and shows data without alarms!

[12:55] - The sensor is easy to insert, a tiny filament under the skin, not a needle.

[16:24] - Hear how the monitor sits in fluid around my muscle, stays secure with tape, and is barely noticeable!

[18:01] - I discuss how my device lasted nine days, was easy to remove, and unexpectedly revealed stable blood sugar.

[20:04] - I explain how eating consistently, especially protein first, stabilizes my blood sugar, while carb-only snacks cause spikes.

[22:48] - Eating carbs alone spikes my blood sugar unless I exercise immediately afterward.

[24:25] - Hear how I learned that eating protein first stabilizes blood sugar, whereas carb-first meals cause spikes.

[27:12] - I explain how combining carbs with protein prevents spikes, but carbs alone raise my blood sugar.

[28:45] - Hear how moving shortly after meals helps stabilize blood sugar, especially if I first eat carbs.

[31:45] - The order of eating foods such as protein before vegetables significantly affects blood sugar.

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Trust me, you are not going to want to miss this episode’s honest and vulnerable conversation with Stephen McWhirter, author of the memoir Radically Restored: How Knowing Jesus Heals Our Brokenness. I have really been looking forward to sharing this episode because his story is raw, unsettling at times, and deeply hopeful, and it challenged me in ways that I couldn't have expected. Listen as Stephen opens up about growing up in a home where faith was loudly preached in public but painfully contradicted in private. We talk about what it does to a child when the person who represents God also causes pain and how that kind of hypocrisy can lead to anger, rebellion, and addiction for years, and Stephen openly shares his long road into substance abuse, the surprising moment when everything began to change, and how his encounter with Jesus didn’t happen in a church pew but rather alone, surrounded by darkness and drugs where grace met him anyway.

Stephen walks us through forgiveness in a unique way, and we talk about abuse, safety, boundaries, and the very real cost of forgiving someone who caused deep wounds, especially when that person is a parent. His story of forgiving his father (not once but over a lifetime) is one of the best parts of the conversation. We also spend some time talking directly to parents, friends, and loved ones who feel helpless watching someone they care about struggle, with Stephen offering hope for those carrying quiet shame, hidden addictions, or unanswered prayers, reminding us that repentance brings things into the light.

If you are wrestling with forgiveness, addiction, trust, or the question of whether God is actually good, then this episode is absolutely for you, and if you’re the one praying for someone else and wondering if it matters, I truly hope that this conversation gives you real hope that restoration is possible, sometimes even in ways that we could never expect or plan for ourselves. Be sure to grab a copy of his book as well!

In This Episode

[0:35] - This episode is an interview with Stephen McWhirter, author of Radically Restored: How Knowing Jesus Heals Our Brokenness!

[1:39] - Stephen opens up about how his father’s public faith hid private abuse, fueling rebellion and addiction.

[4:18] - Alone with drugs, Stephen realized that salvation required belief, not effort.

[6:57] - Stephen believes that God met him outside church and used his story uniquely.

[10:04] - For Stephen, obediently forgiving his father was unimaginably difficult.

[12:48] - At his father’s deathbed, forgiving him aloud released Stephen and reshaped his understanding of grace.

[15:37] - Stephen argues that forgiveness involves tearing up debt and opening the door to healing.

[17:15] - Stephen asserts that a parent’s words matter most, but peers can powerfully redirect someone who is struggling.

[19:52] - Hear how Stephen longed for honest apologies and repentance because hiding only deepens damage and prevents healing.

[23:12] - Stephen believes that repentance brings hidden sin into light.

[26:13] - Stephen shares how his mother's faith taught him that prayer is active trust, especially when loving someone feels helpless.

[29:50] - Hear how knowing God’s character transformed Stephen's controlling prayers into trust that His will is genuinely good.

[32:16] - Be sure to grab a copy of Stephen's book!

Links & Resources

Crystal Paine

The Crystal Paine Show - 329: Why I Am Not Setting Goals in 2026

Books

Radically Restored: How Knowing Jesus Heals Our Brokenness by Stephen McWhirter

The Case for Christ: A Journalist’s Personal Investigation of the Evidence for Jesus by Lee Strobel

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