April 08, 2025

191: Premature Ejaculation: A Real Story of Struggle, Support and Success

41 minutes

In this powerful and honest episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett speaks with Dave and his partner Jen about their journey dealing with premature ejaculation (PE) — a common but often misunderstood sexual health condition affecting many men and couples.

Dave opens up about his experience living with PE since adolescence, the impact it had on his confidence and relationship, and how alcohol became a coping mechanism. With courage and persistence, Dave eventually found the right healthcare support, the right SSRI medication, and a path forward that improved both his sexual function and emotional connection with his partner.

Together, Melissa, Dave and Jen dive deep into the emotional, psychological, and physical sides of premature ejaculation — offering valuable insights for men, couples, and practitioners alike.

In This Episode, We Cover:

What premature ejaculation really is – and what it isn't

The difference between primary and secondary PE

Why many men are misinformed or dismissed by health professionals

The impact of PE on relationships, communication, and self-esteem

Dave’s journey through trial-and-error with various SSRIs: Priligy (Dapoxetine), Paroxetine, Fluoxetine and Escitalopram (Lexapro)

The hidden cost of online treatment platforms – and why cheaper, more ethical options exist

How the right treatment changed everything – from sex drive to emotional closeness

Jen’s reflections as a partner and the importance of support, understanding and touch

How couples can reconnect through small changes, time together, and deeper conversations

Melissa’s recommendation: Sanctuary of Ananda for Tantra-based relationship connection workshops

Key Takeaways:

Premature ejaculation is more common than you think – and it’s treatable

Not all SSRIs are the same. Personalised treatment matters.

The emotional and relational impacts of PE are real – and deserve attention

There’s no shame in asking for help. Support is available, affordable, and effective.

Sexual health is about more than performance – it’s about connection, confidence, and communication

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett:

“If PE is affecting your confidence, relationship or sex life – there is help. You don’t need to suffer in silence. With the right support, treatment can be simple, effective, and affordable.”

Resources & Links:

Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic

Learn more about Sanctuary of Ananda – Tantra and connection workshops for couples

Listen to Cam Fraser’s podcast on modern masculinity and sexual wellness

For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au

Listen & Subscribe

If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast! Your feedback helps us continue bringing important conversations to light. Search for The Penis Project Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast app.

Connect With Us

Have questions or want to share your story?

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.rshealth.com.au

Websites:

https://rshealth.com.au/ All genders

https://makehardeasy.com.au

https://melissahadleybarrett.com

http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/

http://prost.com.au/

Facebook:

https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/

https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/

TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett

YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett

Linkedin:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/

TEDX

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA

...more

View all episodes

By Sexologist Melissa Hadley Barrett

4.4

2121 ratings