It all started with this conversation I was having with a friend the other day. She’s really been struggling with the emotions that come up in her parenting, the way that she responds in those moments and the shame she'll then feel about her response. Really wanting to do it perfectly.

I just found what she was sharing so relatable to my own path as a mom. Which means it's likely relatable to a lot of us.

There’s no such thing as perfect parenting

So often as moms, we have this desire, whether we're fully conscious of it or not, to never fail our kids.

* To do things perfectly.

* To do it right.

* To do all the things for our kids that our parents didn't do for us.

And it can be easy to think, I'm never going to make those mistakes my parents made. But what I've found is, we have our whole new slew of mistakes that we make.

Sometimes we are unconsciously passing the same things down, but sometimes we're reacting to new situations from our wounded childhood parts.

And so, until we're fully integrated and whole with all the different parts of us that have trauma in our bodies.

* It's normal to make mistakes.

* It's normal to hurt our kids.

It hurts me to say those words. It feels like an oxymoron, like that should not happen.

The idea of hurting my kids is so uncomfortable that it's like physically painful.

And I think that this is common amongst mothers.

So, when this comes up, how do we meet that discomfort? What do we do with that?

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