Many ADHD women move through Thanksgiving with a mix of joy, pressure, sensory overload, and invisible labor that most people never see. This episode offers a grounded, honest look at how the holiday actually feels for neurodivergent women without shame, without judgment, and without telling you how you’re “supposed” to handle it.

Jess and Jeannine explore the very real contrast between the parts of the holiday that feel comforting and the parts that drain us. From early-Christmas dopamine and all-day cooking marathons to childhood split-holidays and overstimulation before noon, they walk through the full spectrum of ADHD holiday experiences with warmth, humor, and compassion.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

The playful chaos of getting into holiday mode early

Why cooking energizes some ADHD women and overwhelms others

How invisible labor shapes the emotional weight of Thanksgiving

Delegating tasks in a way that feels supportive rather than stressful

Building a “Minimum Viable Thanksgiving” that actually fits your nervous system

Setting boundaries that keep the day peaceful, not perfect

Why small or unconventional Thanksgivings count just as much as the traditional ones

How to stay present enough to be part of the memories—not just the labor behind them

This episode is for anyone who wants permission to make Thanksgiving simpler, calmer, and more reflective of how their brain actually works. You’re not alone in the way you experience this season, and you deserve a holiday that gives back more than it takes.

00:00 – Cold Open: Mariah in November & ADHD Holiday Vibes

Ever gone from fine to furious in half a second?

They dive into:

Why cortisol floods ADHD systems faster and sticks around longer

The addictive hit of control you feel mid-rage

What happens during the crash and why shame keeps you stuck

How to interrupt the cortisol loop and step back into calm

This isn’t about managing anger it’s about understanding what your body is actually doing when it thinks it’s in danger.

No shame. No “shoulds.” Just truth, clarity, and compassion.

🎧 Angry on the Inside is where two late diagnosed ADHD women, Jess and Jeannine, talk honestly about the intersection of brain chemistry, identity, and burnout. It’s real talk for women who’ve been told they’re too much, when really they were just running on empty.

00:00 – Fine to Furious in Seconds The ADHD Rage Experience

00:21 – Welcome to Angry on the Inside Real Talk for ADHD Women

00:57 – What ADHD Rage Really Is (and Why It Isn’t Just Anger)

02:23 – Cortisol Explained Your Body’s Stress Alarm System

03:59 – Why Cortisol Feels Like Fuel for the Fire

04:40 – Chemistry First, Reaction Second Reframing ADHD Rage

05:21 – When Triggers Stack Electronics, Traffic, and Tiny Explosions

09:44 – The Crash and Shame Cycle After ADHD Rage

13:07 – Regulation and Recovery Finding Your Exit Ramp

15:54 – You’re Not Broken Just Wired Differently

Jess & Jeannine explore the ADHD tipping point.  The moment everything you’ve been holding together finally slips, and what it really means to rebuild without shame, burnout, or masks.

When ADHD women hit the tipping point, it’s not failure, it’s the truth finally catching up.

In this episode of Angry on the Inside, Jess and Jeannine unpack why coping systems collapse, what “going over the edge” really means, and how to steady yourself when the scaffolding falls away.

From masking fatigue and burnout to the relief and grief of diagnosis, this is the real conversation about ADHD overwhelm that most people don't get to hear.

You’ll hear how life transitions, new jobs, parenthood, perimenopause, or pandemic chaos push many ADHD women to their limit, and how to recognize when that moment is coming again.

✨ What You’ll Hear:

Why ADHD women hit tipping points (and how to see them sooner)

How “structure” and “control” are often different things

The link between burnout, hormones, and executive dysfunction

Relief, grief, and what comes after diagnosis

Why your next tipping point is a checkpoint, not a collapse

Ways to communicate, prepare, and rebuild community support

00:00 – All the Plates Drop

It’s Halloween, the dopamine’s high, and the masks are off, literally and figuratively for ADHD women.

From glow-stick jokes and dirty puns to executive dysfunction and dopamine hits, this episode celebrates the freedom, laughter, and chaos that come when the masks finally drop. It’s explicit, ridiculous, and weirdly validating exactly how AOI does Halloween.

If you’re a late-diagnosed ADHD woman who’s ever loved the ritual, the chaos, or the permission to be someone else for a night, this one’s for you.

Why ADHD women love Halloween (and what dopamine has to do with it)

Masking, unmasking, and the joy of pretending

Chaos, costumes, and permission to be loud

The AOI kind of “After Dark” unfiltered, funny, and a little filthy

This bonus episode is NSFW in the best way. Headphones recommended candy optional.

00:00 – The Neurodivergent Super Bowl

01:01 – Hot Glue Guns and False Starts

01:20 – Masking Meets Costume

02:23 – Legalized Dopamine

03:40 – Glow Sticks and Dirty Jokes

04:23 – The Only Holiday That Doesn’t Demand Happy

06:10 – Belonging in the Weird

For many women with ADHD, burnout doesn’t start with chaos it starts quietly. The slow burn builds in the background as we push harder, over-function, and hold everything together until it all gives way.

In this episode of Angry on the Inside, Jess and Jeannine unpack the hidden signs of the slow burn, the exhaustion you dismiss, the scaffolding you build to stay afloat, and the moment you realize willpower isn’t enough anymore.

Through humor, honesty, and lived experience, they name what ADHD women often don’t recognize: the creeping overwhelm that comes before collapse. If you’ve ever wondered why “holding it together” feels harder every year, this one’s for you.

Topics include: ADHD burnout, late diagnosis, executive-function fatigue, masking, medical gaslighting, and finding self-compassion when the system breaks down.

You’re not alone in this and it’s not just you.

00:00 – Juggling Everything

00:45 – Naming the Slow Burn

01:45 – Jeannine’s Story: Losing Structure

04:03 – Jess’s Story: When the Structure Fades

07:18 – Dopamine and the Disappearing Drive

08:43 – Comparing ADHD Stories

09:53 – When You “Should” Be Happy but Aren’t

11:42 – The Burnout Loop

15:26 – Misdiagnosis and Medical Gaslighting

19:12 – The Shame Cycle

20:00 – Running Out of Willpower

22:03 – The Warning Before Burnout

ADHD women, ADHD burnout, ADHD slow burn, executive dysfunction, masking, medical gaslighting, late-diagnosed ADHD, burnout recovery, neurodivergent exhaustion.

October isn’t quiet for anyone living with ADHD. In Part 2 of “October Is Loud,” Jess and Jeannine continue their deep dive through the month’s overlapping awareness causes. From domestic-violence and bullying prevention to dyslexia, LGBTQ+ visibility, disability employment, and cyber-safety. They connect every theme back to empathy, inclusion, and how visibility changes lives. Thoughtful, grounded, and real. This bonus episode closes the series with compassion and community.

00:00 – Intro & Content Warning

Ever feel like your ADHD brain only runs on two settings? All in or completely shut down. In this episode, Jess and Jeannine dive into the gray space between perfectionism and paralysis. They unpack rest guilt, hyper-independence, and why balance feels impossible for ADHD women. Honest, funny, and validating this conversation is a reminder that rest isn’t lazy, and living in the gray is its own kind of strength.

00:00 – The ADHD All-In or Shut-Down Cycle

00:25 – Welcome to Angry on the Inside

01:14 – Rest vs. Laziness: The Myth That Won’t Die

02:42 – Feeling Perceived: ADHD, Help, and Hyper-Independence

09:31 – Burnout and the Invisible Labor Load

11:37 – Social Media, Comparison, and Negative Independence

11:48 – The Perfectionist Cycle

16:17 – Reframing and Self-Compassion

21:28 – What Else Could Be True? Tools vs. Tricks

22:41 – That’s Not Normal: Turning Rest into Competition

23:57 – Reclaiming the Gray

24:33 – Outro: Still Learning to Live in the Gray

October isn’t just busy it’s loud!

In this bonus episode, Jess and Jeannine look at October through the ADHD lens: from breast cancer awareness and dysautonomia to health literacy, physical therapy, and mental health. They talk about how our bodies, our brains, and a healthcare system built on executive function collide and how self-awareness can become a form of self-advocacy.

It’s honest, a little funny, and full of “oh that’s me” moments.

🩷 Breast Cancer Awareness Month

💙 The Dysautonomia Project

🧘‍♀️ Physical Therapy Awareness Month

📚 Health Literacy Month

🧠 Mental Health Awareness / ADHD Resources

00:00 – October Through the ADHD Lens

00:46 – Breast Cancer Awareness: Executive Function Meets Early Detection

03:10 – Dysautonomia Awareness: The Overlap with ADHD

05:31 – Physical Therapy and the Neurodivergent Body

06:57 – Health Literacy Month: When the System Runs on Executive Function

08:32 – Mental Health Awareness: Depression, Anxiety, and Missed ADHD

10:47 – Outro: The Body, the System, and What Comes Next

Imposter syndrome hits differently for ADHD women especially those diagnosed later in life. In this episode, Jess and Jeannine unpack how perfectionism, people-pleasing, and impossible standards leave us questioning our worth. They talk about masking, burnout, and what it means to finally believe: you’re not the imposter the system is.

Follow @angryontheinside for more candid ADHD conversations and unfiltered stories about late diagnosis, self-compassion, and neurodivergent life.

00:00 – Welcome & Disclaimer: ADHD, Imposter Feelings, and Real Talk

00:36 – What Is Imposter Syndrome in Women with ADHD?

03:02 – Perfectionism, Negativity Bias, and ADHD Self-Doubt

06:21 – Late ADHD Diagnosis and the Cycle of Self-Doubt

08:27 – People-Pleasing, Overachievement, and ADHD Burnout

11:03 – Letting Go of Coping Strategies and Finding Your Voice

13:03 – Masking, Comparison, and Internalized Denial in ADHD

16:31 – That’s Not Normal: Calling Out ADHD Imposter Thoughts

17:24 – Leaning Into ADHD: Diagnosis, Community & Acceptance

21:09 – Rewriting the Narrative: Self-Compassion & ADHD Women

23:32 – Kick Today in the Nuts: The Angry on the Inside Outro

Awareness Month isn’t just hashtags and graphics. It’s about being seen in a world that still misunderstands what ADHD actually looks like, especially for women.

In this bonus episode, Jess and Jeannine get real about the emotional side of visibility: why “awareness” can feel equal parts empowering and terrifying, how perfectionism and masking show up even in advocacy, and what it really means to stand up and say, “Yes, this is ADHD.”

They talk about representation that finally reflects our lived experience, the fear of being misunderstood (again), and the hope that comes from community and connection. Whether you’re loud and proud or still quietly figuring it out, you belong here.

💡 Mentioned in this episode:

ADHD Awareness Month 2025 Theme + Resources: https://www.adhdawarenessmonth.org

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) – ADHD Information: CDC Tool Kit (Partner Across a Lifetime)

Find a Certified ADHD Coach (ACO Directory): ADHD Coaches Organization (ACO)

ADDA – Attention Deficit Disorder Association: https://add.org

🎧 Listen wherever you get your podcasts — and remember: Visibility isn’t vanity. It’s survival.

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