May 15, 2023

230: Aandraya A. revisits

1 hour 7 minutes

🔸 "I can't just be alone" an exile unburdened. Implicit direct access.

🔹 Parts:

P: Figure it out, get the secret information, and you'll feel fine.

P: Task master

P: Eager to move, do, explore

E: 10 year old with a broken leg. Lonely, wanting attention. Not trusting of parents. Mom so busy.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
This is me at the edge of my comfort/confidence, max directiveness. I considered the context: our work together in the past, and on how rarely Aandraya and I talk.

This is not a typical route! I'm making a lot of assumptions and just trusting my understanding of the model to filter the responses she gets. E.g.: I ask "stuck in time?" she quickly responds "no", and I proceed almost as if I heard yes.

Am I bypassing protectors, leading the witness? It's one of the reasons I was asking "is IFS a viable option?" Looking for openness to direct access. Aandraya has reported backlash after parts work. I think it will depend on her time spent with this 10 year old. I'll send her a text in a few days to see how it's going...

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