You know exactly what you should eat. You know you need eight hours of sleep. You know you should move your body. Yet here you are at 10 PM with a pint of ice cream, wondering why you can follow through on work deadlines and family responsibilities but can't stick to your own health goals. The disconnect isn't about willpower—it's about how you talk to yourself when things don't go according to plan.

This week, I'm breaking down how to have actual peace during the holidays with your weight loss goals—not the fake "I'll start in January" peace that's really just procrastination wrapped in holiday lights. You'll discover why your approach to failure determines everything about whether you'll succeed, how the same encouragement you'd give a five-year-old learning to tie shoes is exactly what you need to give yourself, and why your battlefield-like inner self-talk is the real reason you sabotage your own goals. I'll share Brené Brown's marble jar concept and how I adapted it for building self-trust with urges, plus my own vulnerable story about catching myself in diet mentality last Friday even after years of doing this work.

Tune in as I walk you through the three pillars of peaceful goal-setting: making goals with possibility instead of fear, understanding the real science of how your brain and body connect, and implementing practical strategies that actually create change. You'll learn why 99% of diets fail (and why beating yourself up guarantees you'll be part of that statistic), discover the power of accountability partnerships inside my program, and understand why all the Pinterest boards and saved recipes in the world won't create permanent change without addressing your unique baggage.

Ready to stop saying "I'll start in January" and actually mean it? My January course starting January 9th teaches you how to make goals without the failure spiral, or join my lifetime membership program for ongoing support and accountability. Details are HERE!

What You'll Learn in this Episode:

• How your experience with failure shapes your ability to make goals

• The five-year-old shoe-tying analogy: when did you stop letting yourself learn?

• Why your inner dialogue sounds like screaming at a child (and how to stop)

• The connection between Christmas anticipation and post-holiday letdown

• How negative self-talk creates procrastination, people-pleasing, and perfectionism

• Brené Brown's marble jar concept adapted for building self-trust with urges

• Why feelings only come from thoughts (even when circumstances feel urgent)

• Peace-building thoughts: "I can do hard things" and "I haven't figured this out yet"

• Dara's vulnerable Friday story: catching diet mentality after years of coaching

• Why 99% of diets fail and how to be in the 1%

• The power of accountability partners and real-time coaching

• Why Pinterest boards and saved recipes won't create permanent change

• How program connections help women through devastating losses

Stay in touch!

• January goal-setting course (starts January 9th) - https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/permanent-weight-loss-course

• Love Yourself Thin lifetime membership -

  https://daratomasson.com

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