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Have you ever said yes just to avoid an argument? You take it on, you promise you’ll change, you nod along. Even though inside you’re thinking, “I can’t keep doing this.” That’s not weakness. That’s an agreement that needs a closer look.

Last week we shared part one of this two-part series from The Better Love Club on how real connection is created. In part two, we’re looking at what blocks it: unhealthy agreements. We’re sharing these replays while Tom and I are in Italy checking out the venue for our 2026 couples retreat.

A quick note for our Better Love Club community: all student voices have been removed to protect privacy.

This is Love Shack Live, the podcast for people at a relationship crossroads. If daily fights are wearing you down, if the gap keeps growing, and you still want a bond that feels real and lasting, you’re in the right place.

Think about it. Maybe you promised to stop bringing up money. Or to be the one who always texts first. Or to say yes to intimacy when you don’t feel close. On the outside, it looks fine. Inside, it feels heavy and exhausting. Today I’ll show you how to tell when an agreement isn’t serving you and how to shift it without turning it into a blowup.

Today’s question: What happens when you stop saying a tired yes and start speaking one true sentence instead?

We’ll explore:

• The difference between talking and true connection (and why “performing” closeness backfires)
• How to spot the hidden cost of people-pleasing: resentment, shutdown, and that “I’m disappearing” feeling
• Why flexibility in agreements creates safety instead of chaos
• A simple reveal/witness framework to help you change a deal without lighting a match
• Language you can borrow to own your part, name what’s changed, and propose something better

Try this while you listen: Notice where your body says “no” while your mouth says “okay.” That’s your cue to test a more true sentence.

By the end, you’ll have one sentence to replace an exhausted yes. What shifts when you say it out loud?

Ready to Learn What to Say (and Not Say) During Space?

If your partner has asked for space, communication can feel like walking a tightrope. What you say (or don’t say) can make the difference between rebuilding connection or widening the gap.

You have two ways to join me for my “What to Say (and Not Say) During Space” masterclass:

🎥 Watch On Demand Anytime

Get instant access to the 90-minute replay, plus scripts and tools you can use right away.

👉 Watch On Demand ($39): https://stacibartley.com/on-demand-masterclass

📅 Join Me Live: October 18 at 12:00 PM PT

Experience the masterclass live and ask your questions directly. You’ll also get lifetime replay access.

👉 Save Your Seat for the Live Session: https://stacibartley.com/live-masterclass

And if you’re ready to go deeper, check out the 30-Day Love in Limbo Roadmap: a guided journey to help you regulate emotions, rebuild self-trust, and reconnect with clarity during separation. Join here: https://stacibartley.com/30-day-roadmap

Timestamps:

01:39 The Impact of Broken Agreements
05:39 Self-Reflection and Personal Integrity
09:01 The Fear of Flexibility in Relationships
11:50 Commitment vs. Flexibility: Finding Balance
19:13 The Illusion of Stability: Challenging Assumptions
24:13 The Illusion of Logic in Relationships
26:13 Facing Conflict and Disappointment
27:35 The Importance of Revealing and Witnessing
29:37 Creating a Safe Space for Emotional Exchang