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If your partner asked for space and your whole body has been bracing ever since, you are not broken. You’re in survival mode.

On this episode of Love Shack Live, we’re speaking directly to you, the partner who’s been asked for space.

You know that feeling of walking around with your stomach in knots, checking your phone every few minutes, wondering if reaching out will make things worse? You’re not crazy for feeling this way. When someone you love pulls away, your nervous system sounds the alarm. To your body, space feels like danger.

In this episode, we’ll start right where you are, in the middle of the panic and confusion, and show you the first skill that can help you find steady ground again. It’s a simple practice we call Sit Your Butt Down and Breathe, and it’s how we begin every single day inside the Love in Limbo: 30-Day Roadmap.

Before you can repair a relationship, you have to repair your sense of safety. Before you can communicate clearly, you have to calm the noise inside your own body. Until you do, every text, every silence, and every shift in tone will feel like proof that it’s either saved or over.

The question we’ll answer today: How do you give someone space without losing yourself, or the relationship, in the process?

You’ll learn how to tell the difference between giving space and abandoning yourself, how to quiet the inner chaos, and how to start responding from calm instead of reacting from fear.

Episode Resources: 

• If you’re ready to stop spinning and start finding your calm again, join us inside the Love in Limbo: 30-Day Roadmap, the step-by-step journey for rebuilding clarity, confidence, and connection during space: https://stacibartley.com/30-day-roadmap
• Not sure where to start? Take the free Relationship Space Assessment to discover how this space is impacting you, and what to do next: https://space-assessment.scoreapp.com/

Timestamps: 

01:34 Sit Your Butt Down and Breathe: A Guided Practice
04:05 The Importance of Self-Regulation
10:31 Emotional Safety and the Roadmap
12:19 The Dynamics of Space in Relationships
22:05 Anxious vs. Avoidant: Different Coping Mechanisms
31:51 Real Questions from Listeners
36:47 Addressing Confusion in Daily Activities
37:38 Understanding Relationship Drift
39:28 The Importance of Relationship Skills
39:47 Admitting Wrong and Apologizing
41:14 Becoming the Best Version of Yourself
42:40 The Lease Option Contract for Love
43:28 The Reality of Relationship Entropy
45:22 Handling Separation and Emotional Capacity
55:19 Deciding on Divorce or Fighting for Marriage
58:47 Learning to Let Go and Self-Preservation
01:00:07 The Love and Limbo Roadmap
01:04:01 Breathe Like a Badass
01:06:34 Final Thoughts and Resources