June 20, 2023

249: Brandon A. revisits

45 minutes

🔸 Be competent or feel worthless.

🔹 Parts:

P: Competent critic. Fear of failure. Thinks Brandon is 7. Wants to defer to:

P: Distractor, daydreamer planner.

E: Not mattering, worthless.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
In the past I've gotten lost, carried away in our convos. Today I identified the repeated blendedness, and was able to see many fewer parts.

But I was steamrolling, pushing to get through the process, not stopping to check on the emotion I detected in Brandon’s voice. I also might have missed some crucial clues in the targeting, working off my false assumptions. I definitely had an agenda: I wanted us both to try the experience of sticking to the script, just to see where that gets us. I felt like I owed it to Brandon, and to the integrity of the model by-the-book, even if my intuition was pointing elsewhere.

I'd like to find the middle way: leading without disregarding the emotion or taking us off course.

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