In this episode of Life of And, Tiffany sits down with therapist, author, and podcaster Danielle Ireland for a conversation about growth, discomfort, and agency. Danielle shares how confidence is earned in hindsight by moving through what feels hard, plus the mindset shifts that help us tell the difference between being tired on a Wednesday and being out of alignment at a soul level. They explore the traps of external validation and people-pleasing, and how choosing values over ego can look like “editing” your life with truth and kindness.

Tiffany and Danielle also talk about parenting for resilience (letting kids cross the threshold of discomfort), journaling as directed self-dialogue, what it means to be a “pollinator” versus a “jackhammer” in career seasons, setting boundaries without abandoning yourself, and simple ways to create community so growth doesn’t have to feel lonely.

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What You’ll Learn

• How to distinguish temporary friction from signs you need to edit your commitments
• A values-first framework (truth × kindness) for saying clear yeses and noes
• Simple scripts to help kids (and adults) hold big feelings and build real confidence

Connect with Danielle:

Website: https://danielleireland.com/

The Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs podcast: https://danielleireland.com/podcast/

Wrestling a Walrus: A book for little people with big feelings: https://danielleireland.com/wrestling-a-walrus

Treasured: A journal for unearthing you: https://danielleireland.com/journal 

Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro

(01:24) Danielle’s transformative journey and career

(02:20) The power of vulnerability and connection

(03:56) Navigating personal and professional growth

(06:41) Embracing change and overcoming fear

(08:46) The role of therapy and self-discovery

(11:05) Balancing achievement and authenticity

(17:36) The importance of external validation

(19:07) Navigating life’s transitions

(27:18) Ego vs. values-driven decisions

(29:44) Understanding the common denominator in relationships

(30:20) Commitment, clarity, and priorities

(31:10) Discerning loyalty and discomfort

(32:28) The importance of emotional awareness

(34:35) Internal processes vs. external perceptions

(37:41) Parenting and the threshold of discomfort

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