You Are Not Broken

312. The Pleasure Prescription: Vibrators


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In this episode of the You Are Not Broken podcast, Dr. Kelly Casperson sits down with Lara Pack, founder of Elixir Play, to explore why it’s time to take vibrators seriously—as both a pleasure tool and a legitimate part of women’s health.


Lara opens up about her personal journey from navigating painful sex due to endometriosis to creating a high-quality vibrator company focused on thoughtful design and real-world results. Together, they unpack the stigma still surrounding female pleasure, how cultural and religious messaging shapes our understanding of sexuality, and why quality matters more than price when it comes to vibrators.


They also dive into:

  • The surprising interest from men in women's pleasure products
  • Challenges with big-name companies entering the vibrator market
  • The role of communication in improving sexual wellness
  • Why research matters when it comes to vibrators and health outcomes
  • How well-designed pleasure products can meet diverse needs

  • This conversation is a must-listen for anyone ready to challenge outdated norms, elevate the discussion around women's pleasure, and embrace vibrators as a powerful tool for healing, connection, and empowerment.

    🎯 Health & Wellness
    • Vibrators can play a significant role in women's health and wellness.
    • Research shows vibrators can improve pelvic health.
    • The experience of using a vibrator is both psychological and physiological.
    • There is a need for more studies on the health benefits of vibrators.
    • Personal Empowerment & Stigma
      • Lara’s journey to creating Elixir Play was influenced by her own pain and stigma.
      • Many customers share stories of healing and empowerment through vibrator use.
      • Empowering women to explore their pleasure supports overall well-being.
      • Education is essential for breaking down sexual health and pleasure stigma.
      • Cultural and religious backgrounds shape perceptions of sexuality and pleasure.
      • Stigmas often stem from concerns about male partners' feelings.
      • 🛠 Product Quality & Industry Insight
        • Quality and customer service are crucial in the vibrator industry.
        • Investing in well-designed products enhances the experience of pleasure.
        • Big companies often prioritize profit over product quality and authenticity.
        • Designing pleasure products should consider individual anatomy and preferences.
        • 💬 Communication & Shifting Perspectives
          • Communication about pleasure is key to sexual satisfaction.
          • Vibrators can enhance sexual experiences for both partners.
          • A growing number of men are purchasing vibrators, showing a shift in attitudes toward women's pleasure.
          • The conversation around female pleasure is evolving but still faces barriers.
          • Understanding the science of pleasure helps destigmatize its use.

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