Conversations from the Heart

#32 - How Do I Break My Freeze Response When I Hear A Racist Comment ... and more.


Listen Later

Empathy is a vital tool in our communication arsenal, allowing us to connect profoundly with others. It’s not merely about sympathizing with someone's situation but genuinely stepping into their shoes, understanding their emotions, and reflecting that understanding back to them. However, empathy alone isn't always enough, especially when faced with challenging dialogues that require us to assert our boundaries and viewpoints. This is where strength must accompany our compassionate approach, enabling us to express ourselves confidently and honestly without invalidating the other person's feelings.

Assertiveness is not about aggression; rather, it’s about clarity and respect—for ourselves and others. It’s about stating what we need and what we stand for without encroaching on another person's space. It is about respecting old and new boundaries while maintaining a loving and supportive connection.

Show notes:
(3:17) How do I deal with freezing when I want to stand up for someone or myself?
(14:38) How do I increase self-compassion and decrease self-judgment?
(22:34) What questions should I ask to avoid intellectualizing and instead get in touch with my emotions?
(30:37) How do I set up having an empathy partner?
(37:55) How should we respond when our child shares a life change but only wants our agreement or positive reaction?
(49:07) Showing gratitude and sharing how the conversation has provided learning
(53:25) Outro

To take advantage of today's Flash Sale, go to nvcacademy.com and get Naturalizing NVC: Authentic, Easy, Flowing Speech for 50% off


For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection

Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care.

You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans.

Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com.

Here are more ways to connect with me:

  • Join the School of Human Connection
  • Hop on my free Wednesday live call
  • Follow me on YouTube
...more
View all episodesView all episodes
Download on the App Store

Conversations from the HeartBy Yvette Erasmus

  • 4.9
  • 4.9
  • 4.9
  • 4.9
  • 4.9

4.9

47 ratings


More shows like Conversations from the Heart

View all
TED Radio Hour by NPR

TED Radio Hour

21,940 Listeners

Hidden Brain by Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam

Hidden Brain

43,632 Listeners

The Moth by The Moth

The Moth

27,024 Listeners

The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & Purpose by Eric Zimmer

The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & Purpose

2,569 Listeners

Jill on Money with Jill Schlesinger by Audacy

Jill on Money with Jill Schlesinger

1,947 Listeners

Tara Brach by Tara Brach

Tara Brach

10,597 Listeners

Good Life Project by Jonathan Fields / Acast

Good Life Project

3,378 Listeners

The Terri Cole Show by Terri Cole

The Terri Cole Show

1,406 Listeners

Sounds True: Insights at the Edge by Tami Simon

Sounds True: Insights at the Edge

1,894 Listeners

10% Happier with Dan Harris by 10% Happier

10% Happier with Dan Harris

12,739 Listeners

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson by Rick Hanson, Ph.D., Forrest Hanson

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

2,533 Listeners

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel by Esther Perel Global Media

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

14,962 Listeners

Everything Happens with Kate Bowler by Everything Happens Studios

Everything Happens with Kate Bowler

5,143 Listeners

We Can Do Hard Things by Treat Media and Glennon Doyle

We Can Do Hard Things

41,523 Listeners

Wiser Than Me with Julia Louis-Dreyfus by Lemonada Media

Wiser Than Me with Julia Louis-Dreyfus

10,743 Listeners