Conversations from the Heart

#32 - How Do I Break My Freeze Response When I Hear A Racist Comment ... and more.


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Empathy is a vital tool in our communication arsenal, allowing us to connect profoundly with others. It’s not merely about sympathizing with someone's situation but genuinely stepping into their shoes, understanding their emotions, and reflecting that understanding back to them. However, empathy alone isn't always enough, especially when faced with challenging dialogues that require us to assert our boundaries and viewpoints. This is where strength must accompany our compassionate approach, enabling us to express ourselves confidently and honestly without invalidating the other person's feelings.

Assertiveness is not about aggression; rather, it’s about clarity and respect—for ourselves and others. It’s about stating what we need and what we stand for without encroaching on another person's space. It is about respecting old and new boundaries while maintaining a loving and supportive connection.

Show notes:
(3:17) How do I deal with freezing when I want to stand up for someone or myself?
(14:38) How do I increase self-compassion and decrease self-judgment?
(22:34) What questions should I ask to avoid intellectualizing and instead get in touch with my emotions?
(30:37) How do I set up having an empathy partner?
(37:55) How should we respond when our child shares a life change but only wants our agreement or positive reaction?
(49:07) Showing gratitude and sharing how the conversation has provided learning
(53:25) Outro

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