November 21, 2023

327: Bee A. revisits

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1 hour 4 minutes

🔸 Balancing the numbers: health, money, appearance.

control and balance “Get the right numbers”. Rigid. She’s very close to hurry. There isn’t a moment of solace. she’s in a factory with a bunch of imbeciles. If she doesn’t work so hard, the other one will eat sugar all day and turn to shit...

15yo: and then we would be a burden. We have to rely on others. Got compliments from father, wanted his attention, but terrified of his attention. I want to be well, I want to be pretty, but I’m afraid to. Covering her body. What number do you want? Looking for a hoop to jump through. trying so hard to get it right. Obey or die.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Felt like that first part “can’t get it right” was exile, I think I played it ok. Re exile, I've gone this route before, of just throwing it out there, when there is more witnessing/redoing to do. Feels alright. Would love feedback!

# exile unburdened

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November 21, 2023

327: Bee A. revisits

Listen Later

1 hour 4 minutes

🔸 Balancing the numbers: health, money, appearance.

control and balance “Get the right numbers”. Rigid. She’s very close to hurry. There isn’t a moment of solace. she’s in a factory with a bunch of imbeciles. If she doesn’t work so hard, the other one will eat sugar all day and turn to shit...

15yo: and then we would be a burden. We have to rely on others. Got compliments from father, wanted his attention, but terrified of his attention. I want to be well, I want to be pretty, but I’m afraid to. Covering her body. What number do you want? Looking for a hoop to jump through. trying so hard to get it right. Obey or die.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Felt like that first part “can’t get it right” was exile, I think I played it ok. Re exile, I've gone this route before, of just throwing it out there, when there is more witnessing/redoing to do. Feels alright. Would love feedback!

# exile unburdened

-----
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😀Come chat with us: Discord

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