🔸 Triggered. "When I was 5 I liked to tie my belt so tight..."

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

Obviously my own parts are triggered at start of call (yes, published with approval). We're "just chatting"; I'm not asking those parts of me for space. But plenty of missteps.

I kept trying to call on my curiosity in the beginning but … fitness *does* prevent chaos, create safety. I'm trying to get clear on what parts are involved. And after her story my parts are saying "How awful! Let’s both put down the IFS, stop looking for childhood connections...”

Then I'm yielding to the story teller. I'd like to address it more directly, but fortunately I think it merely slows us down, doesn’t stop us.

When she very first mentioned that 5 year-old, it stuck out to me as a part/memory we had not encountered before. For the next 20-30 minutes she's searching for parts to change her relationship with, and I'm stopping myself from suggesting: how about we go and see about that five-year-old. I'm celebrating my noticing/intuition, but also wishing I spoke for it sooner.

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